pricillia Posted January 15, 2007 Posted January 15, 2007 Hi Polly Being a OW does not mean you have low self esteem, you could be a wife or a single gal/guy and still have low self esteem. Self esteem is an important part of a person, and the lack thereof is damaging to anyone... Yet again another judgement to OW we must have low self esteem to be in a realationship such as this, what about the person who does not want to be alone and is in a relationship just for the hell of it and then they wonder why they are miserable?
pricillia Posted January 15, 2007 Posted January 15, 2007 Eventually I was able to forgive myself. I think I might have misunderstood exactly what I was trying to say. To myself, that is. That is because there could have been a waxy build up... Q-tips Magic Q-tips...
BenThereDunThat Posted January 15, 2007 Posted January 15, 2007 What do I dream? Oh, I have a few... I dream the next round of interns will file a sexual harassment charge against himThat his wife finds out what a complete slimeball he is and leaves him for a more handsome, more successful, more LOVING manThat his OTHER OW finds out what a slimeball he is and gets his a** FIREDStay tuned...at least ONE of the above is about to come true....
GreenEyedLady Posted January 15, 2007 Posted January 15, 2007 Stay tuned...at least ONE of the above is about to come true.... Can't wait...Inquiring minds want to know... :bunny:
BenThereDunThat Posted January 15, 2007 Posted January 15, 2007 Can't reveal my entire hand just yet. exMM: Be afraid. Be VERY afraid..... You F***ED with the WRONG woman this time!
magichands Posted January 15, 2007 Posted January 15, 2007 You F***ED with the WRONG woman this time! I wish I would make that mistake, at least occasionally. But why waste any time and energy on somebody that isn't worthy of it? He can fry in his own juices... you have more constructive things to be getting on with. Like LoveShack. LoveShack rules. That is because there could have been a waxy build up... Q-tips Magic Q-tips... Maybe you can teach me how to use them? My ears are kind of floppy, so it can be difficult. I will lift you up with my trunk, if you like.
pricillia Posted January 15, 2007 Posted January 15, 2007 I wish I would make that mistake, at least occasionally. But why waste any time and energy on somebody that isn't worthy of it? He can fry in his own juices... you have more constructive things to be getting on with. Like LoveShack. LoveShack rules. Maybe you can teach me how to use them? My ears are kind of floppy, so it can be difficult. I will lift you up with my trunk, if you like. I will be very delicate with your floppy ears.... as for your trunk...
frannie Posted January 15, 2007 Posted January 15, 2007 Oh lets see why I am bitter. MANY REASONS. As for wanting to be here. I happened just to find this site. And read so much about the OW. None of which seems to be happy. I have wonder if this is a need to self punish yourselves. Something that happened in their lives that they feel they need to torture themselves and others. Now in dreams. Don't you owe it to yourself to get past the bitterness and start living again..? Put your life in order? Or don't you think you're worth it? To answer the question, I never really dream of MM. I tend to dream of people and pets from the past who seem to symbolise things for me. If I dream of people I try to see what they might symbolise... and if you're dreaming of MM still having moved on, perhaps it means that there are things about the situation that you still haven't dealt with? Perhaps if you could see what they were he might disappear from your dreams for good? Or remain as a symbol, but one you could attach no real significance for your future to?
BenThereDunThat Posted January 15, 2007 Posted January 15, 2007 BTDT... He has another OW already? Really? Yup...a married woman with triplettes. And I don't think she's 'already', I think she was 'all along'. I am so grossed out by all of it. I feel sorry for her though, because I know firsthand how he operates. I'm just glad I saved every single piece of correspondance. The man is a predator.
BUTAFLY Posted January 15, 2007 Posted January 15, 2007 What do I dream? Oh, I have a few... I dream the next round of interns will file a sexual harassment charge against himThat his wife finds out what a complete slimeball he is and leaves him for a more handsome, more successful, more LOVING manThat his OTHER OW finds out what a slimeball he is and gets his a** FIREDStay tuned...at least ONE of the above is about to come true.... You made me laugh out loud :laugh:
ratingsguy Posted January 15, 2007 Posted January 15, 2007 You know, it's funny. In 10 months of knowing her, I don't think I've ever dreamt about my xMW. What does that mean? I may have once or twice, but my recollection of dreams I've had is poor. Sometimes I know I've had a dream, but couldn't tell you anything about it.
