Guest Posted January 13, 2007 Posted January 13, 2007 My boyfriend and I have been together for over a year, we are very happy and are working toward marriage. But a thing happened that I just dont know how to feel about. There is this girl named Doray. Doray has been a friend of his for about 3 years, she helped him through a very hard time in his life and provided him with support when noone else would. I knew all of this about her 9 months ago when I met her for the first time. I was really excited to be meeting someone that has been so important to him and I looked forward to becoming friends with her. So we get to this party that she was at, we are introduced to each other, everyone hugs and says "hi". A few hours later my boyfriend wants to get his weed out of my car and Doray volunteers to run and get it, I give her the keys. They smoke, the party eventually ends, we go home. Once we got home I'm going through my wallet because we stopped at Mcdonalds on the way home and what do I find? $5 missing. I know she stole it, the wallet was right under the weed and there was only 4 $5's in there. It was her. I didn't know weather to tell my boyfriend about it at the time but friends encouraged me to, besides it is something I would most certainly want to know about if one of my friends had done this. So I tell him, hes shocked but he says he wont confront her because "its just not worth it". She moved away shortly after that and we have only seen her 4 times since then. Each time we see her he has said nothing to her and smokes her out because, as he puts it, she used to smoke him out all the time. I thought I was over this but I'm just not, it came out this morning in a big screaming fight because she drove down last night and they drove around and smoked. Its not the stupid $5, its that hes ok with someone treating me like this and he does not feel he needs to do anything about it because "I never see her anyway and I never let her in the car anymore and we know what sort of person she is now so whats the problem? She will just deny it anyway". What do yall think? He acts like I'm crazy for being really hurt by this.
pricillia Posted January 14, 2007 Posted January 14, 2007 I know that they are good friends but why does he spend so much time with her? But at the same time he should be concerned about this, but if you think that it was her, why don't you confront her yourself? Putting him into the middle of it and making him do the dirty work is a sure way to put a wedge between the two of you...
magda Posted January 14, 2007 Posted January 14, 2007 I dunno... $5 can easily go missing. It's been awhile, can't you have forgotten that you spent it on something? If it were me and a matter of $5 I would take the same line if my husband thought one of my friends had taken his money. I do not think that $5 is worth the confrontation and I doubt that it would be admitted or anything like that. You're basically ask him to destroy a relationship that barely exists anymore over $5. Now if she had emptied your wallet and wrote "suck it" in lipstick on a receipt, I would think something should be done. Under the circumstances, I would leave it alone. It's $5. Not worth it, just don't leave anything lying around next time, just in case.
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