insomnie Posted January 11, 2007 Posted January 11, 2007 My "soulmate", in no particular order: -reads for pleasure, at least occasionally -has SOME (even if minimal) appreciation for art -loves music and can expand my musical horizons -loves camping/ hiking/ white-water rafting/ skiing and wants to do these things with me even though I suck at them because my family never took me -plays sports/bikes/runs and is in decent shape -does not suck at math -is "smart" -has either a college degree or a good reason why not -gets my occasionally-freaky brand of humor or at least is not repulsed by it -likes how I am not very "girly" but will still wear the pants in the relationship -is a good driver -wants to have sex on average at least 3 times / week -is capable and willing to have all different kinds of sex, including "making love", "semi-kinky", "rough", and "lazy" -likes blowjobs -views sex as an expression of love/closeness- not too slutty but not too prudish, either -thinks I am very sexy and comes on to me a lot -plays video games, while still having a healthy interest in "real life" -can be spontaneous (for example, would not be opposed to a spur-of-the-moment midnight stroll) -casual drinker and smoker (2x - 4x / month) -more introvert than extrovert -values alone time and takes plenty of it -has a few good friends, but is not a social butterfly -is not entirely "socially retarded" -makes some effort to get to know my friends and family -is not too much of a chatter and does not have the need to fill every silence with words -wants to have a good, healthy relationship and knows how to -wants to get married someday, and to have children -likes spending casual time with me -knows "quality" time is important, and will sometimes go out of his way to ensure we spend some -is affectionate -tells me he loves me and means it -likes to spoon -thinks I am special and worth making some sacrifices for and holding on to -is capable of being romantic sometimes (I don't ask for much in this particular category but remembering my bday, for example, is important) -wants to "take care" of me (for example, when I am sick) and offers emotional and physical support -wants to be involved in my life -will fight for the relationship if need be -reads the newspaper and likes talking politics, though not all the time -votes democrat -is liberal, but not too liberal -is "personally" conservative (as in...no open relationship type stuff) -is an atheist -likes to travel -likes my family/realizes they are important to me -is taller than me (5'8) -is thin, but strong -is not hideous to me Disclaimer (since I seem to have a knack for pissing people off in this particular forum): I know it is coutner-productive to have a list of characteristics against which to measure potantial lovers, I know love transcends lists, I know no one is perfect, etc. This is just for fun. Let's hear yours.
TheDC Posted January 11, 2007 Posted January 11, 2007 I'm sorry but I don't recall having ever met you. But it seems like you already know me
CaliGuy Posted January 11, 2007 Posted January 11, 2007 I know this one woman who's perfect for me. Unfortunately she lives thousands of miles away PS: I vote Independent and I don't smoke -- plus I'm extroverted. haha. I'm OUT!
RecordProducer Posted January 11, 2007 Posted January 11, 2007 Insomnie, you sound like you've never been married. A divorced person wouldn't talk about music, height, reading or camping. He'd say: - a woman who doesn't nag - a woman who cooks and cleans - a woman who doesn't spend a lot - a woman who is happy with her husband by default
Touche Posted January 11, 2007 Posted January 11, 2007 Ok, I'll play. I already have my soul mate so I'll describe him: Tall (6 ft), blue eyes, light brown hair starting to grey. Graduate degree Sense of humor Kind and considerate Unpredictable Honest and has loads of integrity Conservative on the outside but a little bit wild in private:love: Into history and travel Perfect teeth (not to be understimated) Wonderful father Patient (most of the time anyway) Treats me like a goddess:love: ALWAYS ready for sex Loves heated debates with me We have many of the same interests Is affectionate in words and gestures Can argue in a mature way without "losing" it or resorting to name-calling Is conservative like I am Believes in god like I do Is a hard-worker..not lazy Good with money Wants to please Is ONE IN A MILLION!
Walk Posted January 11, 2007 Posted January 11, 2007 Good list Insomne! I just wanted a guy who wasn't a selfish bastard and didn't use me as his portable hole. Just kidding. You listed off a majority of things I was looking for in a SO. Amazingly enough, I got almost all of those in my bf. I think the next step would be to differentiate between what you want, and what you need in a partner. Some of those items would be nice to have, but I wouldn't dismiss a guy who didn't match all of them. The better you can visual what you want, the better your chance of achieving it gets. And if you can do that, then you'll be one of the rare people who actually knows when they get what they wanted.
Marielle Posted January 11, 2007 Posted January 11, 2007 I ll make it simple: My ideal guy would be the actor and character in that 90's movie "About cat's and dogs" with Jeanine Garofalo and Uma thurman. His personality (manly, good guy, but sensitive, passionate and a bit vulnerable) also phisically my taste (boy next door). I would fall for him right now!!!!!!
