Guest Posted January 11, 2007 Posted January 11, 2007 Ok here goes. My Gf and I have been dating for 6 months. We both love each other very much(Or so I thought.) A few days ago we were talking about breaking up(We've been fighting a lot lately) And she told me that she cheated on me a month and a half ago. I was upset, and left, and she was crying and apologizing over and over again saying that she loved me and that I was the one she wanted to spend the rest of her life with, and that she would never ever be that stupid again. The hard part is I believe her and I do miss her. All of my friends say she is a slut and that if I go back to her they will all punch me in the face. We talked about starting over last night and went to her place to watch a movie. the weird thing is i'm not that upset or disturbed by what she did. What the hell is wrong with me and what should I do. I know that she would do anything to make it up to me. Am I just blind or could someone really change? Should I give her a second chance?
martin_hossein Posted January 11, 2007 Posted January 11, 2007 Dude...I feel your pain. I have had the same sort of problem except my girl friend was planning to leave me and cheat secretly without telling me. At least your girl friend told you what was going on and she seemed very sorry about it. She may have cheated but maybe because of all the fighting caused her to look for love and care elsewhere. If you guys give it another go...less of the arguing will help your relationship alot. Sorry couldn't be more helpman man. All the best.
amaysngrace Posted January 11, 2007 Posted January 11, 2007 I think you both need to get past it. I had cheated on a previous BF years ago (actually I hadn't cheated, I was drugged and date raped by my friend's BF but I viewed it as cheating because I was emotionally immature at the time but whatever....) Anyway in my mind I felt I had cheated. And even though he forgave me and we stayed together I developed trust issues with him. I felt like he was going behind my back to get back at me. I'm not saying this is going to happen to your GF at all. But there is a possibility that she won't get past it even though you may have.
Ukwizard Posted January 11, 2007 Posted January 11, 2007 Hey Guest, This already sounds like the beginning of the end. Why? Well, whats happened to the romance. Shouldn`t there be the feeling of butterflies? Kissing, cuddling, and generally getting to know someone. Think about it now. This is supposed to be the "honeymoon" period where you cant get enough of one another. For your girlfriend to cheat on you so soon. That CANNOT possibly mean she loves you. Shes already cheated on you so early on in the relationship. Whats going to happen later? Its going to take time, and work to make this realtionship work, and lots of it. I`d say good luck to you, and try to talk to your girlfriend to find out why she cheated on you. If you`re having second thoughts then walk away.Six months is no time at all to cheat on someone, and if someone would do that to me, then I d have no time at all for them!
memorex1970 Posted January 11, 2007 Posted January 11, 2007 Hey Guest, This already sounds like the beginning of the end. Why? Well, whats happened to the romance. Shouldn`t there be the feeling of butterflies? Kissing, cuddling, and generally getting to know someone. Think about it now. This is supposed to be the "honeymoon" period where you cant get enough of one another. For your girlfriend to cheat on you so soon. That CANNOT possibly mean she loves you. Shes already cheated on you so early on in the relationship. Whats going to happen later? Its going to take time, and work to make this realtionship work, and lots of it. I`d say good luck to you, and try to talk to your girlfriend to find out why she cheated on you. If you`re having second thoughts then walk away.Six months is no time at all to cheat on someone, and if someone would do that to me, then I d have no time at all for them! Amen! Once a cheater always a cheater. Shes only really sorry because the truth has come out and she feels guilty. Shes not feeling sorry for you shes feeling sorry for herself. Nobody who truely loves another person would cheat. Better to find out now than in 6 years...Run! Nick
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