Guest Posted January 16, 2007 Posted January 16, 2007 Had a rocky relationship with the wrong guy for four years. It was very rollercoaster-y -- parts were great, but most of the time we were in some of emotional push/pull. Either I was hurt by him, and sort of emotionally detatched from the situation, in which case he was willing to be involved and work things out, or more often, I really wanted to fix things and be close to him, but he was emotionally detatched from me, wrapped up in his own problems, and unable to give the kind of attention to our relationship that it needed. For most of the last two years we spoke on the phone several times a day, but didn't have sex. The relationship was going nowhere -- we never spoke about marriage or a future together -- and when I brought up my concerns (his drug use, our lack of sex life, so forth) there were always things in his life he needed to straighten out first before he could devote any kind of energy to us. That said, we were tremendously compatible on many levels and spent a long time with each other. Anyway, a month ago, I managed to break up with him. It was a practical decision, but it was also fueled by high emotion at the time -- I just couldn't stand feeling so hurt and unimportant to him anymore. Now, of course, that hurt has worn off. I know I did the right thing, but I miss him, and I need to hear from other people that even though this is really hard (between this relationship, and another long term relationship right before it, I've been in relationships my entire adult life) I did the right thing, and in a year or two or three, it'll pay off. Right now, it's just really hard. He didn't even try to convince me to stay, which -- while it should make things easier for me (in that who wants to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you way) -- only hurts me more.
Guest Posted January 17, 2007 Posted January 17, 2007 please please please stay single for a while i have been in the same situation as you before secondly from what you have said this guy does not seem worrth it when you break up with them cause they are in the wrong and they dont fight for you it is most definately not worth it. in rrelationships like this the hardest thing is the break believe me it really wont fell like it now but you will meet some one that will apreciate you love you and if it ever comes to it fight for you. best way to get over one man is to get under another take care xxxxxxxxxx
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