bab Posted January 17, 2007 Posted January 17, 2007 Last night my H was playing basketball with some friends from work. One of the guys collapsed. My H gave him CPR while the medics were on their way. Unfortunately they never got his heart restarted and he died. He was only 31 with no prior known heart conditions. My H said he was one of the most physically fit guys there, and one of the only ones that wasn't huffing and puffing it up and down the court all night. It was all very sudden. We have no idea what time is granted us. Don't put off telling the ones you love how much they mean to you.
magichands Posted January 17, 2007 Posted January 17, 2007 We have no idea what time is granted us. Don't put off telling the ones you love how much they mean to you. Bab, try to remember to comb your hair. You wouldn't want to be... ummm... "remembered" like that, would you? I'm sure you opt for clean underwear, though, so I will leave it at that. Oh, and be careful. Generally. Don't try to solve too many equations at once - that sort of thing.
Sassy Posted January 17, 2007 Posted January 17, 2007 Sorry to hear that Bab. You just never know when your time is up. I am learning to live life to the fullest and not be so angry all the time. I am learning to be thankful of my health and what I have. Some people don't have the things I do. It makes you see things in a different light. I was mad at the world after my miscarriage but it made me realise I am lucky that I have a healthy 7yr old daughter.
Author bab Posted January 17, 2007 Author Posted January 17, 2007 Bab, try to remember to comb your hair. You wouldn't want to be... ummm... "remembered" like that, would you? I'm sure you opt for clean underwear, though, so I will leave it at that. Oh, and be careful. Generally. Don't try to solve too many equations at once - that sort of thing. Words to live by...words to live by... You always make me grin. Sassy -- We have so many things to be thankful for, and it's a gift when we realize it and stop taking them from granted. I'm glad that you seem to be doing well after your loss. I'm sure Sassy will help be a comfort as well!!
PandorasBox Posted January 17, 2007 Posted January 17, 2007 Sorry to hear bab, thats awful. You're right you never know when its your time. I myself am doing some spiritual cleansing so to speak. I am learning more and more each day how to take things and how to try to react to things etc. Part of that process for me, is to make sure I make amends with people I have not spoken too or on the outs with, because you never know. It made me feel better to make amends and know that I truly did all I could for whatever situation that was going on in my life. To be free and truly have a new persepective on things is too forgive and make amends, because we may not get that chance if it were to late.
Pyro Posted January 17, 2007 Posted January 17, 2007 Last night my H was playing basketball with some friends from work. One of the guys collapsed. My H gave him CPR while the medics were on their way. Unfortunately they never got his heart restarted and he died. He was only 31 with no prior known heart conditions. My H said he was one of the most physically fit guys there, and one of the only ones that wasn't huffing and puffing it up and down the court all night. It was all very sudden. We have no idea what time is granted us. Don't put off telling the ones you love how much they mean to you. I am so sorry for your H's loss. One of my best friends just lost his dad from the same result, but he was a little older (42). You are right that life is short and our time could be over at anytime. I sure as heck don't take anything for granted. That is why I don't waste my time worrying over too many things. I make each and everyday count for the best and for everyone that contributes to that, I let them know.
Author bab Posted January 17, 2007 Author Posted January 17, 2007 I talked to my H and it sounds like the company has hired some grief counselors to come in today. H didn't know if he was going to talk to them or not. I hope that he does. He isn't blaming himself but he is questioning if there was more he could've done. I do know that it has opened my eyes to the fact that I take some things in my life for granted and I will be making an effort to correct that.
Darkwall Posted January 17, 2007 Posted January 17, 2007 I'm sorry for your H's loss. It was most definately a shock as well as a scare. There is no warning and that is what makes some of us fear death so much. Look at it this way... his family and friends can rest assured that he died with a smile on his face. Unless he was losing. I understand what one thing has to do with the other and you're absolutely right. It's sad though that this is the sort of thing it takes to make us recognize that. And then we eventually get so caught up in our lives we forget to do just that. Your husband did what he could and should not feel any guilt. When it's our time it's our time. Cheer up.
Craig Posted January 17, 2007 Posted January 17, 2007 I talked to my H and it sounds like the company has hired some grief counselors to come in today. H didn't know if he was going to talk to them or not. I hope that he does. He isn't blaming himself but he is questioning if there was more he could've done. Please tell your husband there isn't more that he could have done, the survival rates for out of the hospital cardiac arrest with CPR started right away are the range of 6% to 30% to admission and even less to discharge. And that's if the victim didn't have any other underlying medical issues complicating things. Contrast that with the overall television CPR success rate of 75% to 85% and you can see why some people believe CPR should nearly always work. I was in your husbands shoes once, the guy died. I felt really bad about it, wondered if there was anything else I could have done, I felt almost guilty for a few years. Then I learned what the success rate of CPR is and now feel that I did what I could with what I had at the time and made the best decisions I could at the time. Besides, the guy had already had a number of heart attacks and this was a big one that killed him. Here's my story http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showpost.php?p=504491&postcount=8
Love Hurts Posted January 18, 2007 Posted January 18, 2007 Last night my H was playing basketball with some friends from work. One of the guys collapsed. My H gave him CPR while the medics were on their way. Unfortunately they never got his heart restarted and he died. He was only 31 with no prior known heart conditions. My H said he was one of the most physically fit guys there, and one of the only ones that wasn't huffing and puffing it up and down the court all night. It was all very sudden. We have no idea what time is granted us. Don't put off telling the ones you love how much they mean to you. Bab, I’m sorry for the loss of your friend. You are so right….we shouldn’t put off telling the ones we love how much they mean to us. Likewise we have no idea what time is granted us. As one by one…we slip into eternity. God its so good to know where we are headed. When we belong to Jesus. For those that belong to Satan…they will meet the god of their lives on earth. One day is just as good as the next until there are no more days to live and choose freely. I Praise Jesus for those that cross over to life eternal in a Praise Jesus of their own! I feel sad for those that will cross over to life eternal in a scream of their own! God Bless
Author bab Posted January 18, 2007 Author Posted January 18, 2007 Please tell your husband there isn't more that he could have done, the survival rates for out of the hospital cardiac arrest with CPR started right away are the range of 6% to 30% to admission and even less to discharge. And that's if the victim didn't have any other underlying medical issues complicating things. Contrast that with the overall television CPR success rate of 75% to 85% and you can see why some people believe CPR should nearly always work. I was in your husbands shoes once, the guy died. I felt really bad about it, wondered if there was anything else I could have done, I felt almost guilty for a few years. Then I learned what the success rate of CPR is and now feel that I did what I could with what I had at the time and made the best decisions I could at the time. Besides, the guy had already had a number of heart attacks and this was a big one that killed him. Here's my story http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showpost.php?p=504491&postcount=8 Craig--Thank you so much for your story. You are right, I had no idea that CPR was so ineffective. I will share this with my H tonight.
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