BenThereDunThat Posted January 13, 2007 Posted January 13, 2007 Bear with me. This is all probably going to have to come out in several posts, but wow. Damn. I just cannot believe how STUPID I was! I've been trying to be mindful of workplace politics and friendships, so I've been trying really, really hard to be quiet. I had inside information that exMM might be leaving the country so I was trying to hold out until then. Because I KNOW he has been reading my posts.... Just can't do it anymore. He is such a predator. I thought I was upset with myself before, because he was married and all....I told my friend tonight, on the one hand I'm happy to know what a sh*t he is, but on the other hand, my god, how on earth did I even fall for that???? I consider myself to be somewhat intelligent, no I don't have a college education, but I think I'm smarter than a lot of people I know who DID go to college. Not only that, I thought I had a pretty good BS meter. Oh, he is so gross. I am so grossed out at myself right now. I'm pretty well-read, and for having lived in the same city my whole life, I consider myself to be fairly well-rounded and open to all kinds of different people. Friends actually have described me as "worldly." Which is pretty remarkable for someone who's never travelled further than Mexico. I knew guys like him existed, but that really was only in books, in fiction. But you don't expect to actually come across someone like him in real life! It's almost fascinating. Almost.
whichwayisup Posted January 13, 2007 Posted January 13, 2007 Atleast now you know and you're closing yourself off from him, giving yourself 100% closure. Don't beat up on yourself too much...There are ALOT of really f'ed up and cruel people out there in this world, and they're real good at fooling EVERYBODY! Be glad he's no longer in your life!!
magichands Posted January 13, 2007 Posted January 13, 2007 I had inside information that exMM might be leaving the country so I was trying to hold out until then. Because I KNOW he has been reading my posts.... Hey there, BenThereDunThat's MM. Sorry, exMM. Sign up, it's cool here. I consider myself to be somewhat intelligent,Someone told me recently that I was "somewhat" entertaining. I told them to somewhat f*ck off. Which is pretty remarkable for someone who's never travelled further than Mexico.How the hell did you get over the wall? And past the guards? I could learn so much from you.
Author BenThereDunThat Posted January 13, 2007 Author Posted January 13, 2007 That's the only good thing - that pain is no longer there, the pain of thinking OH BUT WE LOVE EACH OTHER....If ONLY we had met in another time... We took our interns out for drinks tonight, it was their last day, and brought the subject of HIM up...he was always extra friendly to our young, nubile, pretty interns...and we all always assumed that they're young, just starting out, of course they're going to be receptive to someone with a VP title showing them attention! Turns out they're as grossed out as everyone else is. He PURPOSELY looks for a weakness. "You look upset, is it your boyfriend? You can talk to ME about it." When my boss died I really, really (REALLY) did not want to believe he would use such a horrendous experience to try and get close to me again, but dammit, that's exactly what he was doing. When I was going through my divorce, it was, 'he's coming to get his stuff today? Do you need me to come over and sit there while he does? Because I will....' 'You deserve so much better than him, you're a beautiful, intelligent woman, I just want to make sure you see that...' :sick: Now he's doing it to a married woman in our HR (!) department, who has triplettes at home!!! I want SO BAD to pull her aside and tell her what's up, but I know that would be pointless right now, while she's still in the "fog." This is a smart, normal woman. One that had her world turned upside down by getting pregnant with the triplettes (through IVF), JUST the kind of woman he preys on!!!
Porn_Guy Posted January 13, 2007 Posted January 13, 2007 yes i would agree you're not the typical hick BTDT....
magichands Posted January 13, 2007 Posted January 13, 2007 , you're a beautiful, intelligent woman, Yes, he's a predator. Yes, he's a jerk. Yes, you can't trust him. But he's not blind or stupid.
Author BenThereDunThat Posted January 13, 2007 Author Posted January 13, 2007 Magic! I have SO missed you and your ascerbic wit...I still say you need to write a book. I have a lot of favorite writers, but none who have just written responses to public internet web sites....
magichands Posted January 13, 2007 Posted January 13, 2007 Magic! I have SO missed you and your ascerbic wit...I still say you need to write a book. I have a lot of favorite writers, but none who have just written responses to public internet web sites.... Take me now. It's a nice dream, but there are more than a few people upset with me right now. (My life has narrowly escaped meltdown.) Something tells me I need discipline... a voluntary position is open.
pureinheart Posted January 13, 2007 Posted January 13, 2007 Hey BTDT..... ((((((((((big hugggggs)))))))))))....the heart has no brain whatsoever....man do I know how you feel....I was so repulsed at the thought of ex-MM....and still am....ewwww It's all just so hard....I too think ex-MM has been in this forum....and yes they are preditors and control freaks. Hey you are good people....and we do have to party some time, all of us! Just be glad you did not inherit a family of stalkers like I did....lol....
puddleofmud Posted January 13, 2007 Posted January 13, 2007 OM Gosh, sweetheart, what has happened to make you feel so badly? If it would make you feel better I am cyper-slapping your ex for all I am worth. And I am cyber-hugging YOU for all I am worth--which isn't much these days--since my sex-life has now been compared to shopping for shoes... No matter, we love you and want you to be all right... So let us know what we can do, OK? Kisses! Hugs! And Fairy Dust!
