JamieB Posted January 11, 2007 Posted January 11, 2007 I broke up with my ex yesterday after discovering he continued to lie and be deceitful to me after I thought he agreed to change. I thought he was the one. I have ups and downs. When I was at work I was fine and even felt relieved to be rid of this deceitful man. As soon as I came home I fell apart. When will I feel better, more stable?
Speedo Posted January 11, 2007 Posted January 11, 2007 I broke up with my ex yesterday after discovering he continued to lie and be deceitful to me after I thought he agreed to change. I thought he was the one. I have ups and downs. When I was at work I was fine and even felt relieved to be rid of this deceitful man. As soon as I came home I fell apart. When will I feel better, more stable? Well, it could be worse. Most of the time people on here are 3 months, 6 months, even 1 year after a break up and still can't stop thinking about it at home or work. This is a good thing for you if you can have moments in your day when you're relieved to be rid of your ex. It's only been several days...I think you're on the speedy path to recovery.
Porn_Guy Posted January 11, 2007 Posted January 11, 2007 When will I feel better, more stable? It's really up to you...
Kinger25 Posted January 11, 2007 Posted January 11, 2007 How long were you two together for ? My theory is that it takes a month for every year that you were together before you fully heal. If you were with him for 2 years then 2 months, 5 years then it should take 5 months. I know that this theory is not strictly true because it depends on the circumstances surrounding the break up, but I think its a good target in order to force yourself into healing. I see so many people that are still not over their X's years after a break up. Its no good to live your life like that, especially since the ex is probably out there living his / her life to the full without giving you a second thought. I think you are on the right track, and it is encouraging that you are AWARE of your good moments and your bad moments. Its natural to have ups and downs and this will continue for a little while. The fact that you said that at one point you felt relieved to be rid of him is also encouraging. Keep remembering WHY you finished the relationship, it wasn't all a bed of roses and their was a reason why you ended it. It will take time but you sound strong so I have no doubt that things will get better, they always do. Anyway, remember, each moment that waste grieving for your ex a moment lost in finding the true love of your life !
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