Rooster_DAR Posted January 17, 2007 Posted January 17, 2007 The forum has been depressing me so much lately. It seems like there are so many more men coming to this forum than women- because they have been cheated on by their wives!!! I know we've had discussions before about how infidelity is different than it used to be years ago as far as the division between women cheating and men cheating. Every day that I come here, however, there are a couple of new posts by a betrayed husband. I come here to help people but sometimes it's so hard.......... I'm glad the people come here, and I cannot stop trying to help I know, but sometimes I feel like giving up. I tried to bring this up many times without trying to generalize, but it's true and I have noticed it more every day. Although cheating goes both ways it seems many more men are getting screwed than ever. I'm really starting to wonder if part of it may be that many men gave into womens wishes to be sensitive and metro if you will, and now they are realizing they want men to be more manly. Just a thought after doing some reading on the subject. Really it all boils down to issues with commitement and perhaps more than that, people just get tired of eachother and want to move on to more excitement it seems. I still think the author of "Womens Infidelity" is close to accurate in depicting what's going on with straying women. Read the book if you get a chance, I bet it will open the eyes as to why all this is happening. Cheers! Very screwed up today!
Zathrus Posted January 17, 2007 Posted January 17, 2007 ..In all honesty, more women cheat nowadays because they are more able to leave marriages due to being more educated and financially independent. They no longer NEED a man to support them as most did in the 50's and even the 60's. I'm not saying that cheating is acceptable, but this is certainly why divorce is more prevalent. .. You can delude yourselves into thinking that you have achieved equal footing in the relationship game thanks to women's lib and your "carreer". But unlike men, time is not your friend. As a single (once married) bachelor of 44 let me tell you ladies in denial the real score. Women over 40 are a dime a dozen. You could f*ck a different one every night and never run out of them. They will make you dinners, invite you to their parties and pretty much do whatever you ask them to because they are DESPARATE for company. Any company. Sure, there are some women out there who are so fiendishly ugly that no man will ever want them but for the most part, the older single women around the town I live in are considered to be town bicycles, ready for rent by anyone who needs a quick lay. Sure, there are some women who have boyfriends at that age after divorce. Those guys are substandard males and these women know it. That's why they constantly flirt, hug and kiss any real man within 100 feet of approaching them. They yearn for contact with a real man. So dream on ladies, you're fighting the natural order. In your teens/20's, you had the power to find a good mate and brainwash him into supporting you in your "ugly" years, like when your pussy falls out or your t*ts are dragging the ground or the 100k you will soon be spending on plastic surgery so you can look like a Klingon in a blender. Where your fantasy ends is when you hit your late 30's and realize the quality men in your life are looking at your 18 Y.O. daughter and wouldn't spend time with you unless you make it VERY in his interest by cooking and cleaning and basically sucking his dick on command. Truth hurts but you have been sold a pack of lies about careers and finding yourself. If you're young enough, you can still make some wise decisions. If not, you got the rest of your life now to reflect on that.
