Author NoIDidn't Posted January 11, 2007 Author Posted January 11, 2007 I also wanted to add that some guys that do this, cheat and suck a woman in, don't do it to prey on the woman always. Sometimes that is also their version of neediness. Needing to have someone look up to them, admire them, and desire them. I can't underestimate that in a man. But both people need to look at the "whys". I think these are the 3% relationships that can happen after As. The ones who look inside to find out why they did what they did. And with this knowledge there is very little chance that they would ever do it again. Look, I have jacked my own thread. Sorry.
pricillia Posted January 12, 2007 Posted January 12, 2007 I also wanted to add that some guys that do this, cheat and suck a woman in, don't do it to prey on the woman always. Sometimes that is also their version of neediness. Needing to have someone look up to them, admire them, and desire them. I can't underestimate that in a man. But both people need to look at the "whys". I think these are the 3% relationships that can happen after As. The ones who look inside to find out why they did what they did. And with this knowledge there is very little chance that they would ever do it again. Look, I have jacked my own thread. Sorry. I agree with this but I also think that ALL men want to be looked up to and admired not just a married man.
Author NoIDidn't Posted January 12, 2007 Author Posted January 12, 2007 All men do feel that way to some degree, but I am not talking about all men. I am talking about a particular kind of man who doesn't recognize this is what he is after or how to get it in a more constructive manner. He doesn't have to be M, but for this thread he probably is.
pureinheart Posted January 12, 2007 Posted January 12, 2007 Actually having overheard or have had conversations with many men (due to the line of work), both M and D....about 90% said they would never M again, and they meant it....there was great conviction in their words. You know, NID, have to say there is a good possibility I was attracted to ex-MM because I was a commitment phobe....
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