luvestinks Posted January 17, 2007 Posted January 17, 2007 Well I found out I was her rebound guy bout a week ago, I know because she told me over the phone. I never been so hurt in my life, I gave her everything I had, and was willing to get her the moon if she asked me for it. It makes me sick how sad I am; don’t know what to do what to think. We had been together a year now. She had this boyfriend before me he was like 7 years younger than her. She told me he hurt her so much and she always come back to him. Then she said she met me and I loved her like none other, and she did too, we had our problems like anybody else. I as so happy with her. She has 3 kids and I love them. during the holidays we was broke so for her kids top have a good Christmas I sold my computer, TV, they had so much gifts and it made her so happy I dint care I dint get anything. here is the sad part she started changing on me, the little thing she use to tell me she love me before going to bed , if I cut my fingers she would make it better, then she became so cold with me no hugs, kisses, hold hands, nothing like that. So I finally confront her and asked her what was wrong is there someone else, did I do some thing wrong, she said no. We did some more talking and she said she had something to tell me, so I was oh no what is it..... then she told me the only reason she got with me it was her last man hurt her and she wanted to get back at someone, to make her self feel better, and it work... if feel like I was run over by a truck and it still dragging me it hurts so bad,, I don’t sleep, eat.. I cry all the time. I feel so worthless. I tried the going out thing, meeting people, but I was really in love. I was going to propose to her on the 25 of Jan.. im so sad
Lostandfound Posted January 17, 2007 Posted January 17, 2007 Hey life is cruel like that, I really feel for you. What a terrible thing to have happen to you, playing with your emotions like this. I often wondered whether this had happened to me, my ex ended with me, after all the same sort of stuff, and then went cold. She had come out of what she called a bad ending relationship 6 months before she met me. But in my case she hasnt said this to me just that for now, she is not ready again. I would kick her into touch mate, nothing else would do, she has destroyed your life, your soul, and it stinks. I am so sorry for you, there are lots of peole on here that will help you, me included, to get over this
Author luvestinks Posted January 17, 2007 Author Posted January 17, 2007 Hey life is cruel like that, I really feel for you. What a terrible thing to have happen to you, playing with your emotions like this. I often wondered whether this had happened to me, my ex ended with me, after all the same sort of stuff, and then went cold. She had come out of what she called a bad ending relationship 6 months before she met me. But in my case she hasnt said this to me just that for now, she is not ready again. I would kick her into touch mate, nothing else would do, she has destroyed your life, your soul, and it stinks. I am so sorry for you, there are lots of peole on here that will help you, me included, to get over this thank you i really hope i can get over this,, the sad part is that i miss her so much
most Posted January 17, 2007 Posted January 17, 2007 i am sad for u & sad for me. my story is the same as well. i hope u heal soon...like i am trying. doesn't just knock ur confidence out from under u? i keep trying to tell myself its his loss...he wanted to be "friends" i told him i couldn't cause i didn't have it in me. i feel so stupid. god when is this going to end. whats honest anymore...did he lie, just to score? all these things run thru my head 1000 times a day.why do we stick here with all this grief, i hope u heal soon. i hope i do to as well...i hope just get thru one day without all this. i hate this crying, needy person that i have become.its not my best quality...i gave him and best and look what he did with it. he trashed it.
sunangel Posted January 17, 2007 Posted January 17, 2007 Let me just say that you are a wonderful guy! Any girl would be lucky to have you! And i know right now your feeling so down that you don't wanna hear this, but it's true. Realize that your a good person with a good heart, and that MONSTER doesn't even deserve to be around a person like you. I say it time and time again........ "What goes around comes around" and though she's been hurt doesn't give her the right to hurt you! So don't even sweat it anymore..... the time will come when she'll be in your shoes hurting again. I wish you all the strength and happiness in the world! God Bless You
Woggle Posted January 17, 2007 Posted January 17, 2007 My advice is to get over it and move on. It is just a woman being a woman. There are millions of other females like that in this world so don't sweat it. Take the lessons you learn from it and move on.
