Guest Posted January 11, 2007 Posted January 11, 2007 Well here is my story - I have fell in love with a man four years ago and after eighteen months we called it quits. For the next year and a half we remained great friends, trying to work out what went wrong. He finally moved on and so did I as we were not working anything out. After 12 months of no contact he reappears and fully commits to us and our future. I was dubious but he sounded different. Indeed we went on to have a different relationship in many ways. Some things did change others didn't. Maybe we understood each other better, but we were happy. I know we loved each other dearly and he always said I was the best friend he ever had. We had a bad argument the day before CHristmas which was my fault and his fault. He has a tendency to not want to discuss anything if I am angry and shut me out. It drives me crazy!!! Instead of him saying sorry I didn't say sorry and he kind of broke up. Not intentionally but we did. I didn't plead or cry because I didn't think it was for real. Maybe he didn't either, we completely stuffed each others CHristmas and our holiday. Boxing Day I said sorry - but he wouldn't have it. Saying too late now. A week went by and he called for something unrelated and sounded chirpy - so was I. I thought he would finally say sorry, but he didn't and carried on. Two weeks later - I called to say hey what are we going to do about our holiday that we have booked and he said -cancel /refund etc. I suggested going as friends and started to talk about what happened. He was angry and said - now you want to talk - everything is on your terms - we were never going to go the distance - I just can't think at the moment. You didn't want to have anything to do with me over CHristmas and when I moved my stuff out. It is all too raw. I am going away for work for two weeks - Ill call you about the holiday when I come back' That was a week ago, and besides a text saying have a great weekend and I will talk when I get back- I haven't heard from him. This is not like him. It sounds like he really thinks we have no future and doesn't want to have anything to do with me. I thought he would miss me more than I miss him, but I am dying inside. I am doing the no contact and haven't cried in front of him or pleaded. At the same time, I have said, I love you on the couple of times we spoke. It hasn't made any difference. I think he is just stringing me along to see how he feels when he comes back in a week and a half. Because we have broken up before, in previous years, everyone is saying - he has had a few starts - it mustn't be meant to be. But they haven't been around the last eight months. We were going really great - I thought. Never a day passed by he didn't say he loved me, or how much I meant to him. I can't believe you can love someone and let them go - but like his last text said. 'Is better to have loved and lost then never to have loved at all'. What do you think?
Guest Posted January 13, 2007 Posted January 13, 2007 Well here is my story - I have fell in love with a man four years ago and after eighteen months we called it quits. For the next year and a half we remained great friends, trying to work out what went wrong. He finally moved on and so did I as we were not working anything out. After 12 months of no contact he reappears and fully commits to us and our future. I was dubious but he sounded different. Indeed we went on to have a different relationship in many ways. Some things did change others didn't. Maybe we understood each other better, but we were happy. I know we loved each other dearly and he always said I was the best friend he ever had. We had a bad argument the day before CHristmas which was my fault and his fault. He has a tendency to not want to discuss anything if I am angry and shut me out. It drives me crazy!!! Instead of him saying sorry I didn't say sorry and he kind of broke up. Not intentionally but we did. I didn't plead or cry because I didn't think it was for real. Maybe he didn't either, we completely stuffed each others CHristmas and our holiday. Boxing Day I said sorry - but he wouldn't have it. Saying too late now. A week went by and he called for something unrelated and sounded chirpy - so was I. I thought he would finally say sorry, but he didn't and carried on. Two weeks later - I called to say hey what are we going to do about our holiday that we have booked and he said -cancel /refund etc. I suggested going as friends and started to talk about what happened. He was angry and said - now you want to talk - everything is on your terms - we were never going to go the distance - I just can't think at the moment. You didn't want to have anything to do with me over CHristmas and when I moved my stuff out. It is all too raw. I am going away for work for two weeks - Ill call you about the holiday when I come back' That was a week ago, and besides a text saying have a great weekend and I will talk when I get back- I haven't heard from him. This is not like him. It sounds like he really thinks we have no future and doesn't want to have anything to do with me. I thought he would miss me more than I miss him, but I am dying inside. I am doing the no contact and haven't cried in front of him or pleaded. At the same time, I have said, I love you on the couple of times we spoke. It hasn't made any difference. I think he is just stringing me along to see how he feels when he comes back in a week and a half. Because we have broken up before, in previous years, everyone is saying - he has had a few starts - it mustn't be meant to be. But they haven't been around the last eight months. We were going really great - I thought. Never a day passed by he didn't say he loved me, or how much I meant to him. I can't believe you can love someone and let them go - but like his last text said. 'Is better to have loved and lost then never to have loved at all'. What do you think? HEY, I HAD SOMETHING HAPPEN JUST LIKE THAT - ONLY I WASN'T MAD AT HER, MAD AT MYSELF BECAUSE I JUMPED THE GUN, EXCITABLE BOI - ALWAYS REMEMBER, IF U ARE NOT INVITED TO THE PARTY DON'T SHOW UP TRYING TO CRASH IT EVEN IF U ARE BRINGING BOOZE. TOTALLY MY FAULT - WHAT I HAVE LEARNED IS DON'T MESS WITH A GOOD WOMAN - YER ROADKILL IF YOU DO. I AM SORRY BUT GLAD U ACCEPTED THE EGGNOG AND FIRECRACKERS
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