typical Posted January 11, 2007 Posted January 11, 2007 I have been wondering something for a spell now, and thought I would share........ Suppose you were in a very abusive relationship in the past. You did your best to heal and move on, and since then, you rarely think of those days... Suppose also, that someone recently came into your life that you love, respect and admire, and have been thinking of progressing possibly...**but** for some reason, when you are in this persons company, you find yourself faintly reminded of that abusive person from your past.... You know that the timing has nothing to do with it....because you have had a long term relationship since that abusive relationship...and rarely thought of that person....but for some reason, this new person is dredging up some awful memories, and nitemares, and you dont know why....they look nothing alike, they act nothing alike, even their ages and cultures are drastically different........so why then, are all of these horrible memories of *that horrid man* surfacing? Why sometimes when you talk with this guy, you get uneasy vibrations and flashes of that abuser in your mind? Could this be your body's way of recognizing danger and is waving a red flag??
norajane Posted January 11, 2007 Posted January 11, 2007 Maybe you really feel something for this new guy, and it's triggering some of the intense emotions from the last time you really felt something. You're afraid of getting into a relationship where you aren't in control of your emotions.
Author typical Posted January 11, 2007 Author Posted January 11, 2007 and it's triggering some of the intense emotions from the last time you really felt something. You're afraid of getting into a relationship where you aren't in control of your emotions. Possibly, but I always have intense emotions with those I am interested in.... It just scares me, and it makes me be even more distant with him than I already am, and whats worse is that he can sense it and wants to know why I am always running away from him...I brush it off, and just say I am busy with everyday life, and not to take it personal, but I can tell he's not buying it... You dont think there is something more to this?? Something I might be missing? And why didnt I think of that horrid man when I began my last tumultuous relationship???
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