sunangel Posted January 15, 2007 Posted January 15, 2007 We'll i met my ex boyfriend this saturday cause he wanted to speak to me and i hadn't been answering any of his prior calls. He basically confessed that since i broke up with him he hasn't stopped thinking about me , and realizes that he was taking me for granted. He asked me for a second chance to prove to me that he was gonna treat me right, and that he now agrees with me that hanging out with his friends all the time wasn't fair to me. Honestly when he first walked in that restaurant my heart dropped! It's only been 2 weeks since i broke up with him but it felt like i hadn't seen him in forever! I miss him..... He was really into me and trying to hold my hand, but i didn't let him. So it's safe to say that the whole "NC" strategy has worked for ME! I have showed him what it's like to not have me around and in only a week he has come around asking for my forgiveness......... Now i must remind you all that nothing really bad happened between us , he was just acting very arrogant and not spending time with me. It's not good, but could of been worse. I am concidering giving him a second chance, given our history together and if he really changes. But to those of you out there who have really been mistreated, cheated on, or worse...... Sometimes it's just better to let it go and move on! It's not worth sticking around a person who doesn't value you! I wish everyone the very best and that you find true LOVE and HAPPINESS!
upsetnhurt Posted January 15, 2007 Posted January 15, 2007 Sunangel, I have not read anything prior to your post here so I do not know the severity of the issues. Do you really think that two weeks is enough for someone to recognize and accept the issues at hand? I figure two weeks have simply given him the "missing the companionship" feeling and he has run to you to get it. Have you taken the two weeks to think about what you really want in a person? If so, I say go for it, yet don't think you won't be in this situation again. Just know how to handle it when the time comes. He likes to spend time with friends. Either accept it or find someone who is more into spending time with their significant others. Best of luck as you deserve to be happy.
magichands Posted January 15, 2007 Posted January 15, 2007 I figure two weeks have simply given him the "missing the companionship" feeling and he has run to you to get it. Have you taken the two weeks to think about what you really want in a person? Great post.
Sand&Water Posted January 15, 2007 Posted January 15, 2007 RE: All I want to say is to keep your eyes open. Eyes and mind. Wishing you Happiness and Love, Sand&Water
SuziwithaQ Posted January 15, 2007 Posted January 15, 2007 Sunangel, I hope it works for you! Keep us posted and good luck :-)
alasia Posted January 15, 2007 Posted January 15, 2007 Do you really think that two weeks is enough for someone to recognize and accept the issues at hand? I just want to say that my boyfriend broke up with me a couple of weeks ago, it was my fault we split and it only took me a week or so to realise where I'd gone wrong and how badly I'd been treating him. So it is possible for people to realise their mistakes and want to truly change in the space of only one or two weeks.
Tormented Posted January 15, 2007 Posted January 15, 2007 Sunangel...I do wish you luck in your reconciliation with your ex. I must warn you, however, that the issues that broke you 2 up in the first place are still there and will rear their head again down the road....when the "honeymoon" phase wears off. My ex and I reconciled twice before our final split. It's so damn easy to fall back into each others arms rather than dealing with the pain of separation. In my case, it was a mistake. I now wish I had stuck to my guns the first time we split up. Not to mention it would have saved me the huge heartache I'm now dealing with. Maybe it will be different for you 2, but two weeks is hardly enough time to work through the problems in the relationship. Take it slow and continue to work on the issues...together. Just be cautious and accept that if things don't change, or gets worse, you will have to decide to either accept it, or leave. Good luck! ~T~
Author sunangel Posted January 15, 2007 Author Posted January 15, 2007 i appreciate all of your replies. i know i am taking a risk.............. but how about if it DOES work out. if i don't try i'll never know.
DyingHeart Posted January 16, 2007 Posted January 16, 2007 Go for it! Maybe it'll be better. Just be careful and keep your eyes open. I know if my ex wanted me back, I'd jump on the like a houndog on a bloody leg, lol. So, give it a try and let us know how it works out. Good Luck, Chrissi
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