CaliGuy Posted January 17, 2007 Posted January 17, 2007 A few months ago I received a message via a class reunion web site. It was someone I knew in HS. She was a few years older than me and not someone I was paricularly interested in. She apparently had a crush on me. She wrote me an email which I never replied to not understanding why she would contact me. She's married with three kids. Today, she found me through a different channel (my web site) and emailed me again. I didn't ignore her this time. She told me how she has thought about me EVERY DAY (I find that hard to believe) since high school. I never knew she had a crush on me. While I am flattered, at the same time, I'm kind of weirded out. She's married and most certainly not my type. We barely knew each other. What do you suppose would drive her to seek me out, make contact then spill her guts out like that?
jusified Posted January 17, 2007 Posted January 17, 2007 Ohhh stop talking yourself up and get over your self Cali, hahaha only joking mate. But its probably because shes having a really rough patch in life atm. How long have you been out of HS? Anyways, she sounds like she's got issues, shes married with kids. Plus, if you had a crushon someone from school you would do something about it and its not healthy to just thnk about someone all the timeand not do anything about it.
princessa Posted January 17, 2007 Posted January 17, 2007 Oh man, that lady needs to get a life. She certainly sounds deranged. If I were you I would ignore her for safety reasons. Seriously, better be safe than to get your curiosity satisfied in this case. Stalkers are sick people.
whichwayisup Posted January 17, 2007 Posted January 17, 2007 While I am flattered, at the same time, I'm kind of weirded out. She's married and most certainly not my type. We barely knew each other. What do you suppose would drive her to seek me out, make contact then spill her guts out like that? She's probably unhappy in her marriage and wanted to see if you were available. Did you write her back? Cuz you gotta tell her thanks, but no thanks.
dropdeadlegs Posted January 17, 2007 Posted January 17, 2007 She's probably unhappy in her marriage and wanted to see if you were available. Did you write her back? Cuz you gotta tell her thanks, but no thanks. I agree with WWIU. Those class reunion sites are cool in a way, it's natural to wonder what became of some people, especially those you once cared about. I had a similar experience when I contacted my high school boyfriend through Classmates. I sincerely wondered how his life had progressed and when he responded he said things like "when I look at my children I wish they were yours." It weirded me out to say the least. I changed my email address and never looked back. I have never again looked at the email address I had used on that website. I might be missing out on contact from former friends, but that was a lifetime ago anyway.
Author CaliGuy Posted January 17, 2007 Author Posted January 17, 2007 She wrote me this morning. I guess apparently I was her first love and she wanted to know what happened to me. She doesn't sound like she is trying to stalk me or anything -- at least not right now. haha. I mean, just to age myself, my 20 year HS reunion is this year. She was a couple years older so I am not worried about her being there but still. Haha. How odd is that? She lives in Kansas so I'm not worried about her finding me. I live far enough away in "kauli-4-ni-aye" that it won't be an issue. DDL: I don't blame you, that would have freaked me out as well! So that brings up another question. Have you ever been stalked? I have once, not a cool feeling. Not at all.
2sunny Posted January 17, 2007 Posted January 17, 2007 So that brings up another question. Have you ever been stalked? I have once, not a cool feeling. Not at all. The short answer is yes... several times. I keep my guard up now and also took a self defense class....
a4a Posted January 17, 2007 Posted January 17, 2007 Yeah......... I was again recently stalked. Who the hell do these people think they are to intrude in my life. I simply told him I have no interest in revisiting the past with him or any of my non current friends from that era. I could really give a rip who is married, who has kids, or who bought a boat. Unless they want to give me a boat.
princessa Posted January 17, 2007 Posted January 17, 2007 So that brings up another question. Have you ever been stalked? I have once, not a cool feeling. Not at all. I have been stalked twice in highschool and once in university. So I don't take any more chances. I've become really paranoid. No mypace, msn spage, web page, blog for me.. and I try not to give out my cell phone number either.
blind_otter Posted January 17, 2007 Posted January 17, 2007 I've been stalked by an exboyfriend and by his mother. TO be honest the mother was creepier than the exboyfriend.
tinktronik Posted January 17, 2007 Posted January 17, 2007 I've been stalked by an exboyfriend and by his mother. TO be honest the mother was creepier than the exboyfriend. I've been stalked by my own mother . Now that was creepy , and no one takes it seriously.
