katballoo Posted January 13, 2007 Posted January 13, 2007 Would you read anything into this? Before we broke up my ex and I were due to go on a holiday - non refundable - in about a months time from now. A or two after the break up I asked him, what we should do about it- suggesting to go as friends. He didn't think it was a good idea and suggested maybe we just cancel and get the airline credit at least. Anyway he has to go away for work for two weeks and said he'll think about it when he comes back. A week later, he sends this email to me, firstly commenting on the lousy weather and sending some trivia jokes to cheer me up, and then, asks me to send the itinerary and ticket conditions to him. The tone was pleasant. I suppose he is thinking what is he up for if we cancel. On the one hand, I think we should just cancel as any illusions I have about using this as a tool to be cool and friendly and ultimately get back to gether is setting me up for upset. But on the other hand I am think it could be a way to be cool and friendly and get back together. I love him, and while it wasn't all my fault, a big part of it was. We still love each other ( I know he misses me) just doesn't think we can work long term together. What to do??? Send the itinerary and say - look I agree with your original thought that its not a good idea to go as friends. Or just send as requested and wait to see where he is at when he gets back. Or am I setting myself up for big disappointment? I would really appreciate feedback because my previous posts haven't been answered. Thanks everyone. Kat Previous Post How can he not contact me? Well here is my story - I have fell in love with a man four years ago and after eighteen months we called it quits. For the next year and a half we remained great friends, trying to work out what went wrong. He finally moved on and so did I as we were not working anything out. After 12 months of no contact he reappears and fully commits to us and our future. I was dubious but he sounded different. Indeed we went on to have a different relationship in many ways. Some things did change others didn't. Maybe we understood each other better, but we were happy. I know we loved each other dearly and he always said I was the best friend he ever had. We had a bad argument the day before CHristmas which was my fault and his fault. He has a tendency to not want to discuss anything if I am angry and shut me out. It drives me crazy!!! Instead of him saying sorry I didn't say sorry and he kind of broke up. Not intentionally but we did. I didn't plead or cry because I didn't think it was for real. Maybe he didn't either, we completely stuffed each others CHristmas and our holiday. Boxing Day I said sorry - but he wouldn't have it. Saying too late now. A week went by and he called for something unrelated and sounded chirpy - so was I. I thought he would finally say sorry, but he didn't and carried on. Two weeks later - I called to say hey what are we going to do about our holiday that we have booked and he said -cancel /refund etc. I suggested going as friends and started to talk about what happened. He was angry and said - now you want to talk - everything is on your terms - we were never going to go the distance - I just can't think at the moment. You didn't want to have anything to do with me over CHristmas and when I moved my stuff out. It is all too raw. I am going away for work for two weeks - Ill call you about the holiday when I come back' That was a week ago, and besides a text saying have a great weekend and I will talk when I get back- I haven't heard from him. This is not like him. It sounds like he really thinks we have no future and doesn't want to have anything to do with me. I thought he would miss me more than I miss him, but I am dying inside. I am doing the no contact and haven't cried in front of him or pleaded. At the same time, I have said, I love you on the couple of times we spoke. It hasn't made any difference. I think he is just stringing me along to see how he feels when he comes back in a week and a half. Because we have broken up before, in previous years, everyone is saying - he has had a few starts - it mustn't be meant to be. But they haven't been around the last eight months. We were going really great - I thought. Never a day passed by he didn't say he loved me, or how much I meant to him. I can't believe you can love someone and let them go - but like his last text said. 'Is better to have loved and lost then never to have loved at all'. What do you think?
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