pureinheart Posted January 13, 2007 Posted January 13, 2007 OM Gosh, sweetheart, what has happened to make you feel so badly? If it would make you feel better I am cyper-slapping your ex for all I am worth. And I am cyber-hugging YOU for all I am worth--which isn't much these days--since my sex-life has now been compared to shopping for shoes... No matter, we love you and want you to be all right... So let us know what we can do, OK? Kisses! Hugs! And Fairy Dust! LOL Puddle....at least your sex life can be compared with something....mine is beyond pathetic
Author BenThereDunThat Posted January 13, 2007 Author Posted January 13, 2007 Hi Puddle and Pure! (YES, we do have to all get together - I'm thinking a spring beach kind of thing)... What happend to make me feel so bad? Ugh...so many things. Like I said, on the one hand it makes me feel good to know what an a** he is, and not that it was just a matter of bad timing..which, EWWW...we all know better than that by now, don't we? What makes me feel bad is the weakness. I'm a pretty strong woman, don't take sh*t from just about anyone. And this guy GOT to me. That PISSES me off. It's like I just checked my brain at the door. Like I feel like I just took my brain right out of my head and handed it to him - here you go, do what you will. WTF????!!!! That is NOT the way my mother raised me, I can tell you that right now!
magichands Posted January 13, 2007 Posted January 13, 2007 Hey, we all make mistakes. I'm sure it frustrates him to no end to have lost the use of your body. No wonder he is leaving the country.
Author BenThereDunThat Posted January 13, 2007 Author Posted January 13, 2007 Oh, for god's sake, Magic. He never had "use" of my body (not for more than 5 minutes, anyway. Bah DUM bump....)
magichands Posted January 13, 2007 Posted January 13, 2007 Oh, for god's sake, Magic. He never had "use" of my body (not for more than 5 minutes, anyway. Bah DUM bump....) Maybe you are so sexy that he couldn't control himself. Are you really being fair? I think it comes down to how much you like kissing. If you're not that fussed, then putting a bag over your head could make the experience last a little longer.
Author BenThereDunThat Posted January 13, 2007 Author Posted January 13, 2007 Magic, I say 'LMAO' a lot but rarely mean it. I read your post and sincerely, actually, laughed out loud.....
magichands Posted January 13, 2007 Posted January 13, 2007 Magic, I say 'LMAO' a lot but rarely mean it. I read your post and sincerely, actually, laughed out loud..... You're too sweet. Although I do enjoy my arses much more when they're attached.
Author BenThereDunThat Posted January 13, 2007 Author Posted January 13, 2007 Yeah, I know, I'm too sweet. Hellooo....that's my whole problem!!! :sick: I am grossing myself out right now. That's it. From here on out, BTDT is just going to be BITCH #1!!! Get in my way? FU! (way of what, I don't know. But STILL.) Get on my nerves? FU!!! Mhmm. This is IT, people! I have HAD it. (now I'm going to go pass out. the lion has roared....)
Porn_Guy Posted January 13, 2007 Posted January 13, 2007 (now I'm going to go pass out. the lion has roared....) hmm...someones been hittin' the sauce again
magichands Posted January 13, 2007 Posted January 13, 2007 I have HAD it. I haven't put it in yet... what are you talking about?
Author BenThereDunThat Posted January 13, 2007 Author Posted January 13, 2007 hmm...someones been hittin' the sauce again Why would you say that, PG? Did it occur to you that I might just be TIRED? Of course, you'd be WRONG, but still. Why would you jump to that conclusion?
magichands Posted January 13, 2007 Posted January 13, 2007 Why would you jump to that conclusion? I think he saw your pupils dilate. You're either drunk, or receptive. I guess he's not much of a looker.
Porn_Guy Posted January 13, 2007 Posted January 13, 2007 Of course, you'd be WRONG, but still. Why would you jump to that conclusion? cause you sometimes say mean things when you're on the sauce
Meaplus3 Posted January 13, 2007 Posted January 13, 2007 That's the only good thing - that pain is no longer there, the pain of thinking OH BUT WE LOVE EACH OTHER....If ONLY we had met in another time... We took our interns out for drinks tonight, it was their last day, and brought the subject of HIM up...he was always extra friendly to our young, nubile, pretty interns...and we all always assumed that they're young, just starting out, of course they're going to be receptive to someone with a VP title showing them attention! Turns out they're as grossed out as everyone else is. He PURPOSELY looks for a weakness. "You look upset, is it your boyfriend? You can talk to ME about it." When my boss died I really, really (REALLY) did not want to believe he would use such a horrendous experience to try and get close to me again, but dammit, that's exactly what he was doing. When I was going through my divorce, it was, 'he's coming to get his stuff today? Do you need me to come over and sit there while he does? Because I will....' 'You deserve so much better than him, you're a beautiful, intelligent woman, I just want to make sure you see that...' :sick: Now he's doing it to a married woman in our HR (!) department, who has triplettes at home!!! I want SO BAD to pull her aside and tell her what's up, but I know that would be pointless right now, while she's still in the "fog." This is a smart, normal woman. One that had her world turned upside down by getting pregnant with the triplettes (through IVF), JUST the kind of woman he preys on!!! Oh but these kind of men do exsist IRL and it's sad. I chalk it up to Narcistic issues. The fact that he prey's on the woman in the work place, just say's to me HE need's attention from woman to fill his alter ego! The good guy, "oh perhap's I can help act" is that, just an act! These type's of men need attention. A "Fix" for their Narcistic need's. My Xmm is the same way, I find it VERY sick! Sorry for your pain. Bring a mirror into the office and let him look in it and then laugh while he gazes at his pretty little self! AP:)
Author BenThereDunThat Posted January 13, 2007 Author Posted January 13, 2007 cause you sometimes say mean things when you're on the sauce Whaa??? When do I say mean things? I'm never mean. I'm only mean to people that hurt me....
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