Anastasia0309 Posted January 10, 2007 Posted January 10, 2007 Would you ever take them back if they had slept with someone else during the time you were broken up? If it happened more than 2 months after you broke up. Lets say it happened before any talk of a possible second chance.... So they had no idea whatsoever that you wanted them back eventually.
paris38 Posted January 10, 2007 Posted January 10, 2007 You can't really hold that against him. Yes, it may bother you, but you had been broken up for two months. I would let it go, except maybe agree that both of you get retested for STDs again? That might be the only thing.
Author Anastasia0309 Posted January 10, 2007 Author Posted January 10, 2007 Do you think it would be the same answer for guys? Since they haven't responded?
Poboy Posted January 10, 2007 Posted January 10, 2007 shouldnt make a difference ... for me , its a yes .
CaliGuy Posted January 10, 2007 Posted January 10, 2007 Meh, I would be very cautious about taking them back. The risk of a STD would be enough for me to say probably not.
Speedo Posted January 10, 2007 Posted January 10, 2007 Sorry to be the stick in the mud, but as for me...I would say no. This one is really how you feel about it, not other people's opinions. Some people don't care, theyre just happy to be back. Others (like me) can't see past that. For the most part, I don't care what they did prior to us dating, but anything afterwards makes me resent them.
Author Anastasia0309 Posted January 11, 2007 Author Posted January 11, 2007 Sorry to be the stick in the mud, but as for me...I would say no. This one is really how you feel about it, not other people's opinions. Some people don't care, theyre just happy to be back. Others (like me) can't see past that. For the most part, I don't care what they did prior to us dating, but anything afterwards makes me resent them. Even if you didn't tell them there was a future with you? Think about it..... They are depressed and missing you not knowing what your thinking, if your moving on, nothing. 2 months is a long time (8 weeks) of not knowing whats going on. So, you expect them to just wait around for you? I think.... if you told them that you just need a little time... we'll be together again type thing then I wouldn't take them back.However, if you just left them with I don't want to be in a relationship right now.... I wouldn't hold it against them. It would for sure hurt like hell but if you left them like that you knew that was a possibility. Right?
Speedo Posted January 11, 2007 Posted January 11, 2007 Even if you didn't tell them there was a future with you? Think about it..... They are depressed and missing you not knowing what your thinking, if your moving on, nothing. 2 months is a long time (8 weeks) of not knowing whats going on. So, you expect them to just wait around for you? I think.... if you told them that you just need a little time... we'll be together again type thing then I wouldn't take them back.However, if you just left them with I don't want to be in a relationship right now.... I wouldn't hold it against them. It would for sure hurt like hell but if you left them like that you knew that was a possibility. Right? I apologize if I didn't read everything you were trying to say. In this case, I would agree. Infact, I'm kind of in that boat right now. If you were the one to break it off, and that break off was completely your idea, and not a situation where your parnter didn't give you any alternative but to break up, then I would "accept" it. In other words, I'd take them back if things were fixed, and I want them back. But it would take time for me to not think about that. Is it a fair way to think? Nope, but unfortunetly some of us guys are double standard that way.
stanchain Posted January 11, 2007 Posted January 11, 2007 Well i am a guy and not a stick in the mud... And to be honest with you... I dont think so. I mean me and my ex broke up like 2 months ago.. .and She has been seeing somebody else. Well I couldnt see taking her back. Not at all really. I love her and miss her and all that good stuff. But if she felt the same there is no way she would or could have slept with somebody else. Maybe that is just me... but you dont tell somebody you love them and could see marrying them... break up and then a month or a few weeks later be having sex with somebody else. It has been two months and I have not been able to touch anybody. I have gone on dates.. but havent been able to do anything else. So to answer your question. NO
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