SouthernT Posted January 16, 2007 Posted January 16, 2007 First let me remind everybody of who this guy is. I posted the following statement back in December: Ok guys...help me out. I met a guy through a co-worker at dinner one night. A few days later he asked her for my number. He called just about every day/every other day for about a month and a half. Then one night we have a conversation that HE INITIATED. He basically said...I really like you and mabye here in about a month or so we may have a discussion about taking things to the next level. But I want to make sure that you are mentally and emotionally ready for it. My response was..."Do you really see it happening that fast? That sounds cool and I'm willing to give it a try." Every girls dream right? ...... Well he hasn't called since that day. It's been a month since I've heard anything from him. I've called him once (mabye twice) a week with no response from him. As of last week, I stopped callin all together. What gives?? I don't understand. I was really dissapointed because I havent dated anybody in over a year bacause of previous hurt. I wasn't even looking for anyting when he came along. But he turned out to be a great guy and I really liked him and I put in the effort. HELP PLEASE!!!????!?!?!?!? Ok...so back to the present moment...well....for the past week, he keeps telling my co-worker to tell me "HI" And I've asked her if the two of them are discussing me or talking about me when he says this or does he just say it out of the blue? She says that he's just been saying it out of the blue without any prompting. Its been a month and a half since I've heard from him. Why is he telling her to tell me "Hello" but he wont pick up the phone or text me his self? And for those of you who are wondering...no i have not called him since he pulled the "dissapearing act" after our last conversation. (posted above) So what does eveybody think about this???????
SEX.LOVE10 Posted January 16, 2007 Posted January 16, 2007 hello 'shouthern' sorry to hear about your problem/concer about him not calling after he made you think that he is insterested in a more seriouse or committed relationship - it sounds like he is playing with your mind and emotions - if he is truly serious about you and having a relationship with you he will not do the no contact (not calling or emailing, etc) it seems to me that he did not mean what says to you - he's not ing you intentionally to cool things down.....
Author SouthernT Posted January 16, 2007 Author Posted January 16, 2007 Thanks for the response...... Does anybody else have an opinion on this situation?
Walk Posted January 16, 2007 Posted January 16, 2007 The word "fruit loop" comes to mind. OK.. that's two words.. but still. I think he scared himself, freaked out, and ran away. Then after a week or two, he probably calmed down some, but is far too chicken to approach you and say anything. So he sends messages through the 'co-worker' in hopes that you'll spontaneously want to fall on your back with your legs spread for him. If it were me, I'd probably confront him on it. Put it bluntly, I'd explain to him we aren't "buddies", and to knock that shyt off with passing grade school messages through "friends". Or you could just stop by his office, let him know simply and plainly that you'd like it if he'd stop bugging your co-worker with the "say hi to X". And then carry on with your day. How ever you decide to handle it... I really don't think this guy has "relationship material" in him. If this is his idea of communication, problem solving, and clear resolutions... wow... I'd rather be hit in the head then have to deal with his kind of mentality for long. Sorry he turned out to be such a dud.
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