paris38 Posted January 10, 2007 Posted January 10, 2007 I am 38 years old and on the dating scene again. I am using that photo of me just taken a week ago on a dating website. Is this picture attractive and going to attract quality guys? Or does it like my sister says, makes me look too thin and pasty pale. I agree, the flash made my face look pale and washed out my haircolor (it looks more natural and better in real life), but overall it's a pretty good pic making me look attractive. I consider myself attractive and in real life people guess my age in the early 30s. not 38....but my sis says the photo is aging. Guys, be brutally honest. Is that a good picture of me or should I post a new one? Thanks!
SuziwithaQ Posted January 10, 2007 Posted January 10, 2007 OK, I'm not a guy but from one 38 y/o to another, you look great! Do you have a basic photo program? You can get rid of the red eye and darken your skin a bit with that. Sometimes they have "auto-correct". I think you should post it. Hope you don't mind a girls opinion.
Author paris38 Posted January 10, 2007 Author Posted January 10, 2007 Anyone is welcome to give their opinion.
burning 4 revenge Posted January 10, 2007 Posted January 10, 2007 You look hot to me, but I'm not a quality guy. I'd guess you to be 32.
Art_Critic Posted January 10, 2007 Posted January 10, 2007 I think it is fine as long as you have other pics in your profile.. You are not smiling a real smile.. I am always attracted to a woman's profile that she looks happy in the pics.. you look a bit sad.. or the smile under your lips looks a small bit forced.. But hey... the pic only gets them to the profile..you do the rest with email You can tell by the pic you are good looking by the way.. By the way.. I was being brutally honest like you asked of us..
Porn_Guy Posted January 10, 2007 Posted January 10, 2007 Guys, be brutally honest. Is that a good picture of me or should I post a new one? Thanks! well u look sorta anorexic and ya gotta do somethin about the hair...
Green Posted January 10, 2007 Posted January 10, 2007 I'm not your target audience but I am a man who looks at alot of pictures. I say you look fine in the picture but you may want to find one where your smiling a little more, or make some kind of an im happy facial expresion. but that small critisism aside its a nice picture and u look good in it.
Art_Critic Posted January 10, 2007 Posted January 10, 2007 well u look sorta anorexic and ya gotta do somethin about the hair... You are not going to get her in the sack with those comments Mr Porn...
Author paris38 Posted January 10, 2007 Author Posted January 10, 2007 looks like you are in agreement with my sister. I am growning out my hair from a short cut so it's kind of in an awkward stage right now. Plus the flash does make it look bleached out or something...but I appreciate the comments....glad you were honest. Oh I have lost 22 pounds since August (the breakup) since I started going to the gym to get my mind off the Ex. Almost worth getting dumped over to lose those extra pounds, lol. But I am not at an unhealthy weight, I am 5'7 and 134 pounds as of this morning, not planning on losing more. I think it's something with the camera angle or something making me look like a bobble head.
Author paris38 Posted January 10, 2007 Author Posted January 10, 2007 A guy from match.com actually contacted me that I needed to go to New York and get away from the midwestern hair style, lol. You are not going to get her in the sack with those comments Mr Porn...
Porn_Guy Posted January 10, 2007 Posted January 10, 2007 You are not going to get her in the sack with those comments Mr Porn... really not interested in that but thanx anyways...
Walk Posted January 10, 2007 Posted January 10, 2007 Whats your skin care secret?? I like the photo, but agree with Art. You need a real smile in your photo. You kind of look like you've got this underlying sadness to you. Which could be intrepreted wrong. Other than that... You look great as far as I'm concerned. I hope I look that good when I'm 38.. and if you'd be so kind as to share the skin care method you use....??
