jidgey16 Posted January 13, 2007 Posted January 13, 2007 I posted on here before about this guy I met almost 2 months ago... Long story short...we had AMAZING conversations...talked every night for an hour...hung out a lot...he told me he was waiting to have sex with the right person...we ended up having sex about a month ago...after that he stopped calling me as much...stopped wanting to hang out...(we've never gone out on a formal "date" just hung out at eachothers houses) So I texted him one night with...Guess i scared you off by being honest just wish you could have been honest with me"...he responded with yes i guess i was a little scared off...talking about feelings is tough for me...I wrote back with "if you wanna call me great if not that sucks but its ok" he ended up calling me that night...we had a great convo he told me it was great talking to me and that i should call him too once in a while...that i have a phone too...i responded with ok sounds good...the next day was my birthday...he texted me happy birrthday but no call...so i called him the next day...invited him out with a bunch of us...he told me no he had to get up early...then he called me tonight and we just bull****ted... So my problem is i REALLY like this guy...he has a great personality...but he never asks me to hang out and hasn't asked me for a formal date...i don't know if i should maybe just say no more talking...or keep talking to him...i just feel like there is no point in hanging out because nothing ever happens...please help...this is the first guy I have liked since me and my ex broke up a year ago!!!
GreenEyedLady Posted January 13, 2007 Posted January 13, 2007 I think you need to forget this guy...he got what he wanted and has now moved on...I think he probably wants to keep the line of communication open so that he can hook-up again with you when he feels like it... I'm surprised you're not mad at all...he kinda screwed you over... It's only been two months, I think your best bet would be to forget about him and find someone who will treat you better...
Reckless Posted January 13, 2007 Posted January 13, 2007 Since you guys talk so much why don't you just come out and tell him what you want. You would like to be his 'girlfriend' and go out and be exclusive (eventually) so tell him! Waddaya got to lose? He says, not really looking for a relationship right now (read: I'm really not that into you) or says 'yes'. It seems to me you haven't actually been that 'honest' in that you have settled for less than can make you happy so see if the pattern of the relationship can evolve. I gotta warn you that generally speaking men know what being someones boyfriend involves and have no problem going about being one if they are crazy about a girl ... but hey, ...go for it...
Guest Posted January 14, 2007 Posted January 14, 2007 this happened to me a thousand times. and the guy would act all friendly and chat to me, but no results... no nothing. then it drives u crazy because u feel like ok should i ask him out... etc etc but at the end of the day all the basic signs are there. this has happened to me loads. its sometimes just a stupid non forward way of saying... im not really fussed any more. guys are gay like that best thing is forget talking to him, if he contacts u say hi and chat. but thats it, talk about all the great things ur doing but be none chalont. works a charm. inside forget about him and move on. then just have a great time. a few times the guys iv done this with have come back running. and its such a great feeling because ur like hah!!! and if u like someone else u feel lusted after and if u dont ur like well u could have had me but now i have the upper hand! perfecto! good luck xx
ls3360 Posted January 14, 2007 Posted January 14, 2007 He seems either undermotivated or has a problem. Tell him that you've noticed a change and ask what's up. ...just as it looks like you've done once before.
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