thegame421 Posted January 15, 2007 Posted January 15, 2007 I have been dating Jane for the past three years. We just moved in together for the second time, after living apart for over a year. A couple of years prior to meeting Jane, her father had passed away while she was still in college. She has struggled with a severe case of bulimia for 8 years and frequently binges and purges when she is alone. She hates to be alone, but I have a rather demanding career as well as a great group of friends that I like to spend "guy time" with. Her mother is unreliable and self-centered and Jane has very few friends in the area, so she relies on me for nearly 100% of her social fulfillment. She is beautiful, brilliant and has many great qualities but I am reaching my breaking point. Am I weak? Can one person realistically expect to shoulder the entire burden? Has anyone out there been through a similar situation to mine?
Jetlagged Posted January 15, 2007 Posted January 15, 2007 No your'e not weak only human and all of us can only handle so much...And then we reach breaking point...You can only do so much for someone but they need to also want to...You need to decide if this is healthy for you for both of you especially if this is how you are feeling?Think of 10 years down the line is this still where you want to be would anything have changed or still be in the same situation...Do you love her so much that you can still handle the bad times and see a light at the end of the tunnel...Do whats best for you...Whatever you decide it will be your choice and either way will be the best choice...
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