RocketMan2 Posted January 17, 2007 Posted January 17, 2007 Im feeling crap at the moment and just knowing other people are there for you and understand really cheers me up. So hang in there mate, we all feel for you. Tips that ive discovered work for me: Write down a list of all her bad points, go into lots of detail, get really carried away. Do it right now, you have no excuse not to! Do this whenever you feel down. Dont just re-read your old list, keep writing new ones, even if its the same points. Thinking of the ideas and writing them down again and again reinforces it, just re-reading it goes straight through you. What do you ACTUALLY miss? Her, or the company? What was so great about HER that you cant get with someone else? Thats what im thinking about my ex now, yeah shes absolutely stunning, but... (cue chance to write that list again) She never took any vast interest in me or my hobbies or interests.She never treated me to anything just to be nice (i always did)she never understood how her actions affected me, so she could hurt me really easilly without realising itShed never talk to me about her problems, just bottlem them up then explode at meShe never showed me enough affection, especially to say she loved me grrrr i was pretty upset before i wrote this, feeling better already Go on, your turn. I expect a much longer list!
upsetnhurt Posted January 17, 2007 Posted January 17, 2007 Not so sure initiating rebounds are limited to women only Woogle............. What you all need to realize is that most rebounders don't even know that they are getting into a relationship way too soon prior to healing from past baggage. It has nothing to do with care as they do care about you, its just that their hearts will be prevented from opening up as much as they should while with you. Before that can happen they need to sit back and spend some quality time getting their own act together. This has nothing to do with you. You could be the very best person out there yet it won't work most times. The sad thing is there is little chance of a reconciliation in the future as even if they heal....you will now carry this hurt for a long time.
Author luvestinks Posted January 22, 2007 Author Posted January 22, 2007 Im feeling crap at the moment and just knowing other people are there for you and understand really cheers me up. So hang in there mate, we all feel for you. Tips that ive discovered work for me: Write down a list of all her bad points, go into lots of detail, get really carried away. Do it right now, you have no excuse not to! Do this whenever you feel down. Dont just re-read your old list, keep writing new ones, even if its the same points. Thinking of the ideas and writing them down again and again reinforces it, just re-reading it goes straight through you. What do you ACTUALLY miss? Her, or the company? What was so great about HER that you cant get with someone else? Thats what im thinking about my ex now, yeah shes absolutely stunning, but... (cue chance to write that list again)She never took any vast interest in me or my hobbies or interests.She never treated me to anything just to be nice (i always did)she never understood how her actions affected me, so she could hurt me really easilly without realising itShed never talk to me about her problems, just bottlem them up then explode at meShe never showed me enough affection, especially to say she loved megrrrr i was pretty upset before i wrote this, feeling better already Go on, your turn. I expect a much longer list! 1. she never love me (she said she did) 2. never wanted to talk alway said she had nothing to say 3. lied to much (over stupid things) 4. never like to do anything owith me 5. lied about her real feeling 6. never knew anything about us 7. forgot my bday 8. used me as a rebound guy 9. lied to me 10. and the one i hate... she hurt my feelings its been a very pain full weeks still cant get her out of my mind. thanx for all the help. the sad thing is that i dont wish this to hapen to her again. i wish her the best for her. to find the love of her life, to learn to love like i loved her. because it was a wonder full thing ... the jewlery shop called me today to tell me her ring was ready. dont know how to get my money back i had it engraved. i tried the going out thing but all i think about is i wish she was here so we could have alot of fun... i wish this feeling could just go away...
luvtoto Posted January 22, 2007 Posted January 22, 2007 1. she never love me (she said she did) 2. never wanted to talk alway said she had nothing to say 3. lied to much (over stupid things) 4. never like to do anything owith me 5. lied about her real feeling 6. never knew anything about us 7. forgot my bday 8. used me as a rebound guy 9. lied to me 10. and the one i hate... she hurt my feelings 11. you allowed her to use you as a doormat. Yes, she treated you like crap, but you allowed it. It's your responsibility to teach people how to treat you right, luvestinks.
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