BklynGuy Posted January 16, 2007 Posted January 16, 2007 I've done it again. Become the MM - which I dont like being. Started working on a job a year ago. An attractive female caught my eye immediately. Funny thing was there were many signs from her and my other co-workers that she liked me. I liked her too but knew she had a boyfriend. From her words it sounds like she's pretty unhappy with him. He's cheated several times, etc, etc. I always stayed away from her because she was involved, but she kept flirting and giving hints that she liked me. I tried to keep my fondness for her to myself. One day I finally came out and told her I liked her. We started talking to eachother and went on a few dates. We also slept together. She was on a "break" from her boyfriend. The third time we were supposed to go out her man calls me and starts asking me if I know her and if she's with me. I'm like oh boy, here comes drama which I dont need in my life. He was coming to see her so I backed off and didn't go to see her that night. His call killed the whole vibe between me and her. That's when I realized what I was doing and what I was really dealing with. I said to her we should just be friends..not cause I wanna be but because that was what the situation called for. She tells him everything including that we slept together...dunno why she did. Then she tells me she's getting back together with him and they're moving in together. Depression for me immediately! So I basically get cut off and whatever. She says she really likes me and walks off. I began avoiding her at work but saw her there a few days ago. She's giving me strong vibes and smiling her head off. I hate it cuz she flirts with me and is all there but the second he comes along she drops me like a bad habit. Everything felt right when I was hanging out with her, like we just clicked together. She seems like a weak person who doesnt have a mind of her own and cant seem to leave this guy. I kind of have a bitter taste in my mouth also now towards her. Tired of liking the wrong girls. I guess it's good I got myself out of the situation though. Really now what I wanted to do.
whichwayisup Posted January 16, 2007 Posted January 16, 2007 I've done it again. Become the MM - which I dont like being. Glad that you stopped. You have control over your own life and decisions. She sounds messed up, so no matter what you feel for her, she isn't worth chasing. You mean you're the OM, not MM (married man, unless you're married too?) Next time you like a woman who is married, or has a boyfriend RUN the other way, no matter what you feel for her.
NoIDidn't Posted January 16, 2007 Posted January 16, 2007 What exactly are you looking for BklynGuy, seriously. Here you have said that you have just become a MM AGAIN. Are you looking for sympathy? You are not going to get it here. From the BS who has dealt with the philandering H that you seem to be, to the OW who has been with a SERIAL MM that you are admitting to being - you are going to get flamed!!! Get your protected gear handy. This should be interesting......
stillhere Posted January 16, 2007 Posted January 16, 2007 NID, i think he got our abbreviations screwed up. He's the OM, not a MM. From what i can gather, he's not married.
whichwayisup Posted January 16, 2007 Posted January 16, 2007 He isn't married, I just went back and looked at some of his older posts. BG, you gotta start seeing the redflags before you let yourself get emotionally attached to women who are either married or have boyfriends....
Author BklynGuy Posted January 16, 2007 Author Posted January 16, 2007 No I'm not looking for sympathy. I was just saying I made a mistake and messed with the wrong girl again is all. I did get the abbreviations screwed up, I meant OM, not MM. I knew the redflags were there but it was just so hard to stay away from it. I tried but she kept pushing and once I was there she's like OK, whatever basically. NID, what do you mean get your protected gear ready? You come across as very bitter.
whichwayisup Posted January 16, 2007 Posted January 16, 2007 BG, you gotta learn to say NO. It won't kill ya to do that...If a woman is pushing like that and she's still seeing someone else or is married - RUN. You can do it, just be tougher on yourself and don't settle for anything less. You deserve better, right??? So, raise the bar higher - NO MORE chasing skirts who already have a boyfriend/husband!
stillhere Posted January 16, 2007 Posted January 16, 2007 No I'm not looking for sympathy. I was just saying I made a mistake and messed with the wrong girl again is all. I did get the abbreviations screwed up, I meant OM, not MM. I knew the redflags were there but it was just so hard to stay away from it. I tried but she kept pushing and once I was there she's like OK, whatever basically. NID, what do you mean get your protected gear ready? You come across as very bitter. NID is a BS, so she was whipping out the claws cuz she thought you were a MM. She was confused is all. I know it's hard when you find someone attractive and they are giving you all the signs to go ahead and pursue them. Now you know what to look out for. You know that heartache is almost certain if you find yourself with someone who is "attached". Live and learn.
NoIDidn't Posted January 16, 2007 Posted January 16, 2007 No I'm not looking for sympathy. I was just saying I made a mistake and messed with the wrong girl again is all. I did get the abbreviations screwed up, I meant OM, not MM. I knew the redflags were there but it was just so hard to stay away from it. I tried but she kept pushing and once I was there she's like OK, whatever basically. NID, what do you mean get your protected gear ready? You come across as very bitter. BklynGuy, Yeah, I'm bitter. That makes me laugh. Seriously, if you got the abbreviations mixed up, no prob. I just found it odd that a "MM" would be saying that he "did it again" willingly and THEN be mad at the girl for going back to her man. But you are NOT at MM, so that's different. I only asked questions based on your first description. That's all. And if you were, you would definitely need that gear. But you are not, so its all roses.
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