a4a Posted January 17, 2007 Posted January 17, 2007 You can delude yourselves into thinking that you have achieved equal footing in the relationship game thanks to women's lib and your "carreer". But unlike men, time is not your friend. As a single (once married) bachelor of 44 let me tell you ladies in denial the real score. Women over 40 are a dime a dozen. You could f*ck a different one every night and never run out of them. They will make you dinners, invite you to their parties and pretty much do whatever you ask them to because they are DESPARATE for company. Any company. Sure, there are some women out there who are so fiendishly ugly that no man will ever want them but for the most part, the older single women around the town I live in are considered to be town bicycles, ready for rent by anyone who needs a quick lay. Sure, there are some women who have boyfriends at that age after divorce. Those guys are substandard males and these women know it. That's why they constantly flirt, hug and kiss any real man within 100 feet of approaching them. They yearn for contact with a real man. So dream on ladies, you're fighting the natural order. In your teens/20's, you had the power to find a good mate and brainwash him into supporting you in your "ugly" years, like when your pussy falls out or your t*ts are dragging the ground or the 100k you will soon be spending on plastic surgery so you can look like a Klingon in a blender. Where your fantasy ends is when you hit your late 30's and realize the quality men in your life are looking at your 18 Y.O. daughter and wouldn't spend time with you unless you make it VERY in his interest by cooking and cleaning and basically sucking his dick on command. Truth hurts but you have been sold a pack of lies about careers and finding yourself. If you're young enough, you can still make some wise decisions. If not, you got the rest of your life now to reflect on that. :lmao: :lmao: :lmao: :lmao: Thank goodness I can still become a middle aged lesbian! :lmao: Boy you sound like a real catch. I can see why so many old ugly ladies cannot keep their hands off you! Maybe they are just using you for a ride? Hint though...... as a nearly 40 year old woman I would not be seeking out the company of an old man that could not Keep UP with me. I think I may check out your 18 year old son.
Woggle Posted January 17, 2007 Posted January 17, 2007 You can delude yourselves into thinking that you have achieved equal footing in the relationship game thanks to women's lib and your "carreer". But unlike men, time is not your friend. As a single (once married) bachelor of 44 let me tell you ladies in denial the real score. Women over 40 are a dime a dozen. You could f*ck a different one every night and never run out of them. They will make you dinners, invite you to their parties and pretty much do whatever you ask them to because they are DESPARATE for company. Any company. Sure, there are some women out there who are so fiendishly ugly that no man will ever want them but for the most part, the older single women around the town I live in are considered to be town bicycles, ready for rent by anyone who needs a quick lay. Sure, there are some women who have boyfriends at that age after divorce. Those guys are substandard males and these women know it. That's why they constantly flirt, hug and kiss any real man within 100 feet of approaching them. They yearn for contact with a real man. So dream on ladies, you're fighting the natural order. In your teens/20's, you had the power to find a good mate and brainwash him into supporting you in your "ugly" years, like when your pussy falls out or your t*ts are dragging the ground or the 100k you will soon be spending on plastic surgery so you can look like a Klingon in a blender. Where your fantasy ends is when you hit your late 30's and realize the quality men in your life are looking at your 18 Y.O. daughter and wouldn't spend time with you unless you make it VERY in his interest by cooking and cleaning and basically sucking his dick on command. Truth hurts but you have been sold a pack of lies about careers and finding yourself. If you're young enough, you can still make some wise decisions. If not, you got the rest of your life now to reflect on that. Lay off her. She doesn't come across as some manhating feminazi so leave her alone.
Zathrus Posted January 17, 2007 Posted January 17, 2007 :lmao: :lmao: :lmao: :lmao: Thank goodness I can still become a middle aged lesbian! :lmao: Boy you sound like a real catch. I can see why so many old ugly ladies cannot keep their hands off you! Maybe they are just using you for a ride? Hint though...... as a nearly 40 year old woman I would not be seeking out the company of an old man that could not Keep UP with me. I think I may check out your 18 year old son. Hey don't hate me, hate the game! In the past these women wouldn't be receptacles for any available man who wants them but would instead be in a loving relationship with a family that loves them. Feminism cured them of that and freed me to f*ck all the single 35-40'ish women who had their priorities on backwards. You can't deny mother nature. Older men's power increases as yours wanes. Deal. My 18 y/o son? While you are flirting with the bagboy in k-mart because nobody will give you 2 sh*ts of attention anymore? I see it every day. Don't blame me, I didn't sell you the career happiness bull****. Look to feminists for that. Maybe they have a coupon for batteries
MySugaree Posted January 17, 2007 Posted January 17, 2007 If Pix is reading her (now hijacked) Thread she's going to be even more depressed. It's good to see that the Gender Wars still rage on these Boards. As for the Middle Age dating "game" as explained, somewhat harshly, by Zathrus, he's on the mark in content if not in tone. I'm a very well preserved 56 year old with a professional degree living in a large City. My choices are great. And I'm not even referring to Internet Dating. There is an erotic power shift that takes place as decent, available men age. It's a combination of supply and demand and cultural factors that place the older man in the cat bird seat in the Middle Age dating "game". Out there, an embarrassment of riches exists. Yet, ironically, we might all be poorer because of it. The trick is to keep your perspective with all the "Rock Star" sex.
