Guest Posted January 13, 2007 Posted January 13, 2007 I have been with my bf for about 5 years. We lived apart for several months when I found a job in another state after college and he was still finishing up. He moved half way across the country to be with me, but now I am doubting that we will ever really be happy with each other. The main problem is that he seems to be getting back into gambling since he has a lot of time on his hands lately looking for a job. This is a major issue for me, since I went through this with him before. He was gambling nearly every night online for months and spent $3000 in one night! This is more than he made in 3 months of work. Finally he realized that he had a problem. I had to loan him several hundred dollars to pay off what he owed to the gambling websites, but at least he stopped for a while. Its not only the gambling, he drinks quite a bit. I tell myself thats how it is in college, but I honestly don't see him drinking less as the years go on. And he can be a very mean drunk. He has had problems with drugs in the past (mainly before I knew him) so I know the potential for substance abuse is there. I love him of course, but I feel like we will keep going through this over and over if I stay with him. I don't think I can handle it emotionally. My sister is a drug addict and its hard enough to deal with one person like that in my family, I can't stand the thought of having a husband like that. When do you know that enough is enough? I am not sure that I am ready to give up on us but I don't want to be a crutch for him either. I have asked him to get help, but even when he admits he has problems with addiction he says he can handle it on his own.
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