Lonelystar Posted January 13, 2007 Posted January 13, 2007 My heart is so hurt. I want to yell at him and ask him how he could throw everything away and still say he loves me. I should be getting better, but it seems like I have these days when all I want to do is lay down and hide from the world. I know I should go out and do things, but all I notice is happy couples everywhere and I get so sad. I have been asked out a couple of times, but it seems like I'm attracting men that are weird, or are just not my type. I'm scared I won't make a connection with someone like I did with him. I guess I'm just venting. I have no clue how to get over this, and feel okay that we are not together. Does time really heal all? Or are there some people you never completely get over?
timo Posted January 13, 2007 Posted January 13, 2007 hey gurl time will solve all of this its normal for anyone when that happens to look for couples and places that they were in and so anything in ur mind sports go out with new friends old friends but dun be alone keep urself busy anyway
hrtbroken99 Posted January 13, 2007 Posted January 13, 2007 hey I am in the exact same boat at you...at least you are trying to meet people I could care less. I cant stop thinking about my ex and the thought of being near or even with another guy does not cross my mind. Besides, all the men I have attracted are just losers looking for a cheap hookup and thats it. I am also very scared I will never make a connection with anyone I like, like the way I did with my ex. It took me 5 years to even meet a guy like my ex, so I already know that not to expect some wonderful guy to fall into my lap anytime soon. I wouldnt even be suprised if I never even meet another guy that I connect with. I read some where eralier that once you find true love hold onto it, because it is really hard to find. I totaly agree with this. Well, I dont have much support to give since I am also suffering here, but from what I hear I guess time is suppose to heal, and as far as ever getting over someone? I don't know about that...I know if I never ever meet someone else who made me feel like the way my ex did, then I dont understand how I would ever get over him? He would always remain in my thoughts since he was the last person that I ever truly loved. In the meantime, try keeping yourself busy and focus on yourself, good luck:)
timo Posted January 13, 2007 Posted January 13, 2007 i wanna tell u somethin if u kept thinkin how u'll get over that u wont get over n dun try to find anyone right now cause ur confused so dun think about relationships n love cause that wont work
Author Lonelystar Posted January 13, 2007 Author Posted January 13, 2007 I was trying to meet other people, but it so hard when you can't find someone you connect with like that. All I think about is my ex because what we shared was special. He says he still loves me, but doesn't want to be with me right now because he has to think a lot of things over. Personally I think if you love someone so much, and want to be with them you would be. I know I need to stop thinking about love and relationships and focus more on myself. It is hard when everyone around you is in a relationship and thats all they talk about. Both my sisters are married and I guess thats why I feel the need to find someone and settle down. I wish love wasn't so hard!
timo Posted January 13, 2007 Posted January 13, 2007 dun care for anybody this time just talk with urself and forget ur heart for a while just think with ur mind only if u looked for every couple around u u'll never stop crying and thinking about him and dun worry about love now its ok that to find a partner is important in our life but everything has its time to think about now u have to releave urself from this thought that ur single an all of them married and in relationships just think how not to leave urself for tears good luck
Tormented Posted January 14, 2007 Posted January 14, 2007 I should be getting better, but it seems like I have these days when all I want to do is lay down and hide from the world. I'm scared I won't make a connection with someone like I did with him. I guess I'm just venting. I have no clue how to get over this, and feel okay that we are not together. Does time really heal all? Or are there some people you never completely get over? Hi Lonely... I know EXACTLY how you feel and the place you're now in. Boy, do I know. You ask if time really heals? Well, yes...eventually it does. But whether you heal properly is another question. Depending upon the circumstances surrounding the breakup (cheating, lying, betrayal, or just the loss of feelings) will dictate how long it will take for you to recover. I firmly believe that we get over our exes much faster than we do the lingering hurt they cause. Yes, you will heal, but sometimes "damage control" needs to take place to prevent permanent scars. You may get over him, but you may never get over the pain he caused if not dealt with properly. It could cause you issues in your future relationships because of the unresolved damage of this one. I don't know your situation, or if you and your ex are able to communicate in a civil manner, but if you find that you're having a hard time coming to grips, or find the pain deeping with time rather than diminishing, then it's very important that you connect with your ex and resolve the pain while you can rather than carry it with you. I just did that myself. And although I'm dealing with some sadness today, at least I can leave it behind and enjoy tomorrow without the baggage. ~T~
Lovestoomuch Posted January 14, 2007 Posted January 14, 2007 Lonelystar, I feel so much for you because I'm in the same boat you are. I did start running again this week and tonight I'm going to join a gym. It feels good to get frustrations out with a hard workout! I have to remind myself every now and then, but taking care of me comes first! Advice I've learned that from this website
Rooster_DAR Posted January 14, 2007 Posted January 14, 2007 Sometimes love and relationships are just a plain royal pain in the a**!
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