dropdeadlegs Posted January 17, 2007 Posted January 17, 2007 Cali, her saying that you were her first love, even though you say you barely knew each other , is pretty freaky! Good thing she is far away! I was my high school BF's first love, and he is far away too! Yes, I would characterize what my ex husband did as being stalked. HE effectively (very effectively, I must add) made the move that ended the marriage very abruptly. For nearly a year, he would show up whenever I went somewhere public. He would harass me and those I was with. I know it bothered some of my friends to be put in the middle of our (his) problem, but most stuck by me and just found his intrusions irritating. He would be in my driveway when I returned home even though I had a legal order barring it (for all the good that was worth, what a joke.) I went to a wedding, one he wasn't invited to, and he told me of my every move while there. I once awoke in the middle of the night to find him standing in the dark staring at me. It was downright scary. I was beginning to believe he could be one of those people who kill their former spouse AND the children in the mindset that if he can't have them nobody will. Because he had never threatened me with physical harm, all the legal system would do was escort him off the property and tell him not to go near me again. I went through that multiple times. He was drinking a lot and it seemed that the alcohol made him lose any rational thought and inhibitions. He did eventually cease and about six months later he died in a drowning accident. I'm not sure what made him finally stop, but as horrible as it sounds for me to say it, I was relieved when he died. I was relieved that it was truly over and he couldn't frighten me anymore. I grieved for my children, but I feared for them at one time too.
blind_otter Posted January 17, 2007 Posted January 17, 2007 I've been stalked by my own mother . Now that was creepy , and no one takes it seriously. No fair, I take it seriously. Your mom is wack. I'm scared of her.
tinktronik Posted January 17, 2007 Posted January 17, 2007 No fair, I take it seriously. Your mom is wack. I'm scared of her. Yep , and she lives not far from you . Its okay , if she comes after you well all go "camping "together untill she leaves.
Author CaliGuy Posted January 17, 2007 Author Posted January 17, 2007 Cali, her saying that you were her first love, even though you say you barely knew each other , is pretty freaky! Good thing she is far away! I was my high school BF's first love, and he is far away too! Yes, I would characterize what my ex husband did as being stalked. HE effectively (very effectively, I must add) made the move that ended the marriage very abruptly. For nearly a year, he would show up whenever I went somewhere public. He would harass me and those I was with. I know it bothered some of my friends to be put in the middle of our (his) problem, but most stuck by me and just found his intrusions irritating. He would be in my driveway when I returned home even though I had a legal order barring it (for all the good that was worth, what a joke.) I went to a wedding, one he wasn't invited to, and he told me of my every move while there. I once awoke in the middle of the night to find him standing in the dark staring at me. It was downright scary. I was beginning to believe he could be one of those people who kill their former spouse AND the children in the mindset that if he can't have them nobody will. Because he had never threatened me with physical harm, all the legal system would do was escort him off the property and tell him not to go near me again. I went through that multiple times. He was drinking a lot and it seemed that the alcohol made him lose any rational thought and inhibitions. He did eventually cease and about six months later he died in a drowning accident. I'm not sure what made him finally stop, but as horrible as it sounds for me to say it, I was relieved when he died. I was relieved that it was truly over and he couldn't frighten me anymore. I grieved for my children, but I feared for them at one time too. Ouch. Do you think he drowned or just committed suicide?
dropdeadlegs Posted January 17, 2007 Posted January 17, 2007 Ouch. Do you think he drowned or just committed suicide? I have asked myself that question. Based on his blood alcohol count, the kids sure didn't get the double indemnity due to accidental death from the insurance policy. The claims adjuster certainly expressed that he contributed to his own death. His BAC was .349, over 4 times the legal limit. The autopsy listed acute alcohol intoxication second only to asphyxiation by drowning as the causes of death. By witness accounts, he was driving a boat recklessly, threw everyone overboard in a sudden turn, and was quite possibly struck by the motor craft when it proceeded into what was called a "death spiral" due to non-use of the kill switch attachment to his person. That's what the wildlife and fisheries accident report states in a nutshell. The men he was with stated that they tried to reach him and pull him to safety, but what I infer is that he was either too intoxicated to help himself, or that he was knocked unconscious by the boat hitting him when he surfaced from being thrown from the vehicle. I suppose you could call his death an accidental suicide.
whichwayisup Posted January 17, 2007 Posted January 17, 2007 I guess apparently I was her first love and she wanted to know what happened to me How the F could you have been her first love? Uhm, first loves involve TWO people in a relationship...Sounds like her crush on you was more of an obsession and fantasy in her head.
tinktronik Posted January 17, 2007 Posted January 17, 2007 How the F could you have been her first love? Uhm, first loves involve TWO people in a relationship...Sounds like her crush on you was more of an obsession and fantasy in her head. Obsessive Fantasy? Geeze give the girl a break . Isn't she just saying hi . She had a crush on him ect . No biggie . It just suddenly sounded as if she was some Sharon Stone stalker following him around for like 22 years without his knowledge . Anyway .. uh yeah.
whichwayisup Posted January 17, 2007 Posted January 17, 2007 Ok, it's possible her wording is wrong and I'm taking it the wrong way like CG has too. Maybe she's meaning, I had a crush on you in school, meaning you were my first crush - But not "first love" and I'm really just wanting to say hi. Either way, it's made him feel weird and uncomfortable.........