CaliGuy Posted January 11, 2007 Posted January 11, 2007 (manly, good guy, but sensitive, passionate and a bit vulnerable) also phisically my taste (boy next door). That's me
2sunny Posted January 11, 2007 Posted January 11, 2007 Any man I want to spend time with needs to possess these qualities: (not necessarily in this order) trustworthiness loyalty patience humor smarts intuition love of family respect of self, women and others enjoyment of simple things ability to provide monetarily faith based love of sports - but it does not control all of his time interest in reading and growing loves animals, babies and old people loves the beach and music has a positive disposition thinks I'm a good addition to their life is happy in general also - challenges me with: conversation intelligence humor
amaysngrace Posted January 11, 2007 Posted January 11, 2007 I have my perfect BF. He's perfect for me anyway. He's fun and funny. Thoughtful. Tall. Muscular but thin. Has a sweet sexy voice. Plays guitar drums and piano. Writes and sings songs to me. Surfs like Spiderman. Is extremely sexual. Taught me to dance fancy. Gives me support and TLC if I have a bad day. Always tries to find solutions to problems I have. Is good to my children. Is a big kid himself. Has deep thinking. Is a good communicator. Lives life. Loves life. Loves me.
Lauriebell82 Posted January 12, 2007 Posted January 12, 2007 i too already have the perfect boyfriend: he's: -tall-5'10, muscular, built GREAT -sweet -caring -loving -smart -hard working -determined -good with money -sensitive to my needs -so wonderful, he visits me at college -likes to work out and keep heathly -goal oriented and career driven -always ready for sex -strives to give me pleasure -always is there for me when i need him -talks to me about whatever i want *is the best, and most loving boyfriend in the entire world
whichwayisup Posted January 12, 2007 Posted January 12, 2007 Sheeyt that don't stink Can breathe through his ears and LOVES giving oral sex Can fvuck like a jack rabbit No morning breath Will give back scratches/massages too, no complaining. LOL!
Lostgurl Posted January 12, 2007 Posted January 12, 2007 I'm sorry but I don't recall having ever met you. But it seems like you already know me lol, that was cute
Lostgurl Posted January 12, 2007 Posted January 12, 2007 Will give back scratches/massages too, no complaining. LOL! MMMM that is what i long for my baby to do! But he never does! I always give him massages, and when i finally get mine they are light rubs when i want deep tissue damn it
kbah Posted January 13, 2007 Posted January 13, 2007 Insomnie....every single one of those characteristics describes my boyfriend exactly until you get to the introvert part....but he's mine so HA! hahaha...this is fun and I'll play too... -quirky-which reflects his sense of humor -playful -tall (5'11'' and up) -slender build but toned -lighter coloring in hair and eyes -nice tight booty -has artistic abilities/interests -sensitive yet still has that rugged manliness from time-to-time -sexual in an open manner-can be playful, rough, sensual -open-minded -spontaneous and "up for anything" -a "do-er"--doesn't just sit around -confident but not cocky...at all -goal-oriented -educated and well-spoken -kind to random people (big turn-on) -protective of me and my loved ones -passionate about his loves (including me)
magichands Posted January 13, 2007 Posted January 13, 2007 -sensitive yet still has that rugged manliness from time-to-time From time to time? Where does it go?? Does he occasionally shave it off... is that what you mean?
guy named mike Posted January 13, 2007 Posted January 13, 2007 - shorter than me (6 feet, shouldn't be too hard) - cute (this is more personality than specific looks) - good shape (not muscly, but not fat) - shaved legs/armpits - smart (absolutely essential) - geeky (not a requirement, but I like it just the same) - likes to spend time with me - likes to cuddle - enjoys oral - kinky Is it bad I only have 10 things on my list?
dropdeadlegs Posted January 13, 2007 Posted January 13, 2007 Wow, those are some long lists! Here's my short one. -Respectful -Makes me laugh, even if you don't think he's funny; not too serious -Good work ethic, but not necessarily loaded in the money dept. -Creditworthy, knows that bills have to be paid and budgets based on his means -Uninhibited sexually -Taller than me (that's shallow, but not hard to achieve, I'm 5'5") -Has longstanding friendships -Likes my kids, cause they come with the package, and they're pretty easy to like! -Has common sense and logical thought processes, no PHD or degree needed That's about good enough for me. I assume he loves me, most people do!
