alex434 Posted January 11, 2007 Posted January 11, 2007 Ok.. here i go lol... I've been dating this girl for about 2 months ( we have been talking to one another for about 4 ) I met her at my job and so far everything has gone good.. At this point as i do in all my other relationships i start to get protective of myself, i worry that my GF will cheat on me, be unfaithful and end up hurting me. I know not all girls are like this but the majority i have been with were, so its hard for me to accept... She has a lot of guy friends in which i dont like at all but she assures me that they just see eachother as friends and nothing more and all of them have girlfriends. Some side notes are..... - We only been together for 2 months but she says that she loves me already ( i asked her how she could be so sure and she said shes never felt this way about someone before and she really really likes me ) - We are both Physically and emotionally attached, we are having sex and so forth. - We talk to eachother every night on the phone ( she says that she cant get bored of me ) - As weird as it sounds she thinks she will marry me and have kids with me I really do like her alot and feel like i love her but the problem is i have this major trust issue and im afriad to get attached and because of this we have been starting to argue and i know its all because of me. ( im told i wear my heart on my sleeve ) what can i do to stop me from ruining this relationship? and does she sound like shes faithful and 100% and into me? She always says she loves me and would never do anything to hurt me... i just want to watch my back...
TheDC Posted January 11, 2007 Posted January 11, 2007 Unfortunately without any evidence to the contrary you'll just have to take her at her word. I'd suggest that you tell her outright that you have trust issues and why this is the way and that she should know that if you are acting irrationally it isn't because of her but because of your past experiences and that she'll just need to bear with you until you get over your past experiences. if she truly loves you then she'll understand and help you work through your issues because she'll want your relationship to work. You could try telling her that you trust her but the fact that she has so many guy friends makes you uncomfortable, and that you don't want her to stop seeing her friends entirely but if she could just try to limit her interactions until you feel more comfortable in the relationship. But make sure to let her know that you aren't forbidding her from seeing her friends just that you need time to adjust. But mostly you are going to have to work on yourself. If you are never able to trust then any relationship you get into is doomed from the get go. You are going to have to work on your trust issues and realize that not all women are the same. And if they are all the same then you'll have to ask yourself what is it in you that keeps choosing these women. But I assure you the fastest way to drive your woman into another man's arms is to get all jealous over nothing.
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