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I'm 24, in my last year of law school. He's 21, in his senior year of college.

 

Since he's 21, I try to treat him like a mentee. But he treats me more like we're the same age, and like he's interested.

 

He's hot, kind, and talented, but should I date him? Never dated a younger guy. And with all the younger girls he could date, why would he be interested in an older girl?

 

Are guys interested in older girls? Isn't being older a turn off? Is this guy serious, or just showing interest because that's what he does with all girls, no matter what their age?

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Did you mean 34?

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Did you mean 34?

 

No, I meant 24.

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I'm 24, in my last year of law school. He's 21, in his senior year of college.

 

Since he's 21, I try to treat him like a mentee. But he treats me more like we're the same age, and like he's interested.

 

He's hot, kind, and talented, but should I date him? Never dated a younger guy. And with all the younger girls he could date, why would he be interested in an older girl?

 

Are guys interested in older girls? Isn't being older a turn off? Is this guy serious, or just showing interest because that's what he does with all girls, no matter what their age?

 

Three years is not really much of a difference. Lots of guys really do like the older gals. He may not be as mature as you, so if you are going to date him, be prepared.

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I agree. You're overly fascinated with boobies. I mean, ages. Three years is nothing.

And with all the younger girls he could date, why would he be interested in an older girl?

Ummmm. What??!! Why would he be interested in you?! Don't be silly, now. Can you spell superficial? (I had to look it up.)

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You guys are the same age. I don't consider it an age gap relationship uness there's like a ten year difference at least. No-one is going to call you a cougar, or a Mrs Robinson. Not unless they're an imbecile.

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It's only 3 years and if you are interested in him go for it.

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Not unless they're an imbecile.

Wow. Another new word. Keep them coming.

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It's so funny (and sad). The younger girls don't feel guys their own age and younger are distinguished enough, so they often seek out older, established men. Then the wives and ex-wives of the older men hungrily jump on the young guys that get rejected by their own peers.

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Wow. Another new word. Keep them coming.

Whats the proper spelling Mr. Webster?

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Whats the proper spelling Mr. Webster?

How could you doubt yourself? Your vocabulary is omniferous. I have no idea what that means, but it sounds fitting.

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I thought that meant eating both spinach and meat

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I thought that meant eating both spinach and meat

That sounds about right. The dictionary can be kind of bland, so it's nice to have a change.

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Is this guy serious, or just showing interest because

he asked me my size and I told him (34C).

Just being offensive. Don't mind me.

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Did you mean 34?

 

Just being offensive. Don't mind me.

 

 

Not minding. Hey, if my bust size can help me score a guyor elicit loving feelings, that's no problem with me. I'll use whatever I can.

 

And yes, I am "overly fascinated" with boobies (I prefer "bust," because it's more aggressive-- like you're just "busting" into the room) and with age and with lots of things. I'm a woman obsessed. Nice to meet you.

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UPDATE!!! Mr. 21-years-old just emailed me! He mentions that he thinks I'm "pretty." This bodes well.

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And everyone else on this thread is clearly obsessive too.

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That's pretty exciting for you to confirm that yes, he does see you as a 'woman' as well as a friend. I am nearly 29 and living with a 22yo - I really think the 3 years is negligible - we are having problems but not so much because of the age gap anyways. I worked with this guy and thought he was a bit of a cheeky scamp teasing me all the time and being silly so I didn't take him seriously as partner material till one evening he texted me that he cared about me being hurt in a situation I was going thru at work - I started to look at him differently after that and lo and behold shortly after, we hooked up - it did take a lot of convincing however as I had all the same reservations at first as you do - it can work. You forget about the age gap after a while and don't really worry that everyone is staring at you walking around thinking 'eeew what an old crone - he can do much better' in fact you get looks of admiration occ. from other guys thinking 'you scored a young stud - respect!' or maybe that's not what their thinking - anyway's I'm sure the difference in age is more relevant the younger you are, but as time goes on it becomes less - i.e. guys mature somewhat etc. and a r'ship is a great catalyst for this. Keep us updated on the 'romance' :)

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And everyone else on this thread is clearly obsessive too.

You're the one that keeps on mentioning your bust. Next thing we know, you'll be recounting the rhythmical way they bounce, or describing the earthy, concupiscent feel of your untamed nipples.

 

I like to keep an open mind about all things. I mean, that sort of stuff just might be relevant to this thread.

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- anyway's I'm sure the difference in age is more relevant the younger you are, but as time goes on it becomes less -

Too right. And there's the thing about women living about a decade longer than men. So it has a perfect, romantic elegance about it. That's what I think, anyway.

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I'm 32 and if I dated someone 39 I don't think I'd think of her as an older woman. But, maybe as you say, the age gap lessens over time. Now 45 and close to menopause might be different, but just seven years wouldn't make me think of my mother...

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I wouldn't worry about the age difference at all. I am 30 years old and my BF of one year is just about to turn 26. We did have problems because of our age difference but they were mainly of my own creation - I was worried that people would think I was his mother or that he could do so much better. These problems plagued us for a while - until I was ready to give them up - and now, while things aren't perfect (I still have my moments of self doubt - especially at the malls where all the young girls hang out) they are much, much better. Whenever I do start to worry I just try to picture my life without him in it and I realize how much richer and fuller he has made it....no matter what the outcome...good luck to you.

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I wouldn't worry about the age difference at all. I am 30 years old and my BF of one year is just about to turn 26. We did have problems because of our age difference but they were mainly of my own creation - I was worried that people would think I was his mother or

It's scary how early people are having sex these days. I'm not sure I had the dexterity to roll on a condom at age five.

 

I don't think I was exploring girls with my trunk at kindergarten - I think I just would have made them cry.

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That's cute magichands - I guess I should have looked at it like that originally and it wouldn't have seemed like a big deal at all - it's funny how insecurity within yourself can skew your judgements.

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