CaliGuy Posted January 11, 2007 Posted January 11, 2007 Sorry, 30 minutes late and she won't find me. I give 'em 15 minutes then I am gone. Disrespecting my time is disrespecting me.
vanessabg Posted January 12, 2007 Posted January 12, 2007 Its not just girls that are late, guys are late as well. It depends on the person. Some people feel its important to be on time, and some have no consideration in regards to time. Yes!i agree to The Riddler:here,its not girls that late,boys are late also.
Poboy Posted January 12, 2007 Posted January 12, 2007 Some women that are ALWAYS late are late because they are trying to control the situation. It is about power and control... +1 also applicable to guys too
jusified Posted January 12, 2007 Posted January 12, 2007 In general, I guess everyone is different. I personally see people that are flakey (i.e been late, cancel last minute) to be disrespectful and who don't think you are important to them. I'm sure there are alot of people who don't care if they are late or their partners are late, so each to their own.
stillbits12 Posted January 13, 2007 Posted January 13, 2007 I am habitually late -- whether for guys or for my own friends. I never mean to and I always feel guilty when it happens, but a lot of the times situations come up that are beyond my control. For example, phone calls from mom, resident issues (i'm a Resident Assistant in college), girlfriend breakdowns, makeup catastrophes, etc. It's not like I'm aiming for the power struggle game or don't respect the other person though. I'm trying to change, I am.
Porn_Guy Posted January 13, 2007 Posted January 13, 2007 I am habitually late -- whether for guys or for my own friends. I never mean to and I always feel guilty when it happens, but a lot of the times situations come up that are beyond my control. For example, phone calls from mom, resident issues (i'm a Resident Assistant in college), girlfriend breakdowns, makeup catastrophes, etc. It's not like I'm aiming for the power struggle game or don't respect the other person though. I'm trying to change, I am. but everyone has these things come up....its a constant in everyone's life. So how do the people who are on-time do it?
stillbits12 Posted January 13, 2007 Posted January 13, 2007 but everyone has these things come up....its a constant in everyone's life. So how do the people who are on-time do it? They're just better people, I guess. I figure if the person really cared about me, s/he wouldn't care if I was late 5-10 minutes (which is about as late as I get; I'm not ridiculous like 30 min late). S/he would be understanding enough to overlook this minor social mishap and if s/he knew better, s/he would give me 15 minutes head start. A lot of my friends have learned to tell me that we'll meet 15 minutes later than we really are.
AriaIncognito Posted January 13, 2007 Posted January 13, 2007 The guy I'm seeing is ALWAYS 15 minutes late. For everything. Including his own job lol. I dont understand it. I've learned to just pad the times so we aren't late to things, and I imagine he'd turn into an "on time" person if he lived with people that forced him to leave when they did. The times he's stayed here before work are some of the only times he's gotten there on time, if not even early lol. I find it annoying, because well, I'm an on time kinda person. Yes, sometimes traffic happens. Or you spill something on yourself and have to change so you end up late. But, this doesn't happen daily. Today he's supposed to be here at 630. I'll be ready by 645 or 7, and I'll STILL be done before he gets here lol It's annoying but really, you pick your battles. What if you find someone who is great, but happens to always run consistently late? Either you can dump them, hoping to find someone will all the same qualities plus the on time thing, or you can just start padding times and compensating for their weakness. I've chosen the latter, until he gives me reason to otherwise change that.
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