unhappy 55 Posted January 12, 2007 Posted January 12, 2007 Is there any way to get back with my husband who left me 2 years ago after 21 years and 2 lovely kids. It seems I've done all the wrong things in these 2 years: being needy, depressed, unpredictable, i.e. allowing my emotions to control my life. I have however started a new career and made some new friends but I really believe that we should be together. He says it's over and he hasn't loved me for ages. He was definitely going through his mid-life crisis and was extremely over-worked for a few years before we split. He also, as I have since discovered, took a lover for a year before we split but that ended after our separation but he probably has other female company. He blames our separation on me. Please help
JamesM Posted January 12, 2007 Posted January 12, 2007 What caused the breakup of your marriage? If he cheated on you (as you now know) for a year without you knowing then, what makes you think you can trust him in the future? What part or shall I say, how are you at fault in the seperation? You say he was overworked, he was in a midlife crisis, and he cheated. Why did he want to leave you because of all that? Why has he not loved you "in ages?" Most overworked men who are in a midlife crisis do not fall out of love with their wives. What do your children think? Do they think the two of you should be together? Have you had any relationships with men since you have been (I assume) seperated? And if not divorced, why not? I am wondering why you think the two of you should be together. From what you have initially told us, there not only doesn't seem too be much possibility, but it seems that for you, the best thing would be a new honest and trustworthy man.
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