Lostandfound Posted January 14, 2007 Posted January 14, 2007 Interesting question, and I would like to guage opinions on this. Firstly when someone feels love for someone, should they tell them. Secondly, how do you know its love, is it you think of them constantly, is it that you ghet all knotted up when you speak to them, or is it when you meet them say at an airport when they visit you or you visit them you have unbelievable butterflies in your stomach. Is it possible that someone can feel love for you instantly, or vice versa. And if so, can this love continue, or is it far too quick. And if someone says you are the greatest person they have ever met, you do things to me that no one has ever done to me before, is this love. Is it possible for someone to regain love for someone even though they live in a different country and the only contact is via sms or talking on the phone. "Making Love" When one person says to the other that this is the best they have ever had, and that no person before comes anywhere near to them, is this love Being there for them in thick and thin, regardless of distance is this love When you date with people, but the only person you think of all the time, is someone else is this love. Does Love conquer all!!!! Telling someone you love them, when you know the other person doesnt at the moment, is this good or bad. When you are in love with each other, how often should you tell each other, all the time, once a day, or less frequently, or only when neccesary, as it can devalue the meaning. Someone says they miss you very much, they care about you, ask you questions about what you have been doing and really show an interest, is this love. Is it possible to be in love with someone and not accept or realise it This one above I would like answered if possible
JohnnyBlu Posted January 14, 2007 Posted January 14, 2007 It is certainly possible to be in love with someone and not realize it.
pricillia Posted January 14, 2007 Posted January 14, 2007 Yes I think that sometimes you don't realize that you have something special until it's gone. Telling someone you love them is different from showing them that you love them. Taking a sincere interest in the life of someone shows that you care and want to get to know them... which could lead to love. Being In love is different than just loving someone. I believe it is possible to keep up a LDR, but holding that person and being in thier lives is a better recipie for relationships then the ladder.
lindya Posted January 14, 2007 Posted January 14, 2007 Firstly when someone feels love for someone, should they tell them. Yes. Secondly, how do you know its love, is it you think of them constantly, is it that you ghet all knotted up when you speak to them, or is it when you meet them say at an airport when they visit you or you visit them you have unbelievable butterflies in your stomach. Infatuation - but that's a pretty good springboard for love if it's mutual. Is it possible that someone can feel love for you instantly, or vice versa. Lust And if so, can this love continue, or is it far too quick. It can go on for months - or years, if it's a distance thing. Eventually it either becomes replaced by something less exciting and more substantial...or it just peters out. And if someone says you are the greatest person they have ever met, you do things to me that no one has ever done to me before, is this love. It's an exciting new experience with someone who makes you see things a little differently. Is it possible for someone to regain love for someone even though they live in a different country and the only contact is via sms or talking on the phone. Why not? What's love if not a state of mind? When one person says to the other that this is the best they have ever had, and that no person before comes anywhere near to them, is this love Hmm. Could be love, or could be someone trying to convince themselves that they're over an ex. I'd watch out for that one. Being there for them in thick and thin, regardless of distance is this love Yes, but saying you're on someone's side is pure chat. Following through on that promise is the only thing that counts. Does Love conquer all!!!! It can be a great motivator to achieve things. Telling someone you love them, when you know the other person doesnt at the moment, is this good or bad. It's honest - and if you can bear to hear and accept an honest response to it then it's also pretty brave. Which is good, as long as it doesn't lead you into stalkerish "I know you'll feel the same about me one day..." territory. When you are in love with each other, how often should you tell each other, all the time, once a day, or less frequently, or only when neccesary, as it can devalue the meaning. Oh for Christ's sake. Aren't you capable of figuring anything out on your own?
Author Lostandfound Posted January 14, 2007 Author Posted January 14, 2007 Quote: When you are in love with each other, how often should you tell each other, all the time, once a day, or less frequently, or only when neccesary, as it can devalue the meaning. Oh for Christ's sake. Aren't you capable of figuring anything out on your own? Erm, yes, I am, but guaging opinion on here. I agree with all of the above. To be honest, the answers given did not surrpise me, but one thing someone answered, it is possible to be in love and not realise it, what feelings would you have if this was the case, feelings about the person your in love with but dont know it, feelings of care, or feelings when you saw them only, Its an interesting one
lorr Posted January 14, 2007 Posted January 14, 2007 A couple of things my mother would always say "Love is loving someone without expecting anything in return;no judgements;no restrictions;no limitations;no expectations! Her other favourite saying that I live by is "If you want Love, you must first Love.Love begets love.You can not deliver from an empty wagon.You must first learn to Love yourself before you can give Love.
lindya Posted January 14, 2007 Posted January 14, 2007 Erm, yes, I am, but guaging opinion on here. I'm just kidding with you. Old Father William style.
climbergirl Posted January 14, 2007 Posted January 14, 2007 Erm, yes, I am, but guaging opinion on here. I agree with all of the above. To be honest, the answers given did not surrpise me, but one thing someone answered, it is possible to be in love and not realise it, what feelings would you have if this was the case, feelings about the person your in love with but dont know it, feelings of care, or feelings when you saw them only, Its an interesting one I was in love with someone and didn't realize it until the moment he told me he loved me. I knew I was in love because I had the strangest physiolgical response when he said it. In my 30+ years of dating I had never, ever felt that reaction.
climbergirl Posted January 14, 2007 Posted January 14, 2007 A couple of things my mother would always say "Love is loving someone without expecting anything in return;no judgements;no restrictions;no limitations;no expectations! Her other favourite saying that I live by is "If you want Love, you must first Love.Love begets love.You can not deliver from an empty wagon.You must first learn to Love yourself before you can give Love. I like these. Wise lady, your mom.
