JILL1969 Posted January 10, 2007 Posted January 10, 2007 Well, here it goes! For the past 2.5 years I have been seeing a MM at work. We fooled around at work and he has ONLY been to my house 4 times in all those years. He has always been very distant. I just met a single man who treats me like gold! I told my MM this and now he is saying how I dumped him and he is hounding me like crazy. He never seemed intereseted in me but now that I met someone, he's all over me. He has been married for 22 years and says it's just conveniant beeing married. How the heck am I supposed to move on with him bothering me now? Quit my job? I am 35 years old and want to be more than someone else's whore. If he really cared for me, he shouldv'e showed his emotions sooner. I will continue seeing my new friend and will have to turn down the MM! Any advice?? Help!
oyster Posted January 10, 2007 Posted January 10, 2007 he lived his life, ruined it. Now don't let him destroy you. At 35, you found a Single Guy. Give it a chance, start fresh. May be a family with kids. Just go No Contact with Maried Man. No point on being his friend. Tell him to get a dog.
norajane Posted January 10, 2007 Posted January 10, 2007 No contact. Don't answer his calls. Don't read his emails. Don't see him or speak to him unless you must for your job. Congratulate yourself for finally getting out of this, and enjoy your new relationship with your guy.
sadbuttrue Posted January 10, 2007 Posted January 10, 2007 sounds like you have already decided to do the right thing. MM has lost his chance to be with you. i am glad you found someone wonderful who will be there for you.
kymberann Posted January 10, 2007 Posted January 10, 2007 Good for yoy. Don't lose this chance to get what you really want for your life!
NoIDidn't Posted January 10, 2007 Posted January 10, 2007 You seem to already know the right thing to do. Just because he is showing you some emotion now makes it worthless. He is just being a typical territorial man. No point in being some MM's territory, KWIM? Good luck with the single guy.
whichwayisup Posted January 10, 2007 Posted January 10, 2007 Well, here it goes! For the past 2.5 years I have been seeing a MM at work. We fooled around at work and he has ONLY been to my house 4 times in all those years. He has always been very distant. I just met a single man who treats me like gold! I told my MM this and now he is saying how I dumped him and he is hounding me like crazy. He never seemed intereseted in me but now that I met someone, he's all over me. He has been married for 22 years and says it's just conveniant beeing married. How the heck am I supposed to move on with him bothering me now? Quit my job? I am 35 years old and want to be more than someone else's whore. If he really cared for me, he shouldv'e showed his emotions sooner. I will continue seeing my new friend and will have to turn down the MM! Any advice?? Help! Hate to say it, but you created more drama here than you needed. In all honesty, you didn't need to tell the MM in detail (meaning the single guy) why you were ending things. He's jealous and his ego is hurting which is why he's acting out, calling and wanting you. Don't be friends with him, tell him to leave you alone. Good luck with the single guy, stay happy!
frannie Posted January 11, 2007 Posted January 11, 2007 Well, here it goes! For the past 2.5 years I have been seeing a MM at work. We fooled around at work and he has ONLY been to my house 4 times in all those years. He has always been very distant. I just met a single man who treats me like gold! I told my MM this and now he is saying how I dumped him and he is hounding me like crazy. He never seemed intereseted in me but now that I met someone, he's all over me. He has been married for 22 years and says it's just conveniant beeing married. How the heck am I supposed to move on with him bothering me now? Quit my job? I am 35 years old and want to be more than someone else's whore. If he really cared for me, he shouldv'e showed his emotions sooner. I will continue seeing my new friend and will have to turn down the MM! Any advice?? Help! Well you did dump him for a new guy after 2.5 years. You considered yourself a 'whore' (nice...) and presumably consider him as dispensable. Well he might be cheating on his wife, might have not shown you much attention before, but his ego will still be bruised as he is a human being. Letting him down a little easier might have been an idea. Having said that he needs to let you go and stop 'bothering' you. Have you told him straight out that you want to end the affair, and that you'd appreciate if he leaves you alone now? Because it sounds to me like you're still wondering about his feelings: "if he really cared for me" Are you sure it's the new man you want, or are you uncertain yourself? What kind of 'bothering' is MM doing?
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