butterfly101 Posted January 12, 2007 Posted January 12, 2007 My boyfriend is mad at me and i understand why and i would be to if i was in the same place but get over it he says he wants to be friends and i ask him do you want to break up and he will not answer me he says i am playing games help i dont want to lose him i am not playing with him if i was then i would not be trying so hard to say with him
Guest Posted January 12, 2007 Posted January 12, 2007 relationships are hard sometimes - personally, at this stage in my life i crave a woman that is confident and just wants to honestly be with me, and not over analize things. i crave a woman that will not make me feel wrong for wanting her in everyway possible and accepts that i am true about love. i hope 2007 brings me such a blessing because, i admit, i am a better man with such a woman by my side. that is not a weakness - its understanding who u are and what u want.
Walk Posted January 12, 2007 Posted January 12, 2007 What did you do that caused him to get upset? And why did you do it?
magichands Posted January 12, 2007 Posted January 12, 2007 but get over it I say that to a lot of people. I think I would make a great therapist. Anyway, have you ever considered using full stops? If you carry on like that in real life, it may be difficult for a person to get a word in when they are talking to you.
Author butterfly101 Posted January 12, 2007 Author Posted January 12, 2007 i love being with him but when i get with him all this stuff comes in my head bad things that happen in the past and i have a trust problem and i am trying to fight it so bad i think he got mad because he made me fell good one night with himand i did not do the same i chickened out i want to say with him
magichands Posted January 12, 2007 Posted January 12, 2007 i have a trust problem What are you doing to work on it? You really didn't like my suggestion about full stops, did you.
Author butterfly101 Posted January 12, 2007 Author Posted January 12, 2007 i am sorry what is a full stop dont think i got that
magichands Posted January 12, 2007 Posted January 12, 2007 i am sorry what is a full stop dont think i got that Just me being silly. Sorry. I think I must be getting my period.
Author butterfly101 Posted January 12, 2007 Author Posted January 12, 2007 and i am trying to stop the break up i told him we need to talk and he said we have nothing to talk about i said yes we do he said we could be good friends and i said I DONT WANT TO BE YOUR FRIEND i dont want to break up i asked him do you want to break up with me yes no he cant answer me i dont think he does want to break up but dont know i think he is just really mad
magichands Posted January 12, 2007 Posted January 12, 2007 i think he is just really mad Give him a little time. Too much pressure can be a bad thing. Unless I'm on top, that is.
Author butterfly101 Posted January 12, 2007 Author Posted January 12, 2007 i am trying but i am scared to break up we been together for 3 months and it has been hell so if we break up it would have been all for nothing
magichands Posted January 12, 2007 Posted January 12, 2007 so if we break up it would have been all for nothing Unless you're meant to be with someone else. Then you might be delaying your true happiness. Or, even, missing an opportunity! Don't let the past dominate your future. Haha, I'm full of sh*t.
Author butterfly101 Posted January 12, 2007 Author Posted January 12, 2007 men what can you say about them so if he cant answer the question about the break up is that a good thing or bad thing
magichands Posted January 12, 2007 Posted January 12, 2007 men what can you say about them so if he cant answer the question about the break up is that a good thing or bad thing Just because he says no to a break up today... well, that really is no assurance. Try to work on the relationship, and don't worry so much about forcing answers from him. But... demand respect. Always. Be a good girl.
Walk Posted January 13, 2007 Posted January 13, 2007 Use periods. Full sentences, and full thoughts, okay? It's hard to understand what you're writing without those. Which will mean people won't bother to read your post, and won't answer. I don't know what happened to make your bf mad, and it doesn't really soundlike you know either. You just said you've been togehter for three months, and it's been hell the entire time. So why do you want to stay with him? Other than "you love him". That doesn't cut it. Why is this a good match for you? What are you getting out of it? What is he getting out of it? Sometimes you have to know when to cut your losses, and let a relationship go. Since you won't do that... you need to back off. WAY OFF. You're pushing him away. The harder you guilt him, beg him, pressure him to stay, the further he'll pull away. So back off from it. Until you can figure out what the problem is, then you aren't going to be able to save this relationship. You said something about how he "made you feel good one night" but you didn't do the same? You mean sexually?? I didn't understand you there. If he's breaking up with you because of that, then that's bogus. There's got to be more to it than that. And if there isn't, then he's an immature spoiled brat. You said you have trust issues. What did you mean?
ls3360 Posted January 13, 2007 Posted January 13, 2007 Anyway, have you ever considered using full stops? If you carry on like that in real life, it may be difficult for a person to get a word in when they are talking to you.:-) that is funny very funny i could not stop laughing and then i read more and laughed more you made my day :-) Butterfly, as people suggested it really is hard to read your postings when you don't use punctuation and capitalization. That's what was meant by "hard stops". I'm not sure I have understood you, but if I have, I think your own analysis is correct. You need to talk with him. If he really doesn't want to talk to you about it, you probably should accept that and move on. I think you said the relationship lasted three weeks. That's not much. You're young and you'll have many many more opportunities. However this one goes, please work on those trust issues you mentioned. Things will be tough until you resolve them. Please let us know how it goes. :-)
dropdeadlegs Posted January 13, 2007 Posted January 13, 2007 Here's my take... He has said you could be great friends. When you asked if he was breaking up, he didn't reply with a resounding NO!!! Guess what? He wants to break up. I would say he already has. If the three months you've been together are described by you as "hell" maybe he wants a piece of heaven. Maybe you should too.
magichands Posted January 13, 2007 Posted January 13, 2007 Here's my take... He has said you could be great friends. When you asked if he was breaking up, he didn't reply with a resounding NO!!! Guess what? He wants to break up. I would say he already has. If the three months you've been together are described by you as "hell" maybe he wants a piece of heaven. Maybe you should too. Listen to this woman. She knows what she's talking about. And when she doesn't, she uses her legs to brainwash you into thinking she does. Actually, I'm confused now.
dropdeadlegs Posted January 13, 2007 Posted January 13, 2007 Listen to this woman. She knows what she's talking about. And when she doesn't, she uses her legs to brainwash you into thinking she does. Actually, I'm confused now. Yes, listen to me. A man with magichands is never wrong.
Author butterfly101 Posted January 13, 2007 Author Posted January 13, 2007 the 3 months was hell dont know how to say this it was not all with him we have fun when we are together it was my parents being who we are and who he is they had a problem with that and where i work it is not easy to date someone
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