aikim Posted January 13, 2007 Posted January 13, 2007 My ex and I broke up 2 months ago for the 2nd time. When it was my birthday last month I was wondering if he would even say happy birthday to me to show that he still cared. Unfortunately, he didn't even mention anything to me, not even a text message. Now I'm in his position because his birthday is coming up. But unlike him, I want to say happy birthday in some form (e card) because despite our break up I want to show him I still care about his birthday. But now I'm thinking if I should or not. When It was my birthday, I broke the NC rule after 3 weeks to invite him to my birthday party maybe thinking that since it's my birthday he'll give in. But instead I got shot down because he said he would feel uncomfortable. His birthday is not until another month actually, but I'm already thinking about whether or not I should wish him a happy birthday. What do you guys think?
Guest Posted January 13, 2007 Posted January 13, 2007 hey thats a tricky question...my ex broke up with me a month ago. My B-day is coming next month and I am pretty sure he will not contact me in any way to wish me anything...he sounds a lot like your ex. My ex was also selfish and so I wouldn't be shocked if he didnt contact me but it would hurt. Anyway, I think it is up to you...I have also thought about the birthday matter, in a few months it will be my exs b-day and even if he doesnt contact me I know I will want to wish him happy b-day. I don't expect anything in return and I still love him and care about him and I think that is what's forcing me to wish him something in the 1st place. So , it is really up to you. Just don't expect anything in return from him. I also would not make a phone call or send him a store bought card because that is just way to personal and thoughful to do for an EXXXX. A text or e greeting keeping it short and simple would be the best. Good luck
hrtbroken99 Posted January 13, 2007 Posted January 13, 2007 hey thats a tricky question...my ex broke up with me a month ago. My B-day is coming next month and I am pretty sure he will not contact me in any way to wish me anything...he sounds a lot like your ex. My ex was also selfish and so I wouldn't be shocked if he didnt contact me but it would hurt. Anyway, I think it is up to you...I have also thought about the birthday matter, in a few months it will be my exs b-day and even if he doesnt contact me I know I will want to wish him happy b-day. I don't expect anything in return and I still love him and care about him and I think that is what's forcing me to wish him something in the 1st place. So , it is really up to you. Just don't expect anything in return from him. I also would not make a phone call or send him a store bought card because that is just way to personal and thoughful to do for an EXXXX. A text or e greeting keeping it short and simple would be the best. Good luck
alasia Posted January 13, 2007 Posted January 13, 2007 I don't know...personally I would, but I'm in a similar situation and I know others would probably advise against it. He didn't bother to wish you a happy birthday, so why should you break NC to do it for him? Officially I'm on a break with my boyfriend, but I just spent 4 days at his house and we've slept together twice this week, so I thought we were back together (he says otherwise...he still cares but can't get abck with me just yet, apparently). It's his birthday next saturday and I will get him a card but I'll put a short simple message inside and that's all. We're not technically on NC though, so your situation's slightly different. Sorry I'm not much help.
magda Posted January 14, 2007 Posted January 14, 2007 I vote no. Some people care a lot about birthdays and some people can't be arsed. I fall into the latter category so that's what I am basing this post on--I dont give a crap about my own birthday and only bother to remember those who habitually remember mine. Even then, I just don't get the birthday "thing". I find it a silly ritual. It's nice to be remembered but I don't keep tabs on whether people that I've cut out of my life mention my birthday. If they do I would say, "Thanks!" and think, *yep, still not over me*
BlueEyedSarah Posted January 14, 2007 Posted January 14, 2007 My ex and I broke up 2 months ago for the 2nd time. When it was my birthday last month I was wondering if he would even say happy birthday to me to show that he still cared. Unfortunately, he didn't even mention anything to me, not even a text message. Now I'm in his position because his birthday is coming up. But unlike him, I want to say happy birthday in some form (e card) because despite our break up I want to show him I still care about his birthday. But now I'm thinking if I should or not. When It was my birthday, I broke the NC rule after 3 weeks to invite him to my birthday party maybe thinking that since it's my birthday he'll give in. But instead I got shot down because he said he would feel uncomfortable. His birthday is not until another month actually, but I'm already thinking about whether or not I should wish him a happy birthday. What do you guys think? Don't send him a happy birthday message. You will be disapointed if he doesnt respond.
Guest Posted January 14, 2007 Posted January 14, 2007 ok...may i have age and birthday please according to my records - it states 39, dec. 30 did my assistant write down the incorrect dates? mistakes happen all the time with stats like this - just think about how many people are born every minute - sometimes people write down the wrong date, even the wrong name i get it all the time I'M A MC NOT A MAC to be perfectly honest with u, the only reason that is important is so we can CELEBRATE IT your beauty is ageless and i don't see a number - i see YOU
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