lilmems81 Posted January 10, 2007 Posted January 10, 2007 hey everyone i recently posted this. i juss wanted to give an update and ask for some advise, i so do appreciate it. to make it brief i met this girl online 2 months ago. after 2 weeks we met in person, since then its been really fun being with her. we have gone out several times now to be exact 5 times and we have gotten to know each other more. we get into really long conversations which totally run smooth. we both have gotten the chance to know each other really good. im not the type of guy who can get really romantic but twice i suprised her. for example one time i brought her lunch to her work which she really liked. she is really shy but tells me that she feels so comfortable around me. when we hang out we always have fun and she says that im a really sweet guy. we talk almost daily thru emails and we call each other often and talk for hours on the phone. i really like this girl and im ready to step it up a notch. i want to get serious with this girl but in the back of my mind is that i dont want to go fast on her. i dont want to get that "juss friends" issue cuz i been there before after doing so many nice things to a girl. with her im taking it slow and somewhat giving her hints that i want more than friends. her b-day is next month and i dont know if i should wait cuz i feel ready to express how i feel and i want to know how she feels for me. would it be a right thing for instance to take her out for a walk on the beach at nite and express to her how i ask her wut she thinks. she tells me that all of this has happene really fast which she says its good tho. then the other day she said to me "im really glad that i met u, u are a good friend. i took that in a negative way. wut do u guys think? late this afternoon i sent her an email and for the first time i said to her that i was thinkin of her.
gfto Posted January 10, 2007 Posted January 10, 2007 for example one time i brought her lunch to her work *** we talk almost daily thru emails and we call each other often and talk for hours on the phone. These are the kinds of things that will land you in the friends zone. You're being excessively "nice," which will turn her off. Relax. Instead of telling her how you feel, just sit back and let her initiate that discussion and tell you how SHE feels about you.
Guest Posted January 10, 2007 Posted January 10, 2007 These are the kinds of things that will land you in the friends zone. You're being excessively "nice," which will turn her off. . I agree with the above. I think you are trying to hard, instead, you should just lets things happen naturally. If you keep taking it slow like you are, you are going to fall for her and she is going to get us to you being her "friend", that she's not going to want to take it to the next level to chance loosing what she has with you. So my advise is to take it to the next step. I think going for a walk would be nice, this way you can really talk, but you need to find out where you stand in with her before you get hurt. Lots of luck. I do hope she does like you more then a friend.
Arianna72 Posted January 10, 2007 Posted January 10, 2007 Just talk to her, let her know you think of her as more than a friend and see how she responds. I do not think doing nice things like bringing someone lunch puts you in the friendzone at all. Matter of fact I love it when guys do things like this to let me know they are thinking of me.
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