joel Posted January 11, 2007 Posted January 11, 2007 so far with my dates most of em have been through the net, and i gotta say whenever i ask to meet up with them, they are always late. be it 10-15 min to even one was 35 min late. why is that. with my guy friend its differ we always there on time or even a little earlier. are women being late a sign of-"hey i'm the prize, and i'm worthy so wait for me" , does it rev the guy or something. what is it with women and being late. and also why????? i find it being very discourteous, rude since i am early on time or early 10mins. i gotta say with one girl yesterday she didn;t even show up-this is the 2nd time. ya you can say makeup and looking good, but she doesn;t apply makeup or anything-most were plain janes, jeans, t shirt,what not.
princessa Posted January 11, 2007 Posted January 11, 2007 We're late cause you can never predict how your makeup is gonna turn out. Makeup is an art, and sometimes it takes an extra 15 mins to get the inspiration for it, let alone get it to look the exact way you had imagined the masterpiece prior to executing it. But if you've been stood up that's a whole other issue. If she doesn't show up at all then forget about her she's not worth the time. I don't even know why there was a 2nd time for you with that girl?!
Pyro Posted January 11, 2007 Posted January 11, 2007 Its not just girls that are late, guys are late as well. It depends on the person. Some people feel its important to be on time, and some have no consideration in regards to time.
amaysngrace Posted January 11, 2007 Posted January 11, 2007 I run late a lot and I think it's rude of me. I think I underestimate the time I need to get out the door or something. Or maybe I procrastinate. My BF complimented me though. He said I always take time to look nice for him, picking out clothes and making sure I look good. I guess he doesn't have a problem with my tardiness as long as I show up.
Pyro Posted January 11, 2007 Posted January 11, 2007 I run late a lot and I think it's rude of me. I think I underestimate the time I need to get out the door or something. Or maybe I procrastinate. My BF complimented me though. He said I always take time to look nice for him, picking out clothes and making sure I look good. I guess he doesn't have a problem with my tardiness as long as I show up. At least you realize it and feel bad about it. I have a friend who is never on time and no matter how many times we say something to him about it, he keeps doing it. I just tell him to arrive a half-hour earlier than the actual time and he actually will sometimes be on time. BF? I take it that the two of you made up.
amaysngrace Posted January 11, 2007 Posted January 11, 2007 BF? I take it that the two of you made up. Yep we did! He's very understanding when I screw up. Not too many like that out there, ya know? And like I've been told numerous times before "trouble" is my middle name.
Pyro Posted January 11, 2007 Posted January 11, 2007 Yep we did! He's very understanding when I screw up. Not too many like that out there, ya know? And like I've been told numerous times before "trouble" is my middle name. Very understanding indeed. Good for you though. I can vouch for the second sentence.
amaysngrace Posted January 11, 2007 Posted January 11, 2007 are women being late a sign of-"hey i'm the prize, and i'm worthy so wait for me" No not at all in my case. I know it's wrong to do and it's not about the other person at all. It's my very own character flaw. If you don't want to be treated like that you should not wait. If someone left me behind because I was running late I would think it's just what I deserved, especially if I hadn't called to say I'd be late. I think it falls into that 'treat others the way you want to be treated' rule.
My Fair Katie Posted January 11, 2007 Posted January 11, 2007 The only time I've ever been late for a date was when I was lost navigating downtown Baltimore (where road signs are optional). However, I called my date to let him know that I was horribly lost and would be incredibly late and would understand if he wanted to reschedule our date. He was nice about it and even tried to help me find my way back to the roads I knew. Otherwise, to me being late is incredibly rude. Everyone's time is valuable and making someone wait for you continuously makes me feel as though you don't think my time is as important as yours. Honestly, I don't know why people do this (and trust me, it's NOT only women that do this), I assume they're just self-absorbed (no offense to people here who are continually late--it's just my own personal pet peeve).
Art_Critic Posted January 11, 2007 Posted January 11, 2007 Some women that are ALWAYS late are late because they are trying to control the situation. It is about power and control...
Pyro Posted January 11, 2007 Posted January 11, 2007 Some women that are ALWAYS late are late because they are trying to control the situation. It is about power and control... Could you explain the above post?
amaysngrace Posted January 11, 2007 Posted January 11, 2007 Some women that are ALWAYS late are late because they are trying to control the situation. It is about power and control... Not for me. I just sometimes lose track of time when I get on the computer some days. It's not about power. For me I just have addictive personality. If anything that's a weakness. No control whatsoever. It's like that 'enter now' link just screams to me and I'm lured in like a hypnotized zombie.
amaysngrace Posted January 11, 2007 Posted January 11, 2007 Could you explain the above post? Hey I just did!
