Rewind Posted January 11, 2007 Posted January 11, 2007 I'm 23 and for the past few years I've had no social life. I always had a ton of friends since I was little and up until a few years ago I was out nonstop. I had all the same friends throughout high school, some from earlier..into my early 20s so I never had a problem maintaining friends. Anyway little by little within a year or so my old group of friends..well we had fallings out or drifted apart..and then I was left. It took me a long time to let go of my old friendships..but I realized maybe they were meant to only be in that part of my life. I tried making friends with 2 old co workers when I was in college, but it was obvious that they had they're own little circle already and I guess weren't interested in a friendship. I pretty much don't date at all either since I don't go out or have anyway to meet guys. I am down to 2 friends..both who I have nothing in common with and they don't go out on the weekends. One will make plans but I like clubs and she don't so she'll cancel. I'm in my mid 20s and my idea of a weekend is not sitting in her house with her. Honestly I don't even like the 2 of them very much. I pretty much just talk to them on the phone. I defentially am lonely and I long for having girlfriends like I once did. My friends were always my life so without them I have none. I'm the furtherst thing from a homebody..I love to party and the only reason I'm home weekend in and out is bc I have no choice. People will say oh make friends with guys..guys don't just want to be my friend lol..or join a church group lmao or a club..considering I work full time there's no time. I would be happy with even just aquaintances to go out with and such..just get out of the house. Anyway I start grad school in a few weeks and am praying that I make some new friends. I feel like there's something wrong with me bc I haven't made any new friends who I have stuff in commong with in all this time..but then again there's no way for me to really meet people. I was always the type of person that people sort out to be friends with..now I feel like I'm gonna pretty soon have to start begging for friends lol. I feel like a total loser and that I'm wasting all of my young years sitting home miserable..Any advice?
Guest Posted January 11, 2007 Posted January 11, 2007 I have some advice 1st off just cause people dont have tons of friends dosent make them a loser. I think its better to have a few solid trusting ones then a armey of fair weather friends. Or just because they dont like clubs dosent eather. Thats just not some peoples cup of tea espsicaly as you get older and hopefuly wiser. You should realy be honest with the 2 people that think you are a friend to them. Because it sounds like your just useing them to make your self feel better thats pretty lame sorry to say. If you like to go out as much as you say you do then just go by your self. The only way to make new friends is to expose your self to new people. Or you could always just get your self a dog lol. Cant ever go wrong with mans best friend. And who knowes maybe you can teach him how to go clubbing lmao. Best of luck to you eather way
vanessabg Posted January 11, 2007 Posted January 11, 2007 Yes,Guest is right and i agree to Guest here.
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