a4a Posted January 17, 2007 Posted January 17, 2007 Hey don't hate me, hate the game! I don't see it as any big deal or a game. I don't think women leaving the traditional role being evil nor the cause of affairs. Affairs have been happening just as much in the past........ just now people actually talk about it. Kinda like molestation has been brought to light publically as well. It is not a new thing. In the past these women wouldn't be receptacles for any available man who wants them but would instead be in a loving relationship with a family that loves them. Feminism cured them of that and freed me to f*ck all the single 35-40'ish women who had their priorities on backwards. You can't deny mother nature. It is not every womens dream to have a family. Nor is the lack of that dream the cause of cheating...... it is personal integrity that keeps ones pants on not wanting to have children and a husband..... hell that tends to make the pants come off. Older men's power increases as yours wanes. Deal. My 18 y/o son? While you are flirting with the bagboy in k-mart because nobody will give you 2 sh*ts of attention anymore? I see it every day. I disagree..... I am much smarter now then when I was twenty. I have more money, more choices, and still wear the same size pants and get as much if not more attention from men. I don't shop at K-mart, but if I did he better be one hot bag boy! Don't blame me, I didn't sell you the career happiness bull****. Look to feminists for that. Maybe they have a coupon for batteries To be honest a fresh pack of batteries can at times be more satisfying to put into use then dealing with men for the same purpose. More Buzz and less Chatter. And no dirty socks on the floor! I think the chatter about feminism and blaming the world problems on that has gotten really old, and is probably off topic. Maybe men just aren't as attractive or needed as they once were? I don't consider myself a femisnist, I don't protest or scream....... but there are very few men that I think are worth my time. The non - Mrs. Cleavers do not cause people to have affairs/cheat. It is a personal CHOICE for individuals to do so or not. And it is nothing new.
Author Mz. Pixie Posted January 17, 2007 Author Posted January 17, 2007 Oh wow. I really wasn't asking whether or not I should take a break or not- just making an observation. Tweldy- you are right!
dropdeadlegs Posted January 17, 2007 Posted January 17, 2007 Mz. Pixie, I have read many threads that you have posted on and feel that your advice is on target and to the point. You don't pull punches and are never wishy-washy. I am happy you will stay. I can certainly understand finding the infidelity so depressing. I don't know your relationship status off the top of my head, but even when we are happy in our own relationship it can be disheartening to see so many posts by so many who were blindsided. They too, thought their world was rosy, which can lead us to believe we could be duped at some point if we haven't been already. I would also like to apologize for being a part of the threadjacking last night. I'm sorry.
Green Posted January 17, 2007 Posted January 17, 2007 First off Mythical soo hott, Secondly Mysugar I already had a very scured view on life in general way b4 this, thirdly Dropdeadlegs I too avoid most of the infedelity threads. Mz. P dont be depresed just remember when u'll find ur hap 'enis
Storyrider Posted January 17, 2007 Posted January 17, 2007 Hey don't hate me, hate the game! In the past these women wouldn't be receptacles for any available man who wants them but would instead be in a loving relationship with a family that loves them. Feminism cured them of that and freed me to f*ck all the single 35-40'ish women who had their priorities on backwards. You can't deny mother nature. Older men's power increases as yours wanes. Deal. My 18 y/o son? While you are flirting with the bagboy in k-mart because nobody will give you 2 sh*ts of attention anymore? I see it every day. Don't blame me, I didn't sell you the career happiness bull****. Look to feminists for that. Maybe they have a coupon for batteries You've sure pegged the problem. You hit the nail on the head and now you're pounding it in, one woman at a time. Thank goodness you have such insight and the means to exploit it.
