Wyvie Posted January 11, 2007 Posted January 11, 2007 Hey... Just need to unload this somewhere. Thanks the gods for this place, eh? Oh, and apologies for the lengthiness of this. It's... a complicated situation. I'm supposed to be in a three-way relationship where I'm the "outsider". Now, I was happy enough keeping myself outside, but I was pretty much forced in. They got angry with me for keeping my distance. Then I grew a bit sick of the other woman... she's a complete child, has no job prospects, can't drive, can't even turn lights off when she goes around the house. Pretty useless, I'm afraid. She won't try and get anything that isn't actually given to her, which made any sort of sex difficult. I'm the newbie to threesomes, you'd think everyone else would take charge a bit. But no, apparently it was expected that I took charge of the female-on-female side of it. I did for a while, but got bored of the resistance that I was getting because she was just trying to be polite. Consequently, it's more like the guy has two girlfriends. he keeps trying to get us into group sex, but when I say yes, the other girl says "oh, but I'm not sure if she'd like it". This is hair-pulling-and-screaming time. So, I just have sex with him. Except we get "in trouble" for having sex. Unfortunately, he's more interested in me sexually, so I think we have sex more than they do. So, when we were arguing between each other, the other girl turned it around (she does that, a lot) to be about her not getting enough. Now, like I said, we offer! So, sex with me is taboo, but not in the good way. So, this has been going on for about a year and a half. I've been told to move out on no less than three occasions, which is then revoked a day or two later. Yeah, real stable. We're about to move into a new house, and I'm terrified. There's not enough room for me to have my own room. We argue constantly, but he doesn't actually want me to go (apparently). It works out better for me to stay, cos I have a small child and there's no way I could work fulltime without the other girl (who's an out-of-work childcarer, actually) helping me with my boy. I think they need me for rent (at least till he gets a job - he and I both just graduated from a graphic design college and will be competing for the same positions). The plot thickens a little when the guy, who insists on faithfulness (ya shoulda heard it when I (with no sexual thoughts at all) commented that one of the guys we knew was dressing well), flirts with everyone he knows. I've heard comments from other female students wondering what the hell is going on (most guys don't call all of their friends "sexy" in casual sms conversations, right?). I know he's got an eye on one other female student. She's prettier than I, and doesn't seem to have mood swings. However, she's not as smart, nowhere near as talented a designer, has no passion or drive, and dresses like a guy (as I used to). She's also diabetic. Which is probably it. He wants to look after her (he hates the way that I'm independent - I've never heard of a guy hating that before) and get her wearing dresses and whatnot. I don't think she returns the feelings, but I could be wrong. He's pretty good at hiding things, but not as good as he thinks he is. I know I should get out, but I don't think I can handle work and a kid, not to mention being lonely. Sorry, I just really needed to rant. Most of that probably made no sense, so I apologise. I'm just so sick of always being painted the bad guy in the relationship when it's pretty much split three ways. Thanks for letting me get it out. Wyvie.
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