Pyro Posted January 11, 2007 Posted January 11, 2007 Hey I just did! You did? I just want to know how someone who is constantly late thinks they have power and control of the situation.
Art_Critic Posted January 11, 2007 Posted January 11, 2007 Not for me. I just sometimes lose track of time when I get on the computer some days. It's not about power. For me I just have addictive personality. If anything that's a weakness. No control whatsoever. It's like that 'enter now' link just screams to me and I'm lured in like a hypnotized zombie. I think a therapist might tell you differently.. but also I am talking about someone who is always late.
amaysngrace Posted January 11, 2007 Posted January 11, 2007 I just want to know how someone who is constantly late thinks they have power and control of the situation. It's poor planning on the part of the late person. But nobody needs to stand for it. Like I said before if you leave them behind then you get back the power and control. Plus teach them something about you as well. But I'm not late deliberately. But I'm not deliberately on time either, unless I'm on time.
Art_Critic Posted January 11, 2007 Posted January 11, 2007 Could you explain the above post? google Are You Always Late? By Margaret Paul, Ph.D. go down to the 6th link on the innerbonding website and have a read
amaysngrace Posted January 11, 2007 Posted January 11, 2007 Are You Always Late? By Margaret Paul, Ph.D. In reality Art wouldn't you rather she be late showing up than late for her period? Just trying to keep a positive perspective.
Art_Critic Posted January 11, 2007 Posted January 11, 2007 In reality Art wouldn't you rather she be late showing up than late for her period? Just trying to keep a positive perspective. Of course....
amaysngrace Posted January 11, 2007 Posted January 11, 2007 Of course.... The world doesn't need anymore little clowns running around. The world already has my exH. May I emphasize the word 'little'??
My Fair Katie Posted January 11, 2007 Posted January 11, 2007 It's poor planning on the part of the late person. I understand, and I'm really not trying to be mean, but honestly, if I'm not important enough to *plan* to be on time for, then whoever is holding me up is not important enough for my time. It's an issue of respect and being responsible for yourself. ~My Fair, Never Late for a Period, Katie
Pyro Posted January 11, 2007 Posted January 11, 2007 google Are You Always Late? By Margaret Paul, Ph.D. go down to the 6th link on the innerbonding website and have a read Tried googling it, but to no avail. Oh well, even if someone is constanly late, they hold no power IMHO. They just get looked down upon.
Art_Critic Posted January 11, 2007 Posted January 11, 2007 Tried googling it, but to no avail. Oh well, even if someone is constanly late, they hold no power IMHO. They just get looked down upon. Here is the goggle link.. I can't post the link I wanted you to see... go to the 6th link down.. the one on the innerbonding site http://www.google.com/search?sourceid=navclient&ie=UTF-8&rls=GGLJ,GGLJ:2006-36,GGLJ:en&q=Are+You+Always+Late%3f+By+Margaret+Paul%2c+Ph%2eD%2e
amaysngrace Posted January 11, 2007 Posted January 11, 2007 Here is the goggle link.. I can't post the link I wanted you to see... go to the 6th link down.. the one on the innerbonding site http://www.google.com/search?sourceid=navclient&ie=UTF-8&rls=GGLJ,GGLJ:2006-36,GGLJ:en&q=Are+You+Always+Late%3f+By+Margaret+Paul%2c+Ph%2eD%2e Hmmm...so it's not ME, it's just my INNER BRAT. Fascinating revelation.
Pyro Posted January 11, 2007 Posted January 11, 2007 Here is the goggle link.. I can't post the link I wanted you to see... go to the 6th link down.. the one on the innerbonding site http://www.google.com/search?sourceid=navclient&ie=UTF-8&rls=GGLJ,GGLJ:2006-36,GGLJ:en&q=Are+You+Always+Late%3f+By+Margaret+Paul%2c+Ph%2eD%2e Thank you sir, it makes sense now. I still don't understand that if you ask someone "want to meet there at 9?" and they agree to it, then why are they still late? They agreed to the time, so its not like they were being forced into being there at that time, so I don't see the need to have to be in "power" or "control" of the situation.
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