Wick Posted January 11, 2007 Posted January 11, 2007 So my wife and I had a threesome with another woman while we were on vacation. My wife did end up giving the other woman oral sex during the threesome. (She said she just did this though to make me happy though and is not really attracted to women) She now says she does not have an interest in doing this again and does not want to be with another woman. She says the only way she would consider this again is if we go on vacation some place tropical and we meet the right woman (who knows the odds of us finding another single woman in a similar situation are slim to none IMHO). We did try to do it with a local woman but she ended up being more interested in me than my wife. Here is my problem though, I really enjoyed it and want to do it again. What should I do?
bab Posted January 11, 2007 Posted January 11, 2007 There is anything for you to do. You wife isn't comfortable with it, and you need to respect that. She made one of your fantasies come true, and you should just keep the memory. Threesomes are dangerous things. Don't let this destroy your marriage by insisting that they keep occuring. If she was being honest about the tropical vacation thing, you could always try out Hedonism and the probability of finding a willing partner would be very high.
blind_otter Posted January 11, 2007 Posted January 11, 2007 There is anything for you to do. You wife isn't comfortable with it, and you need to respect that. She made one of your fantasies come true, and you should just keep the memory. Threesomes are dangerous things. Don't let this destroy your marriage by insisting that they keep occuring. I'm going to agree with bab on this one. Your W indulged a fantasy but obviously didn't enjoy it all that much herself, so let it be.
Author Wick Posted January 11, 2007 Author Posted January 11, 2007 The problem is I can't stop thinking about doing this again, we took a video of the threesome (which I have watched probably a 100 times) so every time my wife looks at me in a provocative way I think about what it was like seeing her with another woman.
bab Posted January 11, 2007 Posted January 11, 2007 The problem is I can't stop thinking about doing this again, we took a video of the threesome (which I have watched probably a 100 times) so every time my wife looks at me in a provocative way I think about what it was like seeing her with another woman. Well, keep fantasizing. Nobody is saying there is anything wrong with that. Just don't pressure your wife to do something she isn't into.
blind_otter Posted January 11, 2007 Posted January 11, 2007 That's your personal issue to deal with. Don't pawn it off on your wife. Maybe you should see someone about it. You allow your own thoughts to be obsessive. Take control of your thoughts! Don't let your thoughts control you.
Sassy Posted January 11, 2007 Posted January 11, 2007 I think she only done it to make you happy .IMO I say as the other posters leave it as a fantasy . She won't do it again. I know a couple that done it and it ruined their marriage. If you two want it than fine but being she doesn't leave it as a fantasy. Why would you want to ruin what a beautiful family you already have? If you want spicing up im sure there are other ways without bringing a third party in. JMO
Author Wick Posted January 11, 2007 Author Posted January 11, 2007 That's your personal issue to deal with. Don't pawn it off on your wife. Maybe you should see someone about it. You allow your own thoughts to be obsessive. Take control of your thoughts! Don't let your thoughts control you. Sounds like a good idea.
norajane Posted January 11, 2007 Posted January 11, 2007 Perhaps you could suggest a threesome with another man and you could give him oral. No? Well, then, don't expect her to indulge you in something she didn't like the first time.
Author Wick Posted January 11, 2007 Author Posted January 11, 2007 Perhaps you could suggest a threesome with another man and you could give him oral. No? Well, then, don't expect her to indulge you in something she didn't like the first time. I don't like guys.....
norajane Posted January 11, 2007 Posted January 11, 2007 I don't like guys..... Exactly. And you're wife doesn't like girls.
Craig Posted January 11, 2007 Posted January 11, 2007 So my wife and I had a threesome with another woman while we were on vacation. My wife did end up giving the other woman oral sex during the threesome. Here is my problem though, I really enjoyed it and want to do it again. What should I do? My first reaction would be for you to seek some therapy. Seriously. Remembering your adventure is consuming too much of your time and it is going to have an impact on you, your wife, your marriage and your young daughter. May I ask you two quick questions? What assurances did you or your wife have that the woman you had the threesome with was free of diseases? If all you had was her word then what were you thinking? You have a child to be responsible for and to raise and you are endangering her happiness and her future with you and your wife by having unprotected or semi-safe sex with a third party. That just isn't responsible, loving or in control.
Rooster_DAR Posted January 11, 2007 Posted January 11, 2007 I suggest you just live with the fanstasy and do some role playing. Don't get compulsive about it. You are in a marriage, so you need to compromise, and if she doesn't want to do it again, then live with it. Cheers!
Author Wick Posted February 22, 2007 Author Posted February 22, 2007 I suggest you just live with the fanstasy and do some role playing. Don't get compulsive about it. You are in a marriage, so you need to compromise, and if she doesn't want to do it again, then live with it. Cheers! Thx I will keep everyone posted here.
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