LilMiss Intimidation Posted January 11, 2007 Posted January 11, 2007 So here's my situation. I really like this guy but he has a girlfriend. They've been going out for a few years and he doesn't seem to be marrying her anytime soon. They see eachother a couple times a week and he says that's enough for him. We flirt a little bit. I always notice him looking at me. We stare at eachother for what seems like forever. A few people have noticed that there is something there between us. I keep my distance because I know he has a girlfriend, but I still have a huge crush on this guy. I am wicked shy with guys I'm interested in (which is a good thing in this case) so I'm not myself with him. I'm holding back because well, I guess because I can't get too close to him. It wouldn't be good. Then part of me thinks I should just be silly and be myself because maybe, just maybe he is interested in me. What if he is interested but doesn't want to hurt his girlfriend. The right thing to do would be to forget about him because he is already taken but, I can't. I'm such a fool to fall for someone I can't have but, it goes both ways. I don't know what to do, and it sucks! Did I mention how cool these online blogs are?, lol My friends don't want to hear it so it's nice to get input from random people. ?? Help please, lol.
whichwayisup Posted January 11, 2007 Posted January 11, 2007 He has a girlfriend, enough said. You also really don't know what goes on between them behind closed doors... Imagine if you were his girlfriend and another girl was trying to steal him away from you. It's wrong of him to be flirting with you, or leading you on. Don't react to it... IF you two are meant to be a couple later in the future, let it happen on it's own...Listen to your own words...You tell yourself that he is taken, has a girlfriend and if that's not enough, go read some more posts in this section, read what you'll be up against if you decide to pursue him. Married or not, this guy has a girlfriend already... A crush is a crush, enjoy it for what it is but do not act upon it while he's not available. Don't make this into something more, for your own sake...
norajane Posted January 11, 2007 Posted January 11, 2007 You really, really, really don't want to get involved. It's bad news all the way around, and you'll be setting yourself up for heartbreak. If you're already shy around guys, after dealing with this kind of mess, you won't ever be able to trust guys. Look, if he has a girl and is flirting with you with intent, then he's a jackass, a liar, and a cheater. Is THAT really the kind of guy you want to get into a relationship with? If you're just crushing on him, that's fine, but trying to turn that into a relationship with someone who is already involved for several years...that's just foolish. Either way, spells trouble and heartache for you.
Guest Posted January 11, 2007 Posted January 11, 2007 I am speaking as a g/f who is not getting married anytime soon. Why do people assume a relationship is not committed if there has been no marriage ceremony? I have no desire to marry, but I love my b/f of four years. In reply to your question, tell him you would only be interested IF he was single. Then get on with your life. Or I fear you will be sucked into the role of OW. Dont underestimate their level of commitment... my b/fs OW did. We hit a rough patch and she thought it was fair game because I wasnt his wife! When I found out, we decided to stay together. He ended the A and I have had a few abusive text messages... I am glad (and dont respond) because it is clear that he has kicked her to the kerb and she is mad as hell, and feeling very used (perhaps because she was). She made him feel better while we were in trouble. The A made us realise this and sort it out. I actually feel bad for her, because he got very caught up and told her all kinds of things he never meant.
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