mess4u Posted January 16, 2007 Posted January 16, 2007 Husband missed ultra sound for second and last pregnancy. Called on phone asked what sex was and had to go back to his shooting class that he volunterd to take class to look better in military. ( could take class later he works where they give classes)He spends alot of time doing extra little thing for him self and everything military comes first. We are not active duty just NG and has good federal job that keeps him surrounded by manly gun stuff and . I am a supportive wife when comes to army. But he missed a one time thing for bull crap. he was overseas for first baby,and also missed out. How do you tell husband he is not there for you and he sucks!
quankanne Posted January 16, 2007 Posted January 16, 2007 very calmly, without any anger or hurt or pain tied to it. Because while those things make a great impression on people, it only works well the first time or two. Unfortunately! however, if you explain to him how disappointed you are because you wanted him especially to share in this because he missed it first go-round, maybe he'll understand that his behavior was more hurtful than he realizes. At least I'm hoping that he will, and isn't oblivious to those things that truly upset you. if that doesn't work, remind him that there's another "first" he missed out on, and that you regret it because you understand the importance it means to him (this is called the guilt approach, which will come in handy when the rugrats get older, lol). good luck in getting your message across, and CONGRATULATIONS ON YOUR LITTLE GIRL!!!
Sassy Posted January 16, 2007 Posted January 16, 2007 Congrats on your upcoming baby girl! Just tell him how you feel. He needs to know. No reason why he couldn't be there for you this time.
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