Guest Posted January 13, 2007 Posted January 13, 2007 My "SPIRITMATE", has sooooooo many great qualities so this might be a tad long: -first of all, she is someone i trust entirely. she is the only person i have told my secrets, fears, and hopes to and she never makes me feel stupid about that. - she has a ridiculous amount of energy, she reads constantly, is always learning, and is a great writer [i pushing her to write a novel] -she paints, sings, writes songs, poetry, loves photography, the outdoors -she has a great musical range and has introduced me to music i might never have heard - she shares her halloweeenie candy with me and lets me eat all the snickers bars in bed - she showed me the importance of the g-spot - she knows i am addicted and still loves me -she loves camping, while i am a resort guy - she lets her fears go with me, planes, singing, etc - she puts up with my bad driving, and a whole 2 years of when i had to get my diapers changed and grow up - she always sneaks things in without telling me so i get to figure what she is saying - she has a vibe that directs me to the weirdest places to find clues about her - she is the best mother in the world and places her daughter above all - she teaches her duaghter what healthy relationships are about - she is not a survivour but a warriorgoddess and kicks but to those that mess with her - she can eat a whole steak before i finish my peas - she loves doing tghings with me - she reads to our kids - she is a tech guru and should work for csis - she is faithful, loyal, forgiving, trusting, secure, a friend and companion - she values her friends and tackles issues from her past - she is beyond heaven when we make love - she cares deeply about issues that matter and she impacts the lives of everyone she touches - she will accept my marriage proposal when she is ready and we will honeymoon in spain - she is a great driver - she is tolerant, patient, understanding, team work, great decision maker - never agrues, nags, looks at both sides of the coin - is creative, curious, clever, sneaky, bashful, beautiful, gracious, compassionate, loving, and takes care of her health - she allow me to participate in her life in ways that she doesn't really want to but does so because she has learned to trust me and that i am doing hese things for her - she has amazing style, and taste in clothes and looks great in anything or in her bathing suit - she has shaved my face - she sings in the shower - she complains when needed and tells it as it is - she has degrees and certificates and appreciates education - she puts up with my surburn white trash hip hop [un huh] and have written the most amazing songs i have ever heard - we sing in harmony and write together - she taught me what a garden is gets my occasionally-freaky brand of humor or at least is not repulsed by it - she is addictive to sims and the bionic women - she enjoys our initimate moments even tho i am not the best lover - she know how to react naturally without words - her eyes could start ww3 - she plans ahead and believes the glass is half full - she looks sexy wearing her glasses, nibbling on a pencil, and doing database stuff - she introduced me to some things sexually that i never experienced and never once made me feel goofy - she can wake up with perfect hair - she has over 43 pairs of pjs - she loves christmas, vally day, birthdays and invented the happy dance - she once gave me 500 buck so i could score some blow and when she found out she moved out - smart move - she is influnced my her past but has an eye on the future - she has many health problems, but knows we all do, and lets me stick my fingers in her mouth - she beat me at bloody knuckles once - she like playing solitare and card games and enjoy the quiet company of a good man that treats her right - she is an amazing dancer - hugs the best, kissing her is to die for - she has grannie undies and sexy stuff too - she hates it when people don't clean up after themselves and when cats pee on everything - she is the most reliant woman in the world i love her to death [think that's why she left - lol]
the_alchemyst Posted January 13, 2007 Posted January 13, 2007 Let's see: Good sense of humor; mainly one that is just plain silly (I like goofyness)Intelligence--this is a big thing for me: I'd like him to be somewhat/pretty booksmart, but preferably much more well-versed in something I'm not that good at, like computer stuff, so that we could complement each otherRespectful of himself, me, and othersThoughtfulAffectionate--this is another big one for me. I'm a very affectionate person: I love to hug and kiss and buy/make little things so my SO, so I'd want to be with someone who is the sameSensitivityStability--a guy who knows he loves me and wants to be with me and is not wishy-washy about it. I'm not doing that again.Mellowness--I do not want to be with someone who gets upset over the smallest and most trivial thing and have him be angry/upset at me for days, weeks, months because of it. Again, not doing that again.Conservatism--Mainly morallyPreferably someone who does not drink or smoke. Maybe very casually, but not big on it.Introversion--I'm not fond of social butterfly-party guys. No way. No thanks. I'm not doing this again, either.Wants to get married and have a child. Or maybe two. Someday.Likes videogamesIs taller than me, but not too tall . . . nothing over 5'10", here.Has longish shaggy-style hairHas a beard/likes to grow a beardHas a Bohemian/artsy type of look to him/his clothing--nothing punk or any other monstrosity like thatBuys me flowers from time to time; calls me everyday, even if only to say goodnight and I love you; treats me well, just like I will; remembers that I am a lover of the little things in life, and that I appreciate a little flower left of the windshield on my car or a big bear hug rather than something expensive or luxurious; someone who knows I'm quiet and introspective, and that sometimes I am strange and don't make much sense, but that will appreciate me and my love regardless of my discrepancies. Is that too much?
pricillia Posted January 13, 2007 Posted January 13, 2007 NO Suits Please! Sense of humor Loving caring
kbah Posted January 14, 2007 Posted January 14, 2007 From time to time? Where does it go?? Does he occasionally shave it off... is that what you mean? Meaning...he is a sensitive-type and not always macho man....but he has that manly side to him from TIME-TO TIME....
Teacher's Pet Posted January 14, 2007 Posted January 14, 2007 Wow, those are some long lists! Here's my short one. -Respectful -Makes me laugh, even if you don't think he's funny; not too serious -Good work ethic, but not necessarily loaded in the money dept. -Creditworthy, knows that bills have to be paid and budgets based on his means -Uninhibited sexually -Taller than me (that's shallow, but not hard to achieve, I'm 5'5") -Has longstanding friendships -Likes my kids, cause they come with the package, and they're pretty easy to like! -Has common sense and logical thought processes, no PHD or degree needed That's about good enough for me. I assume he loves me, most people do! FINALLY... Someone I match. -tp 5'8" of raw sex.
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