hugznkisses21 Posted January 14, 2007 Posted January 14, 2007 should someone be concerned if they are in a relationship for about 7 mths and their bf doesnt call as often, not as affectionate as in the beginning or sometimes dont make as many plans with you....but still loves you...is this just a honeymoon phase over? I notice we do alot of watching tv, or laying around chilling instead of going out and making plans...he doesnt say he misses me anymore and cutesy stuff like that?
MotherGooze Posted January 14, 2007 Posted January 14, 2007 Why don't you try and change that? Do something fun with him. Go out for dinner and flirt....tease him, play a little hard to get. If you do nothing but laying in the house all the day, things get boring easely. Why don't you go out? I'm sure you'll have lot's of fun together! Are you waiting for him to ask you to do something instead of watching the tv? Pick up the phone, and go out on a date with him!
Author hugznkisses21 Posted January 14, 2007 Author Posted January 14, 2007 i do do that I do not wait around for him...but sometimes i hope he will call or ask me out and he doesnt so i get a bit diapointed. He is the type that likes "his" times...How does one play hard to get when already in a realtionship. His friends tell me to do that with him cause he gets comfortable and doesnt work as hard for me in whcih they say i deserve...but otherwise he adores me like crazy
MotherGooze Posted January 14, 2007 Posted January 14, 2007 See, he doesn't have to do any effort for you. Well, why don't you go out with your friends, and enjoy yourself? Maybe he finds you a bit too clingy? Maybe he needs more space? I don't really know how your relationship looks like, but if you'd do more exciting things then watching tv together, things will approve. I'm sure he loves you, but men are easely scared of by too clingy or needy people. I'm not saying you are, because I don't know the situation very well. And playing hard to get...well, I'm not saying you have to play games, but why don't you go out more with friends, make it harder for him to see you. And when he does see you, don't meet at home, go out! Meet at a bar, a restaurant, whatever you guys like. Put on something sexy and tease him! Be a bit cheeky and assertive
Lauriebell82 Posted January 14, 2007 Posted January 14, 2007 i can kind of identify with ur situation. my boyfriend and i have been together for 5 months. we dont have sex as often as we used to and he's not as "all over me" as he used to be. unfortuntately the honeymoon phase does end, and chances are he is more comfortable with u now, so he feels he doesnt have to work as hard to impress u. thats guys for u. it sounds like ur boyfriend may be cutting down on the effort a little TOO much, so maybe u should try talking to him about it. tell him u would like to go out on dates occasionally and stuff, and that u miss him calling and being more affectionate. if he really loves u and wants to keep u he'll step it up a notch, if not then maybe find someone who will put in more of an effort.
bina Posted January 15, 2007 Posted January 15, 2007 yes, the honeymoon phase comes to an end eventually so you may as well just accept that fact. as a guy, i can tell you the last thing he will want to do is talk about how he no longer is overly sappy with you anymore. it would probably come across to him as you being needy, insecure, etc. you may say one thing only for him to interpret your words differently than you had intended. my advice would be to simply pull back a little. nothing drastic, but simply change things up a bit. i must question though, how is he already so comfortable with you that he no longer feels the need to try and keep things fun and to impress you?
LaughMachine Posted January 15, 2007 Posted January 15, 2007 Yeah now your in eachothers comfort zones. Time to spread apart , make time with others than boom bam spark is back! Instead of laying around being bums. Go out to eat, out to see a movie...Look at the upside of the phase being over now you guys are probaly best friends and can fart in front of eachother now right? haha
Author hugznkisses21 Posted January 15, 2007 Author Posted January 15, 2007 hahah no farting yet - i am SOOOOOOO not there...give me time Ive noticed since this stage we aregue more...i made a new post...any suggestions??
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