orangehose Posted January 17, 2007 Posted January 17, 2007 You can delude yourselves into thinking that you have achieved equal footing in the relationship game thanks to women's lib and your "carreer". But unlike men, time is not your friend. As a single (once married) bachelor of 44 let me tell you ladies in denial the real score. Women over 40 are a dime a dozen. You could f*ck a different one every night and never run out of them. They will make you dinners, invite you to their parties and pretty much do whatever you ask them to because they are DESPARATE for company. Any company. Sure, there are some women out there who are so fiendishly ugly that no man will ever want them but for the most part, the older single women around the town I live in are considered to be town bicycles, ready for rent by anyone who needs a quick lay. Sure, there are some women who have boyfriends at that age after divorce. Those guys are substandard males and these women know it. That's why they constantly flirt, hug and kiss any real man within 100 feet of approaching them. They yearn for contact with a real man. So dream on ladies, you're fighting the natural order. In your teens/20's, you had the power to find a good mate and brainwash him into supporting you in your "ugly" years, like when your pussy falls out or your t*ts are dragging the ground or the 100k you will soon be spending on plastic surgery so you can look like a Klingon in a blender. Where your fantasy ends is when you hit your late 30's and realize the quality men in your life are looking at your 18 Y.O. daughter and wouldn't spend time with you unless you make it VERY in his interest by cooking and cleaning and basically sucking his dick on command. Truth hurts but you have been sold a pack of lies about careers and finding yourself. If you're young enough, you can still make some wise decisions. If not, you got the rest of your life now to reflect on that. Well, you're certainly a great stylist. And the Klingon in a blender thing is hilarious. I agree with some of the content of what you're saying - yes, an older wealthy career man has an easier time in the mating game than an older wealthy career woman, because of evolved human predilections (men want youth, women want power/wealth in a mate - all that good old stuff). What I don't agree with is the implication it's somehow inherently so much more desirable for an older woman to be married or in an LTR than not in one. Quite a few studies suggest that men are the main beneficiaries of marriage in terms of improvement to physical and mental health. Single older women aren't 'failures' for being single and old. Heck, they're probably a lot freer to do things that their married counterparts with teenaged kids don't do. As for sex and companionship, yes, they can have those through 'batteries' and friends. I don't see anything pitiable about that. You advise young women to put a higher priority on marriage and not buy into the career happiness "pack of lies". But what if a smart woman sacrifices her career for marriage, and then when she starts to look like a 'Klingon in a blender', her husband dumps her? Wouldn't she regret not pursuing her career more early on? Also, what's so terrible about the bag boy at K-mart?
