kandi r Posted January 11, 2007 Posted January 11, 2007 I was wondering did anyone end on a bad note with ex. I dont care what the situation was. I did. It ended. I also was wondering when does the pain stop. also did you get dumped or did you dump them. I got dumped. My ex changed all numbers and told me to move on. I pleaded till the end how much I love this person but was told the pain was to much and i was told to not call ever again. Does the ex ever come back? I just want some advice or tips. I do love this person. But now that she cut all ties even though i know where she lives i do not go over there. will she ever come back. More than anything i need advice as to, well do you think she knows i love her and wanted to try to fix things and tried to make it work but she wouldnt let me back in. I know this is a weird question but i just want advice. thanks everyone..
notmakingsense Posted January 13, 2007 Posted January 13, 2007 I'm sure you will find that by reading the posts here that you don't have a weird question.. or situation. If you have already told her that you are sorry for whatever happened and that you love her, then you are done for now. You need to break off contact in order to give her space so that she can think about what she wants to do. Don't be afraid that she'll forget about you. She won't. Calling her and trying to contact will only push her away further. You need to use this time to think about what went wrong and how to not repeat the situation during your next relationship. By not contacting her, she will be given the chance to miss you. She may never come back, but if your bond with her was deep, she may contact you after a while... sometimes a long while... there is no way to know. BUT.... don't assume that this will happen. After a period of greiving and thinking, you should do what you can to reconnect with friends, family, focus on hobbies/school/work. Work out at the gym and feel good about yourself again... then, when it is time, start dating. Just remember that the best chance you have with her is when you have moved on and maybe even dating again.... it is funny how exes seem to sense that. If your breakup was very nasty -- lots of hurt/pain -- she may never come back. Just do what you can to learn from the experience so that it never happens again. Good luck to you. Read the posts here and learn from us. Most of us have faced similar situations.
ae4e Posted January 13, 2007 Posted January 13, 2007 I just got dumped a few months back, I sure as heck know how it feels, and yes it does suck. At first I would constantly re-examine everything, and I mean everything! I would bug her to no end about how things were and such, but all it was doing was causing trouble, and she was saying cross words about me and such, which hurt even more. And after a bit she got a new boyfriend, which is hideous...(lol), and she seems so un happy to me, and doesn't have that "spunk" that she had when she was with me, I actually feel sorry for her, she has changed so much from the person I remember her as. And it took a while, but I somewhat have my feet planted back on the ground and have made butt loads of new friends and have even had like 5 girls ask me to Prom, but I don't like them very much, lol. And she acts differently, I believe she offically knows I have moved on. I have no clue what is going on in her head, and I actually don't care all that much, it takes some time to get over things, but you'll make it. I did, and yeah I do have my days when I miss her, but those days are slightly becoming few and far between. I wish I could say I am completely 100% totally over her, but I can't, she was the greatest to me, but I realized that I don't want a girl back that changed so much over a very short span of time; we dated for 4 months, which is pretty good for where I live. Over that amount of time she changed her whole personality and attitude. I was normally always left out of stuff with friends and such, but she used to make me feel so wanted and apart of the group. But now that time has passed, she is by far the worst case scenario of that that I have ever had! Smell the sweet irony. I seem to be rambling now, but anyway, hang in there bud, and there are a lot of people in the same boat as you. If you need anything else, ask. :-D
D-Lish Posted January 13, 2007 Posted January 13, 2007 Sometimes they come back and sometimes they don't. More often than not- when it's over, it's over. Regardless of what may or may not happen in the future, you have to live each day as if they are not coming back. Spending all your time grieving and hoping is only going to bring you down. The best advice anyone can give you is to keep yourself busy. You also have to get out there and socialize. It's hard to do at first, but put a brave face on and force yourself to do it. D
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