BUTAFLY Posted January 15, 2007 Posted January 15, 2007 I had dreams in the begining. I would just see his face or he would appear amoungst the dream. Today I wonder about him at times...if he's happy...mostly hoping he's miserable but I could dream about him if I tried. I guess that means he is not significant in my life anymore.
Je Ne Regrette Rien Posted January 15, 2007 Posted January 15, 2007 You know, it's funny. In 10 months of knowing her, I don't think I've ever dreamt about my xMW. What does that mean? I may have once or twice, but my recollection of dreams I've had is poor. Sometimes I know I've had a dream, but couldn't tell you anything about it. Some people just don't dream RG. And sometimes, people are symbolised by other things in their dreams. I used to dream I was choking at the start of my relationship with MM. I never dreamt about him but I think it was my subconsious giving me a shove in the right direction. Either that or my dog was sleeping on my chest again lol
puddleofmud Posted January 16, 2007 Posted January 16, 2007 First of all PP: please read Posh's story, as she found out her partner was married and LEFT--so bosh off that one, OK? Otherwise, just stop bashing because I need some relief here and NO ONE is going to stop me from seeking to heal! As well, dreams are not rational nor controllable-nor are they reflections of one's morality nor desires--dreams just 'sort of happen' when one is ASLEEP. Imagine that?! I haven't had any "sleeping dreams" that I can remember--maybe I don't want to and that is why I awake and I don't recall. Otherwise, I still have too many a morning where I awake and my first thought is of him. And I do awake feeling very saddened and terribly lonely. I have awakened crying as well, sometimes in the night but more often in the morning. Sometimes I awake fighting, where I am sure I don't wish those feelings to occur. I awake in the night or in the morning with my head "racing" and mulled with thoughts, my heart pounding because I am just PISSED. Other times I awake so peacefully before the onset occurs. And more and more, I awake and "just awake" with none of this in mind. I call it, lately, my "three second rule" where I must deal with my first three seconds each day. I feel that by recognizing this--I can conquer in three seconds what may affect the rest of my entire day! I have day dreams, though, I do my best to control them. They mostly happen when I am bored, vapid, or frustrated. I also use the "three second rule". ONE, TWO, THREE, STOP. If that doesn't work, I think of him when he is not at his "best" as when he farts, is on the toilet, or when he got drunk and puked. OR anything else I can recall that is un-becoming about him. It only takes three seconds...
Author PoshPrincess Posted January 16, 2007 Author Posted January 16, 2007 First of all PP: please read Posh's story, as she found out her partner was married and LEFT--so bosh off that one, OK? Thanks for your support Puddle but I think you might be getting me mixed up with someone else! I DID know my MM was married (I am ashamed to admit!) as we were friends first but, yeah, I got out - eventually! Nice to have some back up from you all the same though. Thanks for that! We 'evil, selfish, lacking in self-esteem' OW have to stick together, lol. Can't believe that a supposedly lighthearted thread such as this is causing so much grief! Polly, I can't believe you have the front to say we have low self-esteem. Maybe some of us have. I have to say my MM gave me back a lot of my self-esteem although it was as low as hell after we split up. I doubt that his W can have much self-esteem to still be with him knowing what she knows but hey, each to their own and all that. Everyone has their reasons for doing what they do, good or bad, and I don't think my MM can be doing his Ws self-esteem much good to be with her for the wrong reasons but then my guess is she probably doesn't even know that. She's quite likely doing what my Mum did for years and burying her head in the sand pretending to herself that everything's ok. Whatever the reason I feel sad for both of them and despite still loving my ex-MM in some way I am SO glad I got out when I did! I just wish I'd done so before. BTDT, you go girl! What a total a***hole!
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