whichwayisup Posted March 2, 2007 Posted March 2, 2007 The thing is, it is NOT flattering to know a married person wants to bang ya.
dropdeadlegs Posted March 2, 2007 Posted March 2, 2007 I'm living up to my AV tonight! You know, when I was a kid, both my mom and dad talked to me about stuff like this all while I was growing up. It's not like they sat me down and had a "tallk", but when the topic of marriage, infidelity, whatever came up via people we knew, or even television, they'd give me their veiwpoints. I learned a lot from them, and dammit, they've been happily married for 40 years. I just have to think that not everyone was as fortunate to have such guidance. IT'S NOT OK TO CHEAT! How hard is it to grasp that concept? norajane, You had good role models but many did not. You are having the same reaction that I had weeks ago about bitter men saying all women are evil. We come here daily and see the worst of humanity in man ways. It's hard to swallow generality. These forums can skew your sense of reality, but the reality is that most people do not cheat. Most are good and trying, but the forums are inclined to bring out the worst in general. People don't question or talk about good things because good things are not problematic ie: not worth discussing.. Your advice is so important to this forum, but taking a break from the negativity would be understandable. I didn't take a break other than a few beers, but you do what you need to do. Some can recover quicker than others. I should take more "breaks" myself. It is so hard to care, at times, and I sense that you care.
norajane Posted March 2, 2007 Posted March 2, 2007 norajane, You had good role models but many did not. You are having the same reaction that I had weeks ago about bitter men saying all women are evil. We come here daily and see the worst of humanity in man ways. It's hard to swallow generality. These forums can skew your sense of reality, but the reality is that most people do not cheat. Most are good and trying, but the forums are inclined to bring out the worst in general. People don't question or talk about good things because good things are not problematic ie: not worth discussing.. Your advice is so important to this forum, but taking a break from the negativity would be understandable. I didn't take a break other than a few beers, but you do what you need to do. Some can recover quicker than others. I should take more "breaks" myself. It is so hard to care, at times, and I sense that you care. Your words are always so soothing, ddl. I have been on edge these last couple days, and some of these threads aren't helping. I do care - I don't know why, but I do.
dropdeadlegs Posted March 2, 2007 Posted March 2, 2007 Your words are always so soothing, ddl. I have been on edge these last couple days, and some of these threads aren't helping. I do care - I don't know why, but I do. Thank you. Your words are very soothing to me, as well. The threads aren't helping because we strive to see the good, when there is so much that we do not understand. There are those (threads) that are "not so good" and it is difficult to comprehend those posts. These forums need to have balance. Good, and not so good , to help people, Today I am in a place where I can achieve balance, but there are many days when that is difficult. Allow yourself to have your feelings and I know you will be around for a long time to spread the word that life is not as bad as we sometimes think. It's not as complicated as we often make it. In fact it may be pretty simple! Take a moment, a day, a week, or whatever it takes. Your input is valuable and needs to be shared.
mockeryjones Posted March 2, 2007 Posted March 2, 2007 I do care - I don't know why, but I do. i know the feeling. my guess....you're just like many out there; a good and sane person trying to make sense of and impose order on a world seemingly going more insane by the day.
Salicious Crumb Posted March 2, 2007 Posted March 2, 2007 hey Mz. Pix don't leave you are very much needed. Not that I want to burden you with all of our miseries but because you really do help a lot of us. Regarding infidelity, my 2 closest friends have cheated or have still been cheating on their husbands. I firmly believe that no matter how sad and ugly H make us feel, they still do not deserve to be cheated. Some women still think about upholding their dignity regardless of their demise. Well ponder, you are probably one in a million. Too many cheaters on this site feel it is their entitlement to gratify themselves with someone other than their spouse, who they claim to love, if things at home aren't just 100% perfect.
SadrBtWizr Posted March 4, 2007 Posted March 4, 2007 If I may paraphrase an old saying... Evil thrives when the good do nothing.... This is a depressing subject, becausse the pain is so real and so personal, and it would be easy to give up. People just need to know that there are other people who go through something similar and care. Good is good and helping people through a very dark time in their lives is very good indeed. So, keep on keepin' on!
suchislife Posted March 4, 2007 Posted March 4, 2007 I agree, there are certain threads I avoid, mainly because people get a little too vicious or make jokes when it's not appropriate. I have learned to not be too judgemental. I've done things that I never, ever thought I would do, and it taught me to not point fingers. I will say, I have always tried to treat people the way I have wanted to be treated...but, no one is perfect. I can look back and say I've done a pretty good job so far. I am still having a rough time, and that is another reason I don't read some of the threads. As far as the rant about older women, My friends range in age from 29 to 57, and I have yet to see them or their friends act desperate. They are all independent, self sufficient women who choose to be in relationships. I guess it depends on what your perspective is... Sometimes I wish I could take a break from LS, because I feel like it might signify I am moving forward, but I am glad it's here.
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