Author paris38 Posted January 10, 2007 Author Posted January 10, 2007 use philosophy micropeel pads a couple times a week, it really brightens my skin. Also use their Purity cleanser. It's important to use SPF 15 or higher moisturizer if going outside for any amount of time, I have used Olay and recently splurged on Lancome Bienfait with SPF.....so that's really it right now. In the photo I am wearing Becca Luminous Skin Color foundation in Nude...that may be it, too. Thanks for the input.
pricillia Posted January 10, 2007 Posted January 10, 2007 Paris you look great, it is hard when you try to grow out your hair... but the trick is hair styling products, you will do just fine...
burning 4 revenge Posted January 10, 2007 Posted January 10, 2007 A guy from match.com actually contacted me that I needed to go to New York and get away from the midwestern hair style, lol.You're very attractive and your hair is fine. I buzzed mine and it took a while to grow back out, but anyone with any sense of perception takes those things into account and isn't unreasonably demanding. And don't worry about porn guy's comments, he's into guys...
Curmudgeon Posted January 10, 2007 Posted January 10, 2007 You have beautiful eyes, lovely skin and the hair will take care of itself in time. I think your expression is pleasant and I like the shape of your mouth. You also have relatively high cheekbones and a strong jawline. Put it all together and you're quite lovely. What's not to like? Of course, I'm an old fart so my opinion likely isn't relevant to those who would be young enough to attract you as well.
jerbear Posted January 10, 2007 Posted January 10, 2007 A guy from match.com actually contacted me that I needed to go to New York and get away from the midwestern hair style, lol. There is still room on this coast! Looking at just the picture, hopefully more, plus a matching profile. I would have contacted you. Granted I'm partial to that hair color.
Art_Critic Posted January 10, 2007 Posted January 10, 2007 And don't worry about porn guy's comments, he's into guys... ....
underpants Posted January 10, 2007 Posted January 10, 2007 Honestly....okay you asked. Your features are pretty. However the pose seems a little cold, forced and borderline unsure of one self. Thus asking stangers opinion. A pic on a profile is really just a lure, as is the title of your ad. Your true personality comes through with time. Don't take it too seriously, those sites are a release to have fun, feel desired, and if you win the lottery meet someone of substance and have a real life relationship. Tread lightly. Try one with you laughing. Have a friend tickle you or show you a picture of something hilarious before the shot. Think of something that made you laugh until you teared up. Of course you are pretty, but candid shots that show some personality are the best. IMHO. They make you want to click just to see 'what is so funny?' This reminds me that I have got to get my driver's liscense pic renewed. If you want to see a bad picture....well, perhaps I should take my own advice. Good luck to you. You still got game girl.
Art_Critic Posted January 10, 2007 Posted January 10, 2007 Have a friend tickle you or show you a picture of something hilarious before the shot. Think of something that made you laugh until you teared up. Any time I have had a tough time smiling while having a picture taken I chew gum.. The action of chewing gums makes it easier for me to bring a smile to my lips when I don't feel like smiling.. It also changes my mood somewhat for some reason...
Pyro Posted January 10, 2007 Posted January 10, 2007 You're pretty, but like others have said, the smile needs to change. You don't look comfortable in the picture. Try it again, more relaxed though.
JamesM Posted January 10, 2007 Posted January 10, 2007 I have to agree with some...a smile and a mischievous look in the eyes will make you look enticing and fun to be with. Your hair isn't bad in my opinion. You have pretty eyes. And I can tell that if you smiled, you would look even better. To me as a 43 yr old guy (but married ), I would have to say that I would look twice at you, but be a little hesitant simply because I cannot tell what your personality is like. I can gurantee that if you had a smile and your eyes showed a look of "I am having fun" I would put you right near the top. Remember, you are already competing with many other pics of other women. You want this picture to show your personality and why men should want to spend time with you. Overall, you look very attractive. I think it would be very good if you could let your personality show in your eyes.
Pink Amulet Posted January 10, 2007 Posted January 10, 2007 What everyone else said! You are very attractive. Post a smiling pic up so we may see!
Mezzi Posted January 10, 2007 Posted January 10, 2007 Hmm well, I dont see a pic in your profile but best of luck to you on the dating scene
Storyrider Posted January 10, 2007 Posted January 10, 2007 I'm a woman. I agree with the others that you look pretty and elegant. Your bone structure is great. And you look younger than 38. I also agree with the comments about smiling more. You mentioned a "bobblehead effect". I have seen this before, and my theory is that your posture is tilted forward so that your head is slightly closer to the camera than your body, throwing off the perspective. I would experiment with posture in the next set of pictures.
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