magichands Posted January 18, 2007 Posted January 18, 2007 You've sure pegged the problem. You hit the nail on the head and now you're pounding it in, one woman at a time. Thank goodness you have such insight and the means to exploit it. :lmao:
Flyin in Clouds Posted January 20, 2007 Posted January 20, 2007 ... It seems like there are so many more men coming to this forum than women- because they have been cheated on by their wives!!! I know we've had discussions before about how infidelity is different than it used to be years ago as far as the division between women cheating and men cheating. Every day that I come here, however, there are a couple of new posts by a betrayed husband. ... but sometimes I feel like giving up. Don't give up. Women behaving badly? Isn't that your tag line? I guess more women want to make history. I think a huge contribution to the increase in female cheating has been the pill. Women's liberation. It has given women the freedom to behave as badly as men always did. Now women can take the pill and avoid pregnancy so they are freer to have affairs and otherwise misbehave. The risk of pregnancy was inhibiting. Now it's not longer a factor with abortion on demand, the day after pill and birth control pills. While I'm glad women have more equal opportunity, many aspects of women's liberation have been harmful to women, families, children and society. It has been very much a double edged sword. If sex could only be like wine, and while we had our favorite, if we occasionally sipped from a different bottle it would be ok maybe we'd all be a lot better off. Monogamy may not be all that it is cracked up to be. I'm really starting to wonder if part of it may be that many men gave into womens wishes to be sensitive and metro if you will, and now they are realizing they want men to be more manly. I think that's part of it too. Part of the feminist crap that men should be more feminine and less manly. Wrong move. That's why I advise against being "nice" when a wife strays. First she doesn't deserve it. And if the man is "sensitive" and tries to repair the relationship she'll know he is a confirmed wimp. Instead of whipping her ass for fooling around behind his back, the guy goes soft, being "understanding", and admitting their wife's affairs was really their own fault. And women aren't going to like a guy that wimps out. Sure, there are some women who have boyfriends at that age after divorce. Those guys are substandard males and these women know it. That's why they constantly flirt, hug and kiss any real man within 100 feet of approaching them. They yearn for contact with a real man.Yeap, you're a real man alright... but it is funny you can't find a real woman that wants to keep you. Probably because you have to use Viagra to keep it up in order to ride all those bicycles. In your teens/20's, you had the power to find a good mate and brainwash him into supporting you in your "ugly" years, like when your pussy falls out or your t*ts are dragging the ground or the 100k you will soon be spending on plastic surgery so you can look like a Klingon in a blender.Hmmm... do I detect a wee bit of bitterness in is post? Bottom line, women's lib has given women the freedom to behave as badly as men always have.
Author Mz. Pixie Posted January 22, 2007 Author Posted January 22, 2007 Women behaving badly? Isn't that your tag line? I guess more women want to make history. That is my tag line but I certainly wasn't referring to infidelity.
Woggle Posted January 22, 2007 Posted January 22, 2007 I agree with the fact that men need to stop being so forgiving. Some men are doormats who have no respect for themselves. I hope men grow their balls back really soon because if not we are screwed. We can solve most of these problems just by growing a backbone. I know if my wife ever I cheated I am throwing her out on the streets. I will play it cool the day that I found out but the next day while she is at work I will stay home and when she comes home the locks will be changed and all her stuff will be on the porch. I would not try to hear a word she says.
Rooster_DAR Posted January 22, 2007 Posted January 22, 2007 I agree with the fact that men need to stop being so forgiving. Some men are doormats who have no respect for themselves. I hope men grow their balls back really soon because if not we are screwed. We can solve most of these problems just by growing a backbone. I know if my wife ever I cheated I am throwing her out on the streets. I will play it cool the day that I found out but the next day while she is at work I will stay home and when she comes home the locks will be changed and all her stuff will be on the porch. I would not try to hear a word she says. I grew mine back.
Woggle Posted January 22, 2007 Posted January 22, 2007 I grew mine back. Grow your balls back should be a new slogan for men. There should be t shirts, bumper stickers and all that.
Rooster_DAR Posted January 22, 2007 Posted January 22, 2007 Grow your balls back should be a new slogan for men. There should be t shirts, bumper stickers and all that. I think we should mass distribute tshirts that say "Men, it's time to take control again".
Salicious Crumb Posted January 22, 2007 Posted January 22, 2007 The forum has been depressing me so much lately. It seems like there are so many more men coming to this forum than women- because they have been cheated on by their wives!!! I know we've had discussions before about how infidelity is different than it used to be years ago as far as the division between women cheating and men cheating. Every day that I come here, however, there are a couple of new posts by a betrayed husband. I come here to help people but sometimes it's so hard.......... I'm glad the people come here, and I cannot stop trying to help I know, but sometimes I feel like giving up. Why is it you feel like giving up? Are you only interested in helping women that have been betrayed?