Guest Posted January 14, 2007 Posted January 14, 2007 Interesting question, and I would like to guage opinions on this. Firstly when someone feels love for someone, should they tell them. Secondly, how do you know its love, is it you think of them constantly, is it that you ghet all knotted up when you speak to them, or is it when you meet them say at an airport when they visit you or you visit them you have unbelievable butterflies in your stomach. Love is the most amazing thing ever. If I love someone I would tell them.Having butterflies, nervousness, anxiety are all part of it:) And if someone says you are the greatest person they have ever met, you do things to me that no one has ever done to me before, is this love. this could be love, it could also be that they are comparing you to an ex they are finally over and who never did this to them Is it possible for someone to regain love for someone even though they live in a different country and the only contact is via sms or talking on the phone. I think this is only possible if you two have had a relationship inperson before When you date with people, but the only person you think of all the time, is someone else is this love. yes! that is love Someone says they miss you very much, they care about you, ask you questions about what you have been doing and really show an interest, is this love. depends on the relationship if you two ever shared something together? also could just be because they care Is it possible to be in love with someone and not accept or realise it This one above I would like answered if possible love is amazing but if you lose it then it is the worst feeling ever! If I knew that I was never going to be able to keep the man that I loved, then I would rather have it that I never fell in love with him in the first place, because the pain of losing that person is unbearable
Author Lostandfound Posted January 14, 2007 Author Posted January 14, 2007 I was in love with someone and didn't realize it until the moment he told me he loved me. I knew I was in love because I had the strangest physiolgical response when he said it. Can you explain exactly how you felt, as someone said to me that they love me, and I was not sure at the time of my feelings, And if you are in love with someone who you believe that is in love with you but wont accept it ,realise it or admit it to your face, but to others, then what is it best to tell them your feelings have not changed despite telling them before.
climbergirl Posted January 14, 2007 Posted January 14, 2007 Can you explain exactly how you felt, as someone said to me that they love me, and I was not sure at the time of my feelings, When he said I love you- my body went through something resembling a panic attack, I suppose. My heart was beating so hard, I thought he had to have felt it. Never told him about my response-I feel corny enough mentioning it now. And if you are in love with someone who you believe that is in love with you but wont accept it ,realise it or admit it to your face, but to others, then what is it best to tell them your feelings have not changed despite telling them before. You mean that he/she admits it to others, but not to you? Sounds like a fear of rejection. And you don't need words to express love for that person. Or maybe I'm not understanding the question.
Author Lostandfound Posted January 14, 2007 Author Posted January 14, 2007 You mean that he/she admits it to others, but not to you? Sounds like a fear of rejection. Yes she does, and yes she did to me initially. This lady, told me she loved me after 2 days. And she says she has a fear of rejection maybe rejection is not the right word, "a fear of failure again" because both her last 2 relationships ended in disaster for her and her kids, as they had nowhere to live, and the kids were hurt because mum was hurt. But she has admitted recently to others that she misses me, loves me, and cant have me, although to me she says she misses me, but not love for the moment,
climbergirl Posted January 14, 2007 Posted January 14, 2007 Yes she does, and yes she did to me initially. This lady, told me she loved me after 2 days. And she says she has a fear of rejection maybe rejection is not the right word, "a fear of failure again" because both her last 2 relationships ended in disaster for her and her kids, as they had nowhere to live, and the kids were hurt because mum was hurt. But she has admitted recently to others that she misses me, loves me, and cant have me, although to me she says she misses me, but not love for the moment, I'm curious what the backround is here. So you two aren't together? Are you thinking that she doesn't want to try at a relationship because she's afraid of failure?
Author Lostandfound Posted January 14, 2007 Author Posted January 14, 2007 I'm curious what the backround is here. So you two aren't together? Are you thinking that she doesn't want to try at a relationship because she's afraid of failure? A brief synoposis We met (she is from a different country) I was in her country working. She told me she loved me fter 2 days, and the next day she told me she had a realtionship that ended 3 months ago badly. And that she was still speaking to the ex has they all lived together with her children, but sahe has told him she is in love with someone else now, ME We spent a coiuple of weeks together, and she went back to her part of the country, and we kept seeing each other, I flew to her on 3 ocassions, met the kid, who loved me, and she swore undefying love for me, and me with her. We spent he summer together, as she was working woith me again, and she wanted to bring her kids down and live with me, this never worked out, as the eldest did not want to move, so she went back gutted, but said it does not mean were not together, we can still see each other, and eventually when the eldst daughter moves out, we can take it further. Well move along and just after moving back to where she lived, she tells me that its over, (In september) and because she is scared of failing in another realtionship. Move along to Novemjber, she wanted to try again. And we met, to discuss . Now she tells me she misses me so much, and has told others the same, and told them that she loves me, and is always sad, but will not tell me the same. What exactly does she miss? God knows what she told the kids, As they love having me around and have asked a mutual friend why did they split up, they are so good for each other
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