emmaUK Posted January 15, 2007 Posted January 15, 2007 hello. well u know my question from the title. was just wondering how much i should ring, text, email a guy and also initiate seeing each other. my mum always tells me to let the guy do the chasing coz thats what men prefare.... but i havta make some moves surely. :- so how often do i text, call, email??? how much is 2 much. and how little is 2 little :- when to contact n when not to contact??? :- how often should i make the first move with contact or shud i leave it all 2 him??? :- if he text or emails me... should i leave it for a while n not get back to him straight away :- does it make a woman more appealing if she is sometimes "unnavailable" im seeing someone now but its clear i am slightyl more into him and having deep n meaningful relationship with him then he is with me at this stage.... i do not want to ruin this in any way. i know he likes me alot and we have had some lovely times together and we are exclusive to each other but it deff seems as though i want it 2 be a little more intense n deep then he does. so obiovusly dont want to scare him off but dont want to be so distanrt it seems as though im not really bothered. want to make him gaggin more more of me!!!!!!!! whats the best way forward in this situation??? HELP!!!!!!!
riobikini Posted January 15, 2007 Posted January 15, 2007 re: Emma: " Do Men Prefer To Chase Or To Be Chased??? " Emma, it has been my experience that *men* prefer to be wanted -not particularly chased. And as far as them running to get anything -you'd have to wrench the remote control out of their hand, first, and pry them from the football couch in the den. However -needing beer can change the situation: they'll run and get that. (Smile) -Rio
Texan Posted January 15, 2007 Posted January 15, 2007 In this day and age where equality is supposedly ruling the roost, I don't think it matters... I think the old adage about her chasing me until I caught her seems to apply. No, we don't want a doormat, but we do like to know that our interest is returned. I've done my share of pursuing... often to point where it finally occurred to me that pursuing was ALL I was doing... that she didn't want to be caught, but was enjoying having men chase. At that point, you start wondering "why bother?" Just pay attention to your gut instinct. If chasing appears to work for the two of you, go for it. If not, back off and see if he'll pursue. If not, there wasn't anything there to begin with... not really. Just my two cents... (bearing in mind that I'm across the pond and not everything seems to be the same on this side as it is on that side. LOL.)
Curmudgeon Posted January 15, 2007 Posted January 15, 2007 And as far as them running to get anything -you'd have to wrench the remote control out of their hand, first, and pry them from the football couch in the den. However -needing beer can change the situation: they'll run and get that. My dear Riobikini, if that's your experience with men then your man-picker needs a lube job, oil change and tune-up. I don't even like TV and have no interest in a bunch of over-grown, functional illiterates making too much money playing childrens' games (pro sports). On a personal level, I've always preferred to not chase nor be chased. Amazingly enough, things seem to fall nicely in place nonetheless. There's something to be said for mutuality!
funkify Posted January 15, 2007 Posted January 15, 2007 re: Emma, it has been my experience that *men* prefer to be wanted -not particularly chased. And as far as them running to get anything -you'd have to wrench the remote control out of their hand, first, and pry them from the football couch in the den. However -needing beer can change the situation: they'll run and get that. (Smile) -Rio Ahh, you always make me laugh
riobikini Posted January 15, 2007 Posted January 15, 2007 re: Curmudgeon: " I don't even like TV and have no interest in a bunch of over-grown, functional illiterates making too much money playing childrens' games (pro sports). On a personal level, I've always preferred to not chase nor be chased. Amazingly enough, things seem to fall nicely in place nonetheless. There's something to be said for mutuality! " That's precisely why you are such a gem, C! (Smile) Not a thing wrong with the "man-picker", nowadays -the lube, oil change, and tune-up was exactly what was needed! -Rio
Guest Posted January 18, 2007 Posted January 18, 2007 Do not contact him everyday or let him smell any hint of desperation. This happened early on with my now fiancee and I thought she was psycho for calling me so often and I really didn't want to be bothered. Men don't need constant attention to be into someone, in fact I didn't realize what I had right in front of me until she went away back to college in the fall and I didn't hear from her for a while, and it got me thinking about the situation and let me see what I was missing.
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