ponderingfar Posted February 8, 2007 Posted February 8, 2007 hey Mz. Pix don't leave you are very much needed. Not that I want to burden you with all of our miseries but because you really do help a lot of us. Regarding infidelity, my 2 closest friends have cheated or have still been cheating on their husbands. I firmly believe that no matter how sad and ugly H make us feel, they still do not deserve to be cheated. Some women still think about upholding their dignity regardless of their demise. I met H while I was trying to busy myself when my guy BF went out of town. BF and I have been hanging around platonic-ally for 2 1/2 years, we lost touch but started chatting on line recently. He knows the complete details of my problem. We were close then and everyone thought we were romantically involved, that item never had a closure. In one of our chats, he asked me if I would leave H if I found someone who loves me and my children. I thought about it and greater part of me says NO. There were a lot of times I wondered what BF's true feeling for me is...but I guess there is no more point thinking about it because I am already trapped. My husband makes me guilty that I am still in touch with him but if I do not get to communicate my sentiments with someone who knows me well, how in the h*** does my H think I could keep my sanity.... Stay MZ. P
Author Mz. Pixie Posted February 8, 2007 Author Posted February 8, 2007 Why is it you feel like giving up? Are you only interested in helping women that have been betrayed? Absolutely not. As a matter of fact I want to help everyone that has had a partner cheat on them.
norajane Posted March 2, 2007 Posted March 2, 2007 I'm glad the people come here, and I cannot stop trying to help I know, but sometimes I feel like giving up. I feel like that today. I've just been reading all these posts lately from women who are wondering if that cute MM is flirting with them, from women who are unhappy in their marriages, but, ooooo, there's this hot guy they like, from men who are married and still want to f*ck anyone that smiles in their general direction....blech. What the hell is wrong with people? Why do they bother getting married in the first place if they just cannot grasp the concept of fidelity and loyalty? Why is an affair the default answer to an unhappy, or somewhat dull marriage? Does no one ever teach people that marriage is a commitment to stick around and work things through? Does no one ever teach people that you're supposed to have one relationship at a time, and if your marriage is f*cked, then fine, get a divorce before messing around with other people's lives?? /rant
Rooster_DAR Posted March 2, 2007 Posted March 2, 2007 I feel like that today. I've just been reading all these posts lately from women who are wondering if that cute MM is flirting with them, from women who are unhappy in their marriages, but, ooooo, there's this hot guy they like, from men who are married and still want to f*ck anyone that smiles in their general direction....blech. What the hell is wrong with people? Why do they bother getting married in the first place if they just cannot grasp the concept of fidelity and loyalty? Why is an affair the default answer to an unhappy, or somewhat dull marriage? Does no one ever teach people that marriage is a commitment to stick around and work things through? Does no one ever teach people that you're supposed to have one relationship at a time, and if your marriage is f*cked, then fine, get a divorce before messing around with other people's lives?? /rant Beautifully illustrated by context!!!!!!!!!! I could not agree more, It seems there are far fewer of us that have the integrity to stick by commitment, and have the balls to end a relationship when were not happy instead of living a lie that's both shallow and unpalatable. Excellent Rant!!!!
norajane Posted March 2, 2007 Posted March 2, 2007 Beautifully illustrated by context!!!!!!!!!! I could not agree more, It seems there are far fewer of us that have the integrity to stick by commitment, and have the balls to end a relationship when were not happy instead of living a lie that's both shallow and unpalatable. Excellent Rant!!!! I'm living up to my AV tonight! You know, when I was a kid, both my mom and dad talked to me about stuff like this all while I was growing up. It's not like they sat me down and had a "tallk", but when the topic of marriage, infidelity, whatever came up via people we knew, or even television, they'd give me their veiwpoints. I learned a lot from them, and dammit, they've been happily married for 40 years. I just have to think that not everyone was as fortunate to have such guidance. IT'S NOT OK TO CHEAT! How hard is it to grasp that concept?
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