daphne Posted July 16, 2007 Posted July 16, 2007 Ruby, This is going to be a bit of tough love here, but I really think someone needs to say it. You are what a lot of guys would refer to as high maintenance and overly emotional. Yes, your boyfriend is flawed. Yes, he pisses you off. But you cannot seem to control your emotions. You will never get a compromise out of a man by overreacting the way that you do, and setting unbelievably high expectations. There is entirely too much drama, and it could be so much simpler if you'd try to think more rationally about things and try to see his point of view from time to time. You say he's been wonderful to you, with the exception of the ignoring and seeing his child. You focus on teh negative, however. It sounds like you are taking \this guy for granted. If you break up with him in the state of mind you are in now, I think you will regret it once you realize that he does have a good side and he isn't a horrible person that you try to make him out to be. Nowhere in your posts do I get that your boyfriend is a total flaming a-hole. But you complain on teh boards like he is and a lot of women chirp in to agree because we all have complaints abuot men. This is YOUR relationship and it's your responsibility to figure out what's right for you. I think you're headed for heartache given the path you're choosing to take. He sounds essentially like a decent guy, flawed as they ALL are, and if you feel you want to take your chances out there with someone else without trying to do something different, that's your choice. But I think you should at least try something different and less drama filled and see if you get any results. Pick up a self help book. Please!
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