JohnnyBlu Posted January 14, 2007 Posted January 14, 2007 I now know that I hate love. My girlfriend and I have been going out for almost three years and have beautiful two year old baby girl. The first two years of our relationship were absolutely perfect(as I hear, that is the way it starts). After that she started to act very peculiar. She would get mad at me all the time for no real reason, and if I gave her a reason it would be the end of the world. The about three months ago she told me that was missing something in her life. After talking she tells me that she wants to have sex with another man. I knew then that I should have broken it off because that is not acceptable in my book. But, I did not. Last week, she asked me if I've ever cheated on her and said that it would be ok if I did so because she loved me. I knew immediately that she had done something wrong and wanted me to agree so that it would not be that bad. I would not betray her, and have not cheated on her. She finally comes out and admits that she cheated on me with a guy that she works with. She would go out with him and I did not like it. She said they were just friends but in the end they turned out to be more. She told me she only did it once and that she felt very bad about it. She know wants me to forgive her and stay with her. I am very broken up now. It has been almost a week and I can't stop thinking about it. I do not know what to do. My brain is telling me to end it and take my losses. My heart is saying that she deserves another chance. She lied to me in my face and said nothing is going on. I need to make a decision and basically set. I would appreciate any input or suggestions on the matter. Sorry for the long post.
RocketMan2 Posted January 14, 2007 Posted January 14, 2007 In my book, cheating is completely unforgivable. Will you ever be able to trust her again, and will she trust you? I feel your pain, ive been there. I took her back but it wasnt the same. We didnt trust each other in the slightest. I'd lay my cards on the table, make sure she realises exactly what shes done to you, and see what her reaction is. If her appology isnt up to scratch... Feel for you mate Chin up
lorr Posted January 14, 2007 Posted January 14, 2007 If she was unhappy in the relationship then she should have expressed her concerns and it was then down to both of you to take the situation on board. What irks me about this is, is that she went out of her way to lie on her back for another man knowing full well what she was doing, and then surprise surprise she now wants you to stay with her. You need to decide whether this is what you really want out of a relationship, and whether you can deal with the fact that it could happen again the next time she feels that she wants to get sexually and emotionally involved with another guy. IMHO she doesn't have any respect for you, and it looks like she is coming back to the relationship, viewing you as some sort of security blanket. You are worth much more than this, and you need to realise that people who truly love each other don't cheat, lie, and cause unnecessary heartache.Look at this as a fresh start for you by focussing and getting your life into perspective. Your main priority right now is providing for and being a good father to your daughter.That doesn't mean because you have a child that you are obligated in staying in a doomed and negative relationship.
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