amiatrouble Posted January 17, 2007 Posted January 17, 2007 i had a tough day today. got a company letter from my boss this morning regarding my performance for the past one year, things have not been good, and, although i know that i am not going to getting good rank for this time, but i am still disturb by that. seriously someone to talk to, to comfort myself, the only person i can think of its my ex(so call, we still in contact, but his attention is not there anymore) i text him, asked him whether he is free to talk now, no reply and no call. then i text again said i got letter from my boss to day. no reply still. so i am double upset cos i have no one who i can talk to. so i went to shopping and spend money.. didnt spend so much thou. no call from him untill 5pm, and i got a missed call from him when i was away from my desk. i didnt call back, but i can feel that i am so much better knowing that he did called me back. when he called me again half an hour later, he didnt really mention anything abt the msg that i texted him. now i am wonder, is he not concern at all? he told me that he is going away for 3 weeks tomorrow, asking if i want to do dinner tonight, i know i shdn't meet him when he is rushing, i know that i will ended up double upset. but i still go out with him... he came and pick me up at my office, and we had a quick dinner... he didnt really talk to me about what i am upset abt, and wasn't paying any attention on me during this 2 hours... he didnt quite concern whats going on to me lately, eventhough i told him that i am shifting out to a new place, and he didnt respond anything to me. dinner ended up very badly, we went back the diff way, he will usually ask me to go over to his place when he going on this long trip, but he didnt this time. i am ended up regret that i met him, especially i am not in a good mood, and he is in the rush. i told him that he shodn't have meet me if he is so rush, he said sorry about the rush. i feel soooo bad now, and sooo upset that he didnt concern abt me anymore. more upset that his behaviour tonight than my letter. just realise i am so affected by him still even i tried to focus! yes, i am still hope that one day we would be back together, but it doesnt work the way i wish. am i a paranoid? to think that he so not concern abt me everytime he not responding to me? i dont know how shd i tell him the NC. but afraid that he will never come back. love cant force, but i thought i can put in a little bit effort to shows him that i care. shd i just dont answer his call anymore? no reply to his call, his msg? or shd i tell him that i want a NC to get over him? what is the best way?
sunangel Posted January 17, 2007 Posted January 17, 2007 I'm gonna be real honest with you........ This guy seems to me like he doesn't feel the same for you anymore. That would explain his casual behavior and not even asking if your alright about that text message you wrote him. Men are very simple they either like you or don't. If he's asked you to his place before a trip, and now he doesn't, than that's because he really didn't want you to go. I am just telling you this, so you can realize that "He's just not that into you" it's a hard phrase to grasp, but the truth is the truth. Save yourself heartache and stress! Find someone who will take LONG lunches and WILL invite you to their place afterwards! Best of luck to you!
Author amiatrouble Posted January 17, 2007 Author Posted January 17, 2007 thanks sunangle, i have been telling myself now that ,maybe he is not that into me anymore.. but whenever i see this sentence, my heart just went cool! its kind of strong sentence, but i think if its really real, i have to accept no matter what. but, by any chance he will have feelings for me again? he just msg to me now that "i am concerned about you, goodnight" what is this? why is that when i wanted to pull out and he come back and leave a little hope for me? why cant he leave me in peace? when come to no contact, shd i tell him that i want to NC just to get over him? or i just ignore his msg and call, not respond to him at all and dun even explaint to him why?
L-FUZZ Posted January 17, 2007 Posted January 17, 2007 if you want to go into NC ,, you dont tell them you are,, you just do it. Leaves you to be more of a mystery. and helps you get over them.
Author amiatrouble Posted January 17, 2007 Author Posted January 17, 2007 could anyone help? shd i tell him or shd i just ignore? a replied is a great help to me, couldn't get a good sleep at all.
jusified Posted January 18, 2007 Posted January 18, 2007 its going to be hard to hear but here goes. You've been contactin him and he is genuinely concerned about your mental well being. It doesn't mean his at all interested and have any feelings for you and probably won't. Its hard but just do things out side of work to keep busy and make new friends and meet people.
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