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I happen to work in a profession that is female-dominated. So most sr. vp's and partners are women. In fact our entire office is run by a single woman.

 

I'm sure some of them cheat though too.

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I sense a conspiracy to do away with all men. Hmmm.

 

:bunny:

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We have all been saying that for a while now. What's even funnier, the men they do hire all have kind of feminine qualities about them.

 

It's more just the industry though, for some reason it's mostly women majoring in it now and they are slowly taking it over!

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Hey RMD....

 

There is this "ethics" thing going on with major corporations and government contractors....ya wanna know why????? Because in my line of work, the Pres, and VP's created major scandals and was breaking news on the major networks....

 

Sooooo, because they did this....WE, the "little people" have to sit through hours and hours of ethics training...interesting....our pc's are monitored by security to make sure WE don't screw up....ROFL.

 

I had to crack up, my former employer made us sit through 8 hrs of ethics training films, and then we had hours more of pc based training....they used Enron as the example of "proper" ethics....this was several yrs back, but you would think they would have pulled that video??????

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That is hilarious, Pure. Yep, we all have to go through the ethics traning too. Mandatory.

 

And good ol' Sarbanes-Oxley is making all our lives miserable.

 

Thank you, Enron!

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Back to the original post.

 

The line can be crossed in two ways...

 

Physical. Obviously the moment there is sex. However, as soon as a kiss is exchanged, the line has been crossed by one person. It is up to both people to decide if they want to move into an affair or go back. The kiss is over the line, but there is still time to go back. One person can say no, and the affair stops, but usually this is already too late. Once sex occurs, it becomes incredibly difficult for one person to stop it. Then both need to consciously say no.

 

Emotionally. As long as both people keep there feeelings private, the line has not been crossed. And I think even if there is flirting or special glances, the line has not been crossed. But when a person walks up to the other and says, "I had a fantasy about us" or "I think that I am attracted to you" or similar words, the line has been crossed by that person. If the other person acknowledges the feeling and reciprocates, it becomes difficult for either party to cross back over.

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Emotionally. As long as both people keep there feeelings private, the line has not been crossed. And I think even if there is flirting or special glances, the line has not been crossed. But when a person walks up to the other and says, "I had a fantasy about us" or "I think that I am attracted to you" or similar words, the line has been crossed by that person. If the other person acknowledges the feeling and reciprocates, it becomes difficult for either party to cross back over.

 

What about saying, 'I think we're crossing lines here, I'm having inappropriate feelings and I wanted to get that out in the open so we can put it to rest.' Or 'I am concerned you may be having inappropriate feelings for me' or something of that nature..?

 

I disagree that just because nothing is ever said that nothing matters... exchanged looks and deep conversations can be really inappropriate, even though no-one comes out and says anything.

 

It's just such a murky area I don't think there are obvious lines to cross. That's what makes the whole thing dangerous... and so easy to happen. Because often you don't notice or can blow it off as not meaning anything.

 

And the people who think 'ah, that would never happen to me' are the ones with the biggest blinders on. JMHO.

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Back to the original post.

 

The line can be crossed in two ways...

 

Physical. Obviously the moment there is sex. However, as soon as a kiss is exchanged, the line has been crossed by one person. It is up to both people to decide if they want to move into an affair or go back. The kiss is over the line, but there is still time to go back. One person can say no, and the affair stops, but usually this is already too late. Once sex occurs, it becomes incredibly difficult for one person to stop it. Then both need to consciously say no.

 

Emotionally. As long as both people keep there feeelings private, the line has not been crossed. And I think even if there is flirting or special glances, the line has not been crossed. But when a person walks up to the other and says, "I had a fantasy about us" or "I think that I am attracted to you" or similar words, the line has been crossed by that person. If the other person acknowledges the feeling and reciprocates, it becomes difficult for either party to cross back over.

 

James, I agree that a kiss is crossing the line but so are many other thing's like hugging, touching. You cant just say it's all about a kiss. As far as flirting and special glances's, That's crossing the line in my book, How do you think most affair's start? Glance's, attention all not a good thing.

 

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