Ace_of_Base Posted January 14, 2007 Posted January 14, 2007 Hi guys - I'm new to LS, and I was hoping to get some insight regarding my particular situation from all the relationship experts around here! So here goes - I'm 29 and a couple months back I met a girl my age online. We chatted and hit it off straight away. We went out twice and we both had a lot of fun on both dates. But then she had to go abroad to meet her family for a couple of months and we've been keeping in touch via email ever since. We ended up writing to each other weekly. But for the last couple of weeks I didnt hear from her, so I called and SMSed her 2 days consecutive with no response. My last SMS was to ask her out on a trip to the Carribean when she returned. On hindsight, I realize that I must have come across as quite clingy and presumptous to ask her out on the trip, but I guess I really missed her and wanted to spend time with her. Any tips on how I should handle things now, given that I have no way of getting in touch with her? Or have I killed things with my excessive contacting, and does it seem like a lost cause already? Thanks in advance!
magda Posted January 14, 2007 Posted January 14, 2007 I wouldn't blame yourself. Maybe inviting her was a bad idea, under the circumstances, but she may have been pulling away beforehand. I think you ought to just wait, and try and not think of it too much. She's out of the country, maybe she has a lot going on, phone died, hasn't gotten to check the email, etc.
Mezzi Posted January 15, 2007 Posted January 15, 2007 I wonder if she is ill or something has happened sounds like you only have a mobile phone contact number for her. Do you have a landline contact or rather can you get a landline contact for her from her friends? Better yet can you call one of her friends to enquire if she's okay. I dont think you pushed too hard or seemed clingly seems like something is wrong whether technical or otherwise, I think you should check that out.
Art_Critic Posted January 15, 2007 Posted January 15, 2007 but she may have been pulling away beforehand. I agree with this.. Maybe someone else in the picture.. you said she was going to see her parents.. maybe there is an old boyfriend there .. I wouldn't contact her anymore.. no more emails and no more text messages.. By not replying to you messages she has left the ball in her court and not in yours to contact again..
Author Ace_of_Base Posted January 15, 2007 Author Posted January 15, 2007 Thanks for the replies guys! Yes, I suppose the best thing to do now is to wait for her to get back to me. As they say - for new relationships, less attention is more. But its kinda difficult to stay aloof when you begin liking someone So I'll just hope for the best now.. Much appreciate your help.
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