Author pureinheart Posted January 14, 2007 Author Posted January 14, 2007 It is so good that you got out, Pure. I couldn't imagine living my life like that either, but I know several couples that do. She stays after he cheats, and cheats, and cheats. But, I figure, not my problem. That, and they are all such negative people: always expecting the worst from a situation. And that is usually exactly what they get. Its a kind of insanity. I can't say for certain what I would do if my H cheated again. I don't think that he will as he has really made a complete turnaround in many ways, but I am not so naive to say that he wouldn't absolutely. And neither is he. I am the child of a cheater, so there's so many directions I could take in a moment of weakness (or several moments if I keep making the wrong choices for me). I just don't believe in the "make him pay" mentality. I don't need the bitterness and anger eating away at me and stealing my vitality, destroying my dreams. They always pay. I just don't have to be the hand that rocks that cradle. There is no way on this earth that your H will cheat on you again, I don't see it, especially with the attitude that you have, no one could hold a candle to you and he knows it. I hate to see M's break up, good ones that is....yours and RMD's are the good ones, and that makes me really happy because it gives me much hope concerning my own future....I think the negativity I was in, hearing all of the garbage concerning ex-MM's M, gave me a bad taste for M....he didn't run her down, but I picked up on things, and heard from many people who knew them. I have thought of the "payback", but never have the heart to carry it out, not my job....just hate being mean, no matter what someone does. There are many good days ahead for all of us!!!!! (((((((Hugs)))))))
silktricks Posted January 14, 2007 Posted January 14, 2007 but I didn't have a lot of respect for my husband because he showed little for me. The respect has come back, but it was tempered with anger for sometime. I watch people. It doesn't seem to me that very much respect is shown between anyone anymore. It makes me sad to see so much anger and frustration, and so little love and caring. I hope that people start caring again.
Author pureinheart Posted January 14, 2007 Author Posted January 14, 2007 but I didn't have a lot of respect for my husband because he showed little for me. The respect has come back, but it was tempered with anger for sometime. I watch people. It doesn't seem to me that very much respect is shown between anyone anymore. It makes me sad to see so much anger and frustration, and so little love and caring. I hope that people start caring again. It's difficult to respect when it's not given back, I guess that is the real test... Some of the people at the company I last worked for were so rude, thought I would loose my mind....had to suck a lot of abuse up because I refuse to become like them. I notice there are days when people everywhere you go are just mean and angry....I feel real bad for those that have to serve the public, they really get the lashings.... I think people will start caring again....one person at a time!
marlena Posted January 14, 2007 Posted January 14, 2007 Sometimes it's not about what lines were crossed but more about what lines one learns that no longer can be crossed... ...poignantly put ...undeniably true ....
marlena Posted January 14, 2007 Posted January 14, 2007 You must be a rare and precious human being ...it is so apparent in your writing ... your friends and family are indeed very lucky to have you ...
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