Author CaliGuy Posted January 17, 2007 Author Posted January 17, 2007 No. She said "first love." Here, I'll post an exerpt of what she wrote me: I'm still married to we have had our ups and downs but what marriage hasn't. But that is enouth about me. But I have always talked about you to my daughter and told her about my first love that i hope she has one like i did. Well she is 13 and my son is 20 hard to belive huh. Well you have always been in my thoughts. And no matter what you will always be in my heart friend last for ever I hope I haven't bored you OH yea I showed my daughter your pic and she told me that you were cute. lol so see you still have the looks I can't belive that I finally found you. But again I didn't think you would know who I was. But I'm glad that you do. Hope to you will want to stay in touch and keep writing each other. I would like that alot. Stalker, weird or what?
whichwayisup Posted January 17, 2007 Posted January 17, 2007 I'm still married to we have had our ups and downs but what marriage hasn't. But that is enouth about me. But I have always talked about you to my daughter and told her about my first love that i hope she has one like i did. Well she is 13 and my son is 20 hard to belive huh. Well you have always been in my thoughts. And no matter what you will always be in my heart friend last for ever I hope I haven't bored you OH yea I showed my daughter your pic and she told me that you were cute. lol so see you still have the looks I can't belive that I finally found you. But again I didn't think you would know who I was. But I'm glad that you do. Hope to you will want to stay in touch and keep writing each other. I would like that alot. Are you sure she's not mistaken you for someone else? It just seems the way she is talking that you were a HUGE influence in her life, someone she has held close to her heart...Talking to her 13 year old daughter about you??? Yeah, that's just weird in itself....Showing her daugher pics of you? WTF........ *THEN reading the rest, "but then again, I didn't think you would know who I was..." Yeah, she's not playing with a full deck of cards. Have you written her back yet and if so, what did you say?
dropdeadlegs Posted January 17, 2007 Posted January 17, 2007 I gotta go with weird. She has shown her daughter your picture and described you as her first love? That's weird to me. Pulling out the old yearbook and showing your daughter who you thought was cute in high school is different. Maybe she is using the wrong terminology, and I doubt she is a stalker, but weird? Definitely. You barely knew her and didn't share her feelings! You didn't even know she had those feelings. This is kinda strange, I just got an email alert that a "Greg" left me a message for me on myspace. Turns out we graduated together! But he was letting me know there is a reunion planned this summer, and we both acknowledged that we don't remember one another. I guess I opened up that door again because I did list my high school on myspace. Oh well, if anything creepy happens I can disable my page, but for now I'll let sleeping dogs lie.
Author CaliGuy Posted January 17, 2007 Author Posted January 17, 2007 I'm not writing her back. I have this eerie feeling she is obsessed over me or something. Sheesh, that was 20 years ago. I never dated her. I think we kissed or something but I was like 15 years old. She sent another message bringing up some incident between her and I back then. Remember, I was 15. I still don't know what she wants or what she is up to. And I thought taking 6-8 months healing over my ex was a long time -- and we DATED for 2+ years. This girl barely knew me and has been hanging on for 20 years. "That just ain't right, knowwhutImean?!"
tinktronik Posted January 17, 2007 Posted January 17, 2007 I'm not writing her back. I have this eerie feeling she is obsessed over me or something. Sheesh, that was 20 years ago. I never dated her. I think we kissed or something but I was like 15 years old. She sent another message bringing up some incident between her and I back then. Remember, I was 15. I still don't know what she wants or what she is up to. And I thought taking 6-8 months healing over my ex was a long time -- and we DATED for 2+ years. This girl barely knew me and has been hanging on for 20 years. "That just ain't right, knowwhutImean?!"Maybe you were her first kiss? I still remember my first kiss , couldn't tell you what his last name was though .
Author CaliGuy Posted January 17, 2007 Author Posted January 17, 2007 Maybe you were her first kiss? I still remember my first kiss , couldn't tell you what his last name was though . Maybe. But not only does she remember who I am, she tracked me down. That's what creeps me out. If you know my name you can find me pretty easily. Don't foget %$ zabbasearch, which should be illegal IMHO. If she wanted to show up at my door, all she'd have to do is search on Zabba and she'd find me.
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