rachel089 Posted January 15, 2007 Posted January 15, 2007 I am 18 years old and Ive been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years now. For the first year and a 1/2 everything seemed perfect...we never really fought, besides about stupid little things. He wanted to spend time with me every single day as much as he could, and it seemed like i was the only thing that mattered to him. I guess he just spoiled me alittle.. because now he is not like that so much anymore..and it kind of worries me. About a week ago, he said he thinks he needs a break to work on trusting me and to work on his anger/jealousy problems. He says he will not touch or go near any other girl...but i still feel paranoid. Does his reason for wanting a "break" make sense? I mean, how can he work on trusting me if we are not even technically together? And if he really loved me, wouldnt he want me to be by his side helping him with his problems? I feel betrayed, even though maybe I shouldnt. We still call eachother every day, and we hang out about 2-3 times a week, but only for a short amount of time (maybe an hour or 2) then he rushes out with his friends and leaves me. He gets aggrivated with me really easily..and things are much different than they used to be. For the first year and a 1/2 we were together, i was the most important thing in his life..he put me before his friends, surprised me with random stuffed animals or flowers, called me/texted me just to say i love you, etc. Now, the past few months, he is not like this anymore...has he lost his feelings for me or does he just want some space? Sorry to ramble on and on but there is a lot of stuff i am confused about...
notmakingsense Posted January 16, 2007 Posted January 16, 2007 It does sound like his feelings for you have changed, and in his mind, a "break" is necessary in order to give him the license to have more fun apart from you. The whole working on trust thing doesn't make any sense to me. It isn't all that healthy to have a relationship where you only ever do things together. I think that people should have their own space as well. Perhaps he is just reacting to feeling a bit smothered by the relationship. I would distance yourself just a little bit more from him -- don't answer his calls right away, and make sure that you are going out with your friends for a bit of fun yourself. Give him a chance to miss you a little. If you two do end up staying together -- work on a situation that blends both -- time together and time to do your own things every once and a while. It is that healthy